ATTENTION ATTENTION ALL BRIDES

It is very true it was not the post itself but the tone used in writting. These boards are for everyone to use, So we can all do what ever we want, but just use discression. We do not stop the newlyweds from posting over here just like we should be able to post what ever we want over their. Alot of questions that girls think are important never get answered over here so as a last resort they post them over their. And 9 out of 10 that I see posted over there are answered within minutes. So if you dont want to help and answer the questions when posted over there ingore them and move on. No one has control over the boards except Ron and Liz.

Bridget

shamma - I think your post backfired.
Most of the people on this site seem pretty open to others requests but you have to ask in the right way.
If you are rude (writing in caps) and obnoxious in the way you word your email - others are not going to honor your request.
Also - I'm not sure you should speak for everyone on the newleywed board. Perhaps there is someone else at LIWeddings who has more authority to dictate what posts go where.

There are lots of non-wedding related posts on this board and lots of brides use headings such as 'Look!' to get us to come in and they are silly things such as 'I'm no longer a newbie.' This REALLY frustrates me - but I don't own the board. If I don't like it - I'll stick to TheKnot (and maybe you should too)

(theknot doesn't sell our info the way LIWeddings does but the LI section is weak!)

all i can say is:

WOW

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WHATEVER

okay, i suggested on the NW thread that this topic should be posted here. sorry if people thought that was mean, redundant or whatever else... my reason for that suggestion was b/c i doubted that many brides actually were reading that thread. mostly NWs were responding, so i thought that if you wanted to get your point across to the brides to be, you might as well post it on the BHB board, too.

now, that being said....get back to wedding planning! unless you password protect that board so that only newlyweds can post on it, i am sure new (and old) brides-to-be will continue to post wedding questions.

I am an absentee NW who has been too busy to check out the boards until today, but I wanted to let the brides know what my wishes are, since I also would not want anyone speaking for me.

Shamma is entitled to her opinion and to ignore all bridal questions on the NW board, but I am confused as to whose wishes should be respected? I personally have ignored questions like 'What (insert vendor) company did you use?' for quite some time. But if someone wants to ask 'Who used Laurie Studios?', I would prefer to see that on the NW board where I am more likely to see it. I really don't ever go beyond the first page of any board anymore.

The boards have changed. When I began my planning, the newlyweds always posted on BHB. Now I think they rarely do and that robs the brides of the benefit of those who have had actual experience with vendors. I know that some of the people who helped me the most have stated that they don't come here that often any more.

I also posted a bunch of questions on the NW side in the last weeks before my wedding, because those were the only people who could help me around here. I am very appreciative to all of those who responded.

I hope that all members of this community continue to post where they want and when they want. If you get ignored by some people, so be it. There will always be others who have something more helpful to say than 'do a search' or

I just want to say that I will post where ever I think I will get the most answers to my questions. It may be on the brides board it may be on the newlyweds board...who knows...it may be on the parenting board...

I'm going to jump on the soapbox that Shamma has jumped off of for a moment.

If you read this post carefully girls, and turn off the sensitivity monitors for a second, you will realize that Shamma was:

A: Not speaking for EVERYONE. Just quite a few that agreet with her.
B: She was not telling anyone to NOT POST on the NW board, she was asking to keep it on topic.
C: She was asking to NOT DOUBLE POST. Because it makes for a difficult read of the boards, it's not necessary, and most if not all of the newlyweds post on BHB anyway to help whenever they can (I know I do).
D: She isn't acting like she owns the board or telling people there are rules. If you read the description of the NW board, that tells you what it's for (which is exactly what Shamma is asking for).
E: She was not trying to turn this into a big broo-ha as it has already...and she stated that.

If want to post, do it...no one is stopping you...but don't jump on her or slam her or accuse her of doing/being something she's not. I think we all know that Shamma spends a GOOD deal of her time on here trying to make peace! Can we appreciate that for a moment please? Agree to disagree here, and move on everyone, before this gets personal needlessly.

And the CAPS in my post weren't 'yelling' they were to get a point across. That's all. lol.




ETA: Thanks JLM for the Knot plug, but most of the brides on this site are here because the nastiness on The Knot chased them away. BTW, I read your post overthere, and not once has anyone called me, solicited.....not one call or piece of mail...and I have entered contests. So there goes your theory about LIW selling our info. And, no, I don't work for LIW's.

Have fun on the knot!

*Off the soapbox and back to work*

When I was a bride I never posted over on the Newlywed board. I was not a newlywed. Any questions I had regarding my wedding I posted on the BHB board and the Vendor if appropriate. I considered the Newlywed board a board for women (or the occasional man) to discuss newly married topics, discuss household issues and to help eachother adjust to the newness of being a couple.

The newlyweds that still wish to contribute to the planning of a wedding will answer the posts on the BHB board. I do not think that posting on the NW board will get you more responses because the girls that are willing to answer most likely check out the other boards as well. All it is doing is clogging up that board.

I totally agree with Shamma and that is why the tabs have been created up on the top. To make it easier to post on topics you are interested in without having them lost on page 3 do to posts that aren't relavent to that area.

Thats just my opinion of course : ) and as you can see with the amount of responses from newlyweds on this thread that yes we do still come over to 'this' side.

I thought this was post that I really needed to read. I saw 'ATTENTION ATTENTION ALL BRIDES' and I thought, hey, I better read that, this could be important to my wedding planning.

INSTEAD, I read petty pleas.
Until you own the site, I don't believe you have a right to post that kind of thing. It's a public site and supposed to be helpful. I think this post was in bad form.

And, yes, I did read all the defense posts, but I still think that the post was unnecessary.

WHO REALLY CARES!!!

I think it's funny that someone's request in a post is followed up by 20 million posts discussing what was said and who said what and in what tone. I am sure Shamma or any of the NWs did not mean to offend anyone- although at first it may seem offensive.

I am addicted to LIWeddings now and have gotten so many wonderful ideas for my wedding that I know I wouldn't have been able to come up with alone. And I've gotten feedback on vendors too.

There are many things that bother me about posts but like was suggested previously- try to ignore the ones that annoy you. I usually don't go onto Newlyweds site unless I'm bored and have nothing else to do bc I find what they talk about is not applicable to me yet in planning my wedding. Just my opinion- OF COURSE!

I think we should just use this site for what it was designed-to help each other. If you don't want to help, then don't open that thread. This is just my opinion, and it's not meant to insult. But, let's remember that this site is for all of us.

jagrawal - did you climb into my brain? that's exactly what i ws thinking and exactly what i do. i go on the NW board when I'm waiting for something new to pop up on the BHB board! Not that i find the NW board boring - please don't find offense in what i'm writing... - but i'm not up to picking a thank you picture so i don't need to post on that board....although i DO love looking at all of the pictures over there!

I think we need peace on this topic. How about a group hug???

Shamma, the last I saw, the owners of this site were a husband & wife team, not you hun

I am always willing to help on BHB, or you can FM me

aug9bride took the words right out of my mouth.

Crisco, you said what I tried to say, but said it much better and simpler, thank you. I can be overblown.

Crisco,

You are absolutely right. The owners have set up seperate boards to post in but the owners are not complaining nor are the telling people that they have posted a topic in an inappropriate place. So who are we to tell people that they have done so?