Are we really not allowed to....

Jsquared279 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:48 AM

Are we really not allowed to....

Talk to FH the day of the wedding??? Obviously FH and I will be separated, he in the hotel with his GMs and his family and me at my Mom's house with my BMs and my family! I was planning on calling him/texting him the morning of the wedding to say good morning and I love him and that I cannot wait to be his wife. But my FH, my sister (MOH) and my friend (BM) says that I am not allowed to talk to him before the wedding at all?!??! Is that true?!?!? That kind of makes me sad lol! Let me know your thoughts and or what your impression of the tradition is? Thanks!

Cacarina Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:49 AM

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I thought you were just not supposed to see him, but I didn't know talking was off limits. I will probably want to talk to FH the morning of just to calm my nerves and tell him how excited I am!!!

jonsgirl04 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:54 AM

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I never heeard of that. I did not see my DH the day of. But we did talk on the phone twice. We both wanted to say a few words to eachother. It was very sweet and he actually help keep me calm. I would say yes to talking.

VickiR510 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:56 AM

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Im totally doing that. Its only bad luck to see him. I dont really get that one either. Its no longer relevant for our time. But im def. texting my beautiful FH!

TheLadyJ Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:57 AM

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Not talk to him??? That is silly. I think some people like to uphold traditions and not see eachother, but not talking seems kind of over the top. If anything, I'd want to call and make sure he was still on schedule and not distracted by the TV or something.

I think it is perfectly fine for you to call him. I think I would be a wreck if I didn't get to talk to him all day.

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:58 AM

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I've never heard of that before, the only thing is that you shouldnt see each other. I know so many brides that spoke to their FHs the morning of to make sure everything was going smoothly.

I plan on talking to FH the morning of.

PROBM Posted: Sep 18, 2008 09:58 AM

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I am sure fh and I will talk bc we are big planners and prob will have questions regarding transportation etc the day of ... but with everything going on that morning most of us will prob not talk to ur fh.. the day flies by and its a blur you havee no idea where your cell phone even is... the rule is there are no rules your day do what you want

ace730 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:02 AM

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I could care less about tradition. I am def going to talk to FH before the wedding. Otherwise I will be a basketcase until I see him!

Jsquared279 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:11 AM

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Oh I am sooo relieved you all said this! I am note booking this and showing FH to show him that no such tradition exists! YAY! I would be a basket case also if I was unable to talk to him the morning of!

meara Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:13 AM

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Yeah I would go crazy too. We will def talk!

nicopico13 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:14 AM

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I've only heard of not seeing him the morning of, I think talking is fine. I will be calling/texting, I want to make sure he wakes up on time!!

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:15 AM

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Ive never heard that before

As for myself, I think we're gonna be staying at the apt the night before so... we'll be talking and seeing one another bright & early anyways... No need to spend $$ on a hotel when its not necessary, but thats just us

Espo22 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:24 AM

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its weird but i heard some ppl say the same thing. BUt its just about not seeing him.

I spoke to DH about 4x the morning of the wedding. He called asking me what time videographer was coming, then he asked me other questions regarding the wedding. I had to call him to let him know the bouts were being delivered to the church so they would be there waiting for all the guys and DOC will help them with it. Mostly stuff like that.

Future Mrs Roo Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:28 AM

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thats not true, you just cant see him. I plan on speaking to FH to make sure he is on schedule

Gracie821 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:28 AM

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I totally think it's ok to talk, I think it makes it more fun, and gives you the opportunity talk before all the crazyness goes on, I say go for it!

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:31 AM

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I've never heard of this. But what about all the girls that are taking pics before the ceremony with FH.

Is that bad luck? I think I'm doing this.

DrWho Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:39 AM

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DH and I stayed home the night before the wedding, because we were too cheap to get rooms. We took pics beforehand. We're still married.

vicky1125 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 10:42 AM

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i'm not that traditional. i'm def going to call him or text him before we see each other to take pics. i won't be able to resist.

SB7308 Posted: Sep 18, 2008 11:35 AM

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Its true for the very religious Jews. My Rabbi asked that we not speak so we didnt. It wasnt that bad, I was very busy with everything and he was too.