Hey! I was just wondering if your fiances go to all of your appointments with you? I'm starting to go look at photographers now and it's so hard to coordinate my schedule with my fiances and I don't want to make a big decision like a photographer alone, He does enjoy going, so that's not a problem, so what did all of you people do with all appts (dj/photo/video)?...
my fi and i go together. our schedules mesh well, so its not hard for us to do it. i like going with him bc one of us usually thinks of q's the other does not and such. i think its important that we both like someone before we decide to give them a lot of our money. but i can see how some brides do it on their own bc their fi is too busy or doesn't care either way on vendors. its personal preference i guess. ~lacey
FH RELUCTANTLY went to videographer/photographer, dj, limo appointments. He didn't go to meet with florists until I chose one. Then he went to review the contract and see the sample CP. The rest is up to me!!!
FH has been to all appts (just initial bookings so far).
FH went to the ones he cared about. He went to about 8 reception halls and then started whining that he already liked a place. I went to about forty more with my mom. Photographer, videographer, DJ, & Limos he was involved everything else NO!!! He made it very clear he wanted no part of the florist.
we did everything together. the only thing i did w/out him was scout halls w/ my mom. then when we narrowed down our choices, fh went back w/ me.
He has come to all of the appointments with me...although I had to reschedule several because of his everchanging softball schedule! UGH! That is almost over thank goodness!! It helps a lot though going together to discuss everything & compare.
My FH has a job and is in law school, so he comes to what he can come to. I just really did all of the leg work and went to appointments with my mom or FMIL if he couldn't be there.
FH & I went to every appt together except for the band because he works till 9 at night so to take off that many nights to see bands was alot...he came to the ones on his night off & if there was really one I wnated him to see then he took off but it was me & my parents who went & we narrowed it down for him. He ended up finding a band on his day off without me & then I went to see them with my parents & him. Other then that we made every decision together & went to all appointments. I would try & make it so that you both go because photo is an important part & you both want to like them.
FH went everywhere except flowers. My mother and I are in charge of the aesthetics of the wedding. If I let him decorate, Id end up with a football theme and my wedding may look more like a Bar Mitzvah.
He came with me to every appointment and sometimes asked more questions than I did!!! He was very involved and we did not book a single vendor unless we had both agreed upon it. But we both work regular work schedules (8:30 - 5:30) so getting our time together is not a problem.
FH is very involved in the wedding planning, he went to every appointment with me.
He went to all appointments except 2 florist appots that he just couldnt make it to LI with me for, I didnt book though and I wouldnt book without him, even though I know flowers are the least on his mind, i still want to keep him involved
he did come to all of the apt with me that was back in Feb & March now he doesnt do anything-- well He could not come for the dresses ofcourse But I just had a floral apt that he did not come with me but thats ok He wanted to make sure we both loved the hall and the photographer
He's gone to everything except the florist. He has no idea about flowers and doesn't care. I told him the price and what we were getting for it and he agreed, so I booked. It's really what works for you as a couple. If your schedules aren't compatable to make appointments maybe go to some yourself and bring him back for a second opinion when you have your top 2 choices.
