Re: asked to be in wedding party question.
Posted by FutureMrs.M
Posted by Iluvpoodles
This is a good question. I wasn't even aware that you had to ask someone's wife/husband to be in the party as well. I have my MOH who is a close friend since childhood and my fiancee picked his close friend since childhood. I was only intending to ask 2 other people as BM's. Both me and FH have no other family to ask to be in the BP. He's already having one cousin and his other friend who he was going to ask can't even attend the wedding now. Me and FH and his best man and his wife always go out together I get along great with his wife. Me and his wife aren't close where we go out together just me and her but we do get along great. They got married this past March and I was not asked to be in the BP as we had just met that summer and their BP consisted of all family and one friend so I never assumed I would be asked. I was considering asking her to be in the BP and I have time to since I'm not asking the rest of the BP until next month/August. I didn't know though that when a couple is married that it was rude not to include the spouse.
again these are just peoples opinions. I dont feel it is rude not to include a persons spouse. but that is just me and others are allowed to have separate opinions. it is what you feel
also just to note i go on vacation with the same people every year and hang out with them. but they arent going to be in my bp. If you are upset then talk to your friend but just be prepared for her to be upset back at you. BTW does your fh feel this strongly about this cuz then maybe he should be the one doing the talking to your friends fh and not you
I think you have be confused with Spring the original poster. My FH don't care who I ask lol. I had always considered asking her but am still on the fence. I was just saying that I did not know if it was customary to ask the person's spouse though I do think it is a nice gesture especially if you get along good with them or are close.
