Are you inviting everyone with guests?????

I have 20 cousins just on my dads side and they range in age from 5-28 do i invite them all with guests. only one of them is married so far and only one of my other cousins is in a serious relationship??????
i could really use the space for people that i actually know to be there.
is this rude i am getting conflicting opinions on this one. Help
thanks

Re: Are you inviting everyone with guests?????

I would only put ' & guest' if they are in a serious relationship w/ someone.

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I have a lot of cousins also so I know what that's like. I invited all cousins over the age of 18 with a guest and all the rest by themselves.

Hope this helps...good luck!!!

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Posted by jfabbride

I have a lot of cousins also so I know what that's like. I invited all cousins over the age of 18 with a guest and all the rest by themselves.

Hope this helps...good luck!!!

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I think thats a good idea as well. thats what we did but I dont have as many cousins as you so it was a bit easier!

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Posted by jfabbride

I have a lot of cousins also so I know what that's like. I invited all cousins over the age of 18 with a guest and all the rest by themselves.

Hope this helps...good luck!!!

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most of them are going to be 18 and over i think about 15 out of the 18 will over that age around my wedding. Yikes!!!!!!!!!!

Re: Are you inviting everyone with guests?????

We invited everyone age 20 and up (or so) with a guest. You don't have to, but we thought it was the right thing to do. I can't keep tabs on who is in a serious enough relationship that they'd want to bring a guest, or those who just feel more comfortable attending a party like that with a guest, so we left it up to them.

I was invited to a couple of weddings without a guest when I was 20 or 21, and couldn't bring my then-new-boyfriend (now-husband), and it left a bad taste in my mouth.

ETA: We didn't have any guests between age 16 and 20, but if we did I'd probably add a guest for those 18 and up, as suggested by the other ladies.

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If the people had a significant other I put their name on the invitation. If they did not have anyone significant, I invited everyone '& guests.' Only one person that I did '& guest' actually brought a guest, everyone else came alone. I was glad to make the gesture.

But, I have been to many weddings where they don't invite everyone with a guest, do what you want and what you can afford.

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I am just doing anybody with a significant other. I too have alot of cousins and this was the only way to cut down.

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i'm in the same position, a lot of cousins in their early 20's but none with serious boy/girl friends. Unless they are dating someone seriously when I send out the invites their being invited alone.

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the thing is my father just had his wedding and invited everyone of my cousins with a guest and they brought people that they barley new. i thought it was a little disrespectful. i asked one of my cousins 'who is that?' and he was like oh you know i had to bring someone??????
so they will just bring any person from off the street.
and one of my cousins will bring a his flavor of the week.
ugh!
thanks for some tips ladies

Re: Are you inviting everyone with guests?????

I'm not putting the words '& guest.' If there is a name for me to put on the invitation (i.e. reasonably long term relationship) then they're invited.

Re: Are you inviting everyone with guests?????

We invited those guests over the age of 18 with guests.

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We invited guests only for those who were engaged or living together. the only exception we made to this is for the 2 or 3 people who would know only me or FH, and might be uncomfortable not knowing any other person on the guest list

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A lot of people that I invited with guests didn't even bring a guest.

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we are only going to invite with guests those people with significant others, and those who won't really know anyone at the wedding.

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16 years + got '& Guest'

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yes, we are enviting with guests.
I really want people to have a good time, and if they bring someone they know, that increases the chances.

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Anyone that was invited over 18-20 Got an and guest on it.

It is not up to me to determine who is in a serious relationship or not.

And this is kinda a sore point with me b/c FH got invited to a friends wedding in FL and none of the NY friends got invited with a guest execpt person.

Well FH didnt go due to $$ reason and when I met the people later on they said oh sorry you werent invited to the wedding we were only inviting people in serious relationships. I guess 4 yrs isnt serious enough for them b/c it was serious enough for us we got engaged the weekend of their wedding.

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I think anyone over 18 (especially if they have a serious or semi serious bf/gf) should be invited with a guest. Ive had the experience of not being invited to my fiancees cousins wedding while we were dating a year and it is still a touchy subject lol

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serious relationship, live with them or married, or we know the person will get an invite... i dont need (20 in your case) ppl running around my wedding that i dont know