Are you kidding me???

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Posted by BarbieGrl10

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Posted by egem523

JMO I think that is kind of rude. It is the thought that counts. Maybe it is something she had in mind to give at your bridal shower. Aren't your shower gifts consider a wedding gift too. Maybe she also intends to give $$$ on your wedding day also. But this is JMO

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ITA... and this is the BM that you felt wasn't really excited for you.... today she thought of a gift for you and you pretty much shot her down. So if she was working on changing her behavior this might have pushed it back to square one.
I think you should cut her a little slack. No matter how small or 'cheesy' the gift is you should always be gracious.
JMO

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i agree 100%. maybe that gift she picked out meant something to her. it's the thought that counts. JMO

Honestly... if I was in her shoes I think I would have died if you said that to me. Sorry. I feel really bad for her right now. I know weddings are expensive and the gifts really help but that is not what you base who you invite on. You are having a wedding to celebrate your love for your husband not so you get gifts from your guests. They give gifts out of the kindness of there hearts regardless if they are small and meaningful or money to help you and FH begin your lives. JMO... sorry

LOL!!!!

Thats more of a xmas gift

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Posted by ChrissyV729

Honestly... if I was in her shoes I think I would have died if you said that to me. Sorry. I feel really bad for her right now. I know weddings are expensive and the gifts really help but that is not what you base who you invite on. You are having a wedding to celebrate your love for your husband not so you get gifts from your guests. They give gifts out of the kindness of there hearts regardless if they are small and meaningful or money to help you and FH begin your lives. JMO... sorry

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2010 bride here:

i have to agree. maybe since your wedding is in december she thought of it as a nice gift for you. after your wedding & honeymoon the first holiday you will celebrate married is christmas.

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Posted by ChrissyV729

Honestly... if I was in her shoes I think I would have died if you said that to me. Sorry. I feel really bad for her right now. I know weddings are expensive and the gifts really help but that is not what you base who you invite on. You are having a wedding to celebrate your love for your husband not so you get gifts from your guests. They give gifts out of the kindness of there hearts regardless if they are small and meaningful or money to help you and FH begin your lives. JMO... sorry

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I totally agree that was not nice that you said that to her exp after the whole fiasco with you asking her to be more involved. And ChrissyV729 is right you dont base who you invite on the gift they give!!!

I agree with the ladies here- it's the thought that counts, and she was being more thoughtful than most.

That being said, I probably would have said the EXACT same thing you did before I had a chance to think about it, so no worries. We all talk before we think sometimes. You may want to say something to her.

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Posted by Suzanner

I agree with the ladies here- it's the thought that counts, and she was being more thoughtful than most.

That being said, I probably would have said the EXACT same thing you did before I had a chance to think about it, so no worries. We all talk before we think sometimes. You may want to say something to her.

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ditto

I'm sorry if that came off rude or offensive to anyone.

I guess since you don't know the girl, it can be construed as acceptable behavior, the thought that counts, etc.

But knowing her, it is a completely different situation. More money than god is involved, so it's certainly not hard economic times. It's more that it's just a continuation of things like 2 foot tall light up penguins for no apparent reason. She just doesn't think about things practically in that respect. She purposely doesn't buy off registries, she's the kind that would rather get you something that she thinks you want than what you want.

I don't know, maybe I'm a biznatch, and if it comes off that way, sorry. I really took a chance by including her in the bridal party. She was always going to be my guest, but I was really on the fence about her being a bridesmaid. Now I'm afraid that I made a mistake. Not that I'm not going to profit off of her, but that she's going to take this approach to the other costs associated with the BP and make it rough on my other girls.

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Posted by ttdiff11

lol wow

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i agree!!! hahaha

I hear exaclty what you are saying sounds like this girl is just a pain in the hiney when it comes to that stuff ... we all have friends like that , vent away i am sure you love her which s why you asked her in the first place.. just try to laugh her off and you crack me up

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Posted by PROBM

I hear exaclty what you are saying sounds like this girl is just a pain in the hiney when it comes to that stuff ... we all have friends like that , vent away i am sure you love her which s why you asked her in the first place.. just try to laugh her off and you crack me up

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oh we DEF all have friends like that.... its like the black sheep of the group... heck I had FH's friends gf tell me straight to my face 'i hate all engaged girls, all they do is talk about their weddings; i never wanna be in a bp ever again' LoL Of course after that, I couldnt even consider putting her in the bp

hmm , I dno I like getting people different, thoughtful gifts and your wedding is in december so I would probably like that sort of thing.

That said, I have an aunt who gives the worst gifts (one year, I got a piggy bank shaped like an outhouse and you pushed the button and it said gross stuff...... not even joking!) but I always smile and say thank you anyway.. lol

i don't think it's that bad of a gift to be honest... I love christmas and I would be reminded of our wedding every year decorating the tree....maybe I'm missing something here?

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by PROBM

I hear exaclty what you are saying sounds like this girl is just a pain in the hiney when it comes to that stuff ... we all have friends like that , vent away i am sure you love her which s why you asked her in the first place.. just try to laugh her off and you crack me up

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oh we DEF all have friends like that.... its like the black sheep of the group... heck I had FH's friends gf tell me straight to my face 'i hate all engaged girls, all they do is talk about their weddings; i never wanna be in a bp ever again' LoL Of course after that, I couldnt even consider putting her in the bp

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I hate this too. I understand some people dont care about weddings but why tell engaged or married girls this lol. Sometimes you keep your opinions to yourself. I see it done in other situations too, like so many say 'ugh i hate when i am invited to a friends e-party' i understand you might not like the idea of it but in the end it is still your friend and shouldn't tell them that you hate attending these. HOnestly, if someone had said that to me then i wouldnt even want them there. If they see my party as such a big incovenience for them and cant put their feelings aside and just be happy for their friend then stay home and be selfish. Guess what, I have had to attend alot of parties that I might not particular like but at the same time when it was for a friend i was just real happy for my friend and just wanted to celebrate with them and thats it.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

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Posted by PROBM

I hear exaclty what you are saying sounds like this girl is just a pain in the hiney when it comes to that stuff ... we all have friends like that , vent away i am sure you love her which s why you asked her in the first place.. just try to laugh her off and you crack me up

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oh we DEF all have friends like that.... its like the black sheep of the group... heck I had FH's friends gf tell me straight to my face 'i hate all engaged girls, all they do is talk about their weddings; i never wanna be in a bp ever again' LoL Of course after that, I couldnt even consider putting her in the bp

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I hate this too. I understand some people dont care about weddings but why tell engaged or married girls this lol. Sometimes you keep your opinions to yourself. I see it done in other situations too, like so many say 'ugh i hate when i am invited to a friends e-party' i understand you might not like the idea of it but in the end it is still your friend and shouldn't tell them that you hate attending these. HOnestly, if someone had said that to me then i wouldnt even want them there. If they see my party as such a big incovenience for them and cant put their feelings aside and just be happy for their friend then stay home and be selfish. Guess what, I have had to attend alot of parties that I might not particular like but at the same time when it was for a friend i was just real happy for my friend and just wanted to celebrate with them and thats it.

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I couldnt have said it any better... my friend who i dont see as often as this girl asked me why i didnt put that girl in the bp instead... why? so she can cause grief and battle me on fittings, gifts, etc etc ... I think not LOL I would have been a fool to aks her to be in it, which is why i made my considerations carefully.... I did have a reservation about 1 girl but i spoke to her about it before i asked her to be a part of it... But bottom line, theres always someone in our life that tends to act in a way that we dont care for, but is shes a real friend, you'll work through it all