are you /did you ask you FMIL to ...........

My FMIL and I have a wonderful relationship, so yes, she'll be coming with me to most of my fittings. My mom lives in Canada, so she is missing out on a lot of wedding things, so having my FMIL there really helps

But with the things that are going on with your FMIL right now.....I don't know if I would invite her or not. That is a tough one. What does your mom think about you asking her?

Honestly, I will not be bringing my FMIL to any dress fittings. I did not even tell her when I was looking for dresses. I only took my mom, and my 2 MOH's.

If your FMIL has nothing nice to say, than I say Leave her home!

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Posted by billandme

My FMIL and I have a wonderful relationship, so yes, she'll be coming with me to most of my fittings. My mom lives in Canada, so she is missing out on a lot of wedding things, so having my FMIL there really helps

But with the things that are going on with your FMIL right now.....I don't know if I would invite her or not. That is a tough one. What does your mom think about you asking her?

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my FH said something to her about my dress being in so thats how she found out. my mother said HELL NO she cant come lol like i said before i want to TRY to keep the peace!

HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my FMIL and mom came with me to my first fitting...but they have no progblems with one another.

honestly, i would say NO to letting FMIL go with you to the first fitting. let her go to the 2nd or final, that way the dress is more fitted to you and looks proper. cause trust me, when you first go the dress won't fit right and she REALLY won't have anything nice to say.

i'm an evil liar, and i'm quite good at it. i would do this:

tell her ok, you can come. this is the date. then schedule the fitting BEFORE that date, and say the shop called you suddenly and said the seamstress will be out or something on your date, and that you only had a few min. to make the decision to go, and your mom was availabe. then after the 1st fitting, say 'oh wow, last nite, i had my fitting, and this is what happened' and repeat story above.

bwuahahahahahaha!

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Posted by MJDoc12

my FMIL and mom came with me to my first fitting...but they have no progblems with one another.

honestly, i would say NO to letting FMIL go with you to the first fitting. let her go to the 2nd or final, that way the dress is more fitted to you and looks proper. cause trust me, when you first go the dress won't fit right and she REALLY won't have anything nice to say.

i'm an evil liar, and i'm quite good at it. i would do this:

tell her ok, you can come. this is the date. then schedule the fitting BEFORE that date, and say the shop called you suddenly and said the seamstress will be out or something on your date, and that you only had a few min. to make the decision to go, and your mom was availabe. then after the 1st fitting, say 'oh wow, last nite, i had my fitting, and this is what happened' and repeat story above.

bwuahahahahahaha!

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Hehehe yeah im a bit of a liar to lol really only to her lol im so bad thats a good idea haha

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Posted by babygirl71777

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Posted by billandme

My FMIL and I have a wonderful relationship, so yes, she'll be coming with me to most of my fittings. My mom lives in Canada, so she is missing out on a lot of wedding things, so having my FMIL there really helps

But with the things that are going on with your FMIL right now.....I don't know if I would invite her or not. That is a tough one. What does your mom think about you asking her?

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my FH said something to her about my dress being in so thats how she found out. my mother said HELL NO she cant come lol like i said before i want to TRY to keep the peace!

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Hmmmmmmm, well I TOTALLY understand how you want to keep peace with your FMIL, but I think that maybe with this particular appointment (dress fittings), you should not have her there.

This is supposed to be a great experience for you and since it seems difficult for her to find anything nice to say to you or about your dress for that matter, then I think leaving her out would be the best idea..........

Sorry.....I wish I could be more help to you! I hope it all works out!!!

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Posted by MJDoc12

my FMIL and mom came with me to my first fitting...but they have no progblems with one another.

honestly, i would say NO to letting FMIL go with you to the first fitting. let her go to the 2nd or final, that way the dress is more fitted to you and looks proper. cause trust me, when you first go the dress won't fit right and she REALLY won't have anything nice to say.

i'm an evil liar, and i'm quite good at it. i would do this:

tell her ok, you can come. this is the date. then schedule the fitting BEFORE that date, and say the shop called you suddenly and said the seamstress will be out or something on your date, and that you only had a few min. to make the decision to go, and your mom was availabe. then after the 1st fitting, say 'oh wow, last nite, i had my fitting, and this is what happened' and repeat story above.

bwuahahahahahaha!

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good one!

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Posted by heatherandrichie

Have FH prep her by saying, you know the old cliche 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'.

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oh boy how i wish i could tell her that to her face!

My FMIL went dress shopping with me one day that my mother couldn't, and I ended up finding my dress. She was so great and helpful, pulling dresses off the rack for me. Actually the one I chose i almost didn't try on b/c I didn't think it looked good on the hanger, and it ended up being the one!
If you think your FMIL will be less than helpful, then leave her home. Why should you be stressed at such a special time??

Honestly I would say no. My FMIL wanted to take me dress shopping, forget about fittings. I love her to death but she is not seeing the dress in person until the wedding day. I know how you feel about keeping the peace, FH has a habit of stirring things up between FMIL and me and my mom.
Since she didn't come shopping with you to pick the dress, then there's no reason for her to go. Maybe your mom should say something like, 'It's the job of the MOB to go...'

HTH

This is what I would say because it happened to me.

'I love my dress and I am so excited about it, there was a different one that I liked a lot and I showed it to my friend and she made a negative comment about it and that was all that I could think of...it just stuck with me so I decided to change my mind...this time when I showed them a pic of this dress I told them 'If you have any negative comments, please keep them to yourselves because last time I took it to heart and changed my decision'. '


How is that?

JUst do not mention anything to her and if she asks again just tell her that you want it to be a suprise. You do not want her to see you till the wedding. I do not know Tara, maybe just tell FH to talk to her. My FMIL doesnt like me and if she wanted to come I would not take her, no Fin way. Good Luck Tara