Are you and FH living together before you get married? Poll

We are in the process of moving now. We hope to be moved in by July--a month before the wedding.

We wanted to live together, but ended up not doing it. Both sets of parents are totally okay with all of it though.

Wedding planning and moving--maybe I can take on something else because I'm not busy enough.

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Posted by Strings22

We have been living together for the last 3 years... My great uncle use to say 'You want to live with the person first in order to get to know them; their habits, to see if you can get along together everyday and etc.. This way you fully know the person and you can make a better judgement'

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My mom said there are two things you shoudl do with a man before getting married. Living together is one of them. Living with someones habits, paying bills, sharing space are all things 'I' need to know are compatible before hand. I have lived with someone before and we were not compatible, because I was not his mommy!!!

I'll let you guess what the other thing was

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Posted by diva7531

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Posted by Strings22

We have been living together for the last 3 years... My great uncle use to say 'You want to live with the person first in order to get to know them; their habits, to see if you can get along together everyday and etc.. This way you fully know the person and you can make a better judgement'

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My mom said there are two things you shoudl do with a man before getting married. Living together is one of them. Living with someones habits, paying bills, sharing space are all things 'I' need to know are compatible before hand. I have lived with someone before and we were not compatible, because I was not his mommy!!!

I'll let you guess what the other thing was

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Lol!! Great advice from your Mom! I had the same experience with someone I lived with before!! I knew after 1 week that we would not be together for very long! We didn't even make it thru our 1 year lease!!

We both got our first apartment together wich was really nice, it was teh first time we ever lived on our own, he was 22 i was 23.
We lived apartment life for 2 years and then bought a house.

This august we will be in the house for a year.
We are currently under construction redoing the whole thing.

By the wedding we will be living together for 4 years

We lived together for about 4 months before we got married.
While I understand where your all coming from with not doing it, and yes it does seem like not a lot has changed since, but at the same time DH needed to get out of his parents house and have time to get used to being on his own for a while too.

IMHO I think it's up to you.

i have lived with FH for the past 3 years, and i have to say, i am glad we are. i am such a moody, picky, termperamental person, if i didn't get to know him by living with him beforehand i might have killed him after the wedding! i am actually looking forward to being married to him without having to learn all his 'quirks!'

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Posted by JayLi2007

I have lived with FH for like 6 years! Our parents are totally fine with it. And as Kara said - we are just as excited about our wedding as people who don't live together.

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Same here - we've lived together for about 5 1/2 yrs and are parents never gave us an ounce of trouble about it.

I think everyone is excited about marraige whether you live together or not - it's bound to be an adventure!

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Posted by diva7531

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Posted by Strings22

We have been living together for the last 3 years... My great uncle use to say 'You want to live with the person first in order to get to know them; their habits, to see if you can get along together everyday and etc.. This way you fully know the person and you can make a better judgement'

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My mom said there are two things you shoudl do with a man before getting married. Living together is one of them. Living with someones habits, paying bills, sharing space are all things 'I' need to know are compatible before hand. I have lived with someone before and we were not compatible, because I was not his mommy!!!

I'll let you guess what the other thing was

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LOL!!!!!!!!!!

It was important to me that we live together first because I needed to know if I could share a home with him. People have certain habits and ways of living so I needed to be sure that our ways were compatible.

Yup! We've been living together since November, sold his co-op and just bought a house in Merrick. We're working on it now and moving in next week. CAN'T WAIT!!!!

We live together. I wouldn't have wanted to if we had another choice. I wanted to move in the day after we got married...

I agree with saving a surprise....BUT it wasn't a good surprise. It was REALLY hard the 1st half a year.

So: would I do it over again? YUP. I think most of the MAJOR fighting is done.

We bought our house together in March '06 - so we have been living together for awhile :) I think it's a good idea to learn the habits and living personality of your partner before getting married. We are both very excited about getting married and committing our lives to each other, as my Aunt told me last year -there's a big difference between being 'mortgaged' and being 'married'

I am actually very suprised by the number of people who are waiting until the wedding - I find that very interesting :) IT could also be that FH and I just older - I'm 33 and he's 32, both a little old to be living with Mom and Dad

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Posted by LaurenSchatz

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Posted by diva7531

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Posted by Strings22

We have been living together for the last 3 years... My great uncle use to say 'You want to live with the person first in order to get to know them; their habits, to see if you can get along together everyday and etc.. This way you fully know the person and you can make a better judgement'

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My mom said there are two things you shoudl do with a man before getting married. Living together is one of them. Living with someones habits, paying bills, sharing space are all things 'I' need to know are compatible before hand. I have lived with someone before and we were not compatible, because I was not his mommy!!!

I'll let you guess what the other thing was

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LOL!!!!!!!!!!

It was important to me that we live together first because I needed to know if I could share a home with him. People have certain habits and ways of living so I needed to be sure that our ways were compatible.

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same here. love what your mom told you ryan!

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Posted by WilliesBride

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Posted by JessMxPx88

...just wondering.

Me, I still live at home with my parents. My parents are very old fashioned and religious and believe a man and women should not live together until they are married...blah blah blah and would basically disown me if I lived with FH before we're married.

Plus, I think it makes marriage more exciting. I think it wouldn't be as exciting if you already lived with FH because then nothing much is really changing once your married.

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I could've written this myself!!!
We've been together for more than 7 years....what's another 5 months?

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Right there with you .........actually I just gave up my apartment so I have 5 months with Mom and Dad again..........

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I'm with all of you. By the time we get married we will have been together for almost 8 years and my mom would have completely disowned me if I would've moved in with him before marriage. I still live at home with mom. But besides my mom wanting it that way I've also realized that I also want it that way. He tried the whole living together thing on me but I always told him you want to live with me you marry me and I wouldn't have it any other way. Then he didn't understand then but now he does.

Nope-

We are waiting until after the wedding. My parents would also disown me if we lived together. As my mother puts it, she wouldn't be able to show her face anywhere. They're old fashioned.

FH was upset about it at first but now he's really excited. We get to experience everything new after the wedding and while I know it will be some hard times I love the idea of sleeping next to him for the first time on our wedding night.

my parents are old-school
they think that means we are 'living in sin'
so when people ask when am i moving into the apartment my dad answers for me 'Nov. 24 and not a day earlier'

Big Negativo! Jess my parents are the same way! I think exactly the same way you do though, not living together til marriage gives us something to look forward to!

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Posted by JessMxPx88

Plus, I think it makes marriage more exciting. I think it wouldn't be as exciting if you already lived with FH because then nothing much is really changing once your married.

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I live with FH and, while I love living with him, I totally agree with you. I definitely wonder if my wedding will feel anti-climatic afterwards. We shall see!