ATTENTION ATTENTION ALL BRIDES

I hope DIANE doesnt mind if I quote her here....
I dont mind when a bride to be post here to ask about vendors. How else to know but ask us experts who used them


I do not mind questions from brides either and do not feel the NWLY bd is BOMBARDED w/ questions. I think this post makes newlyweds seem unhelpful. If any bride has a question, FM Me anytime or post it
as you can see some of us do not mind questions, especially since there are MORE and MORE new brides everyday, how could these new people possibly know they are double posting and furthermore, sometimes a bride may need an answer ASAP b/c she has a vendor meeting, etc...... how can they get an answer if no bride or newlywed saw it on this board.

I do not like how it says OUR WISHES in the original post b/c not all newlyweds feel that way-- it should say SOME OF OUR WISHES

Thanks Tammy
Any bride can FM me too. I will come to the BHB to help out any way I can

Posting this on two boards and bumping it is not going to make new brides feel welcome, Just MO

Well said Tammy.

I think this may be my pre-wedding nerves, but I do not understand the point of posting this. I am almost married (10 days away ) and so, there are some planning questions posted (ie, where should I shop for my dress) that I have answered a million times- so I do not post on the threads anymore. If a thread is not relevant to you, or you choose not to contribute, than dont post on it. I dont see how we can tell new brides to be where they can and cant ask for advise, I think thats rude (JMO). We all got a lot of help here, and should in turn help others, its only fair.

Just my .02 cents. Now I must go back to running around like a crazy person working out who my FILs will actually be willing to sit with

I dont mind the questions either if they are of a specific nature. Please dont make a post that says, ' here is a list of 30 photographers. Please give me the good and bad on them'

Also, I think that threads like this one only makes us Newlyweds look like we are unwilling to help the brides.

Who are we to tell someone what they can post and where? The wedding police?? Should someone tell me that I can't post on the Parenting board because I am not pregnant or have a child?? Sometimes a double post is necessary.

Maybe, it should just be dropped and if there are posts on the Newlywed board that we do not like, then we should just ignore them.

I don't mind the posts at all girls - keep 'em coming. I am here to help as much as I can, as some newlyweds did for me, when I was planning.
Freedom is good.

Well said Tammy...I agree with you. I do not mind the questions either or care which board they are posted on.

I ususally don't post on the Newleywed board, on my BHB questions, but I find that more and more, the questions I post on here don't get answered like they once did.

Also what do I know about my photograher, I haven't even used them yet, so I really can't recommed anyone, but the newlyweds can, and alot of them seem to not post on BHB anymore.

I am a newlywed and I am willing to help anyone, regardless of what board I am on.

since this post is technically 'not related to wedding' directly - but a discussion of posting habits, perhaps it should be reposted on the NWR board as well!!
kidding!!

Wow, I was a little surprised by this post. Last time I checked this site was called LI WEDDINGS.com which means that people come here for wedding related topics.

I was so excited when I found this site because not only can I talk to Brides to Be but newlyweds who have already been there! I didn't realize that the newlyweds (or some of them) did not want us posting on 'their' boards. And although, they say over and over that 'it's not that we don't want you there', the fact that it was posted on BOTH boards and then bumped for the 'morning' brides, I think the message is pretty clear.

I have to say though I don't think this is the majority of the newlyweds. I have met some wonderful newlyweds that are excited and happy to offer advice you know who you are

And just to respond to the 'reposting' message. IMO, to do a 'search' and find old outdated posts from brides over a year a go is not why I come to this site. I come here to give and get current advise, not to find out about some photographer that lost someones proofs two years ago or a reception site that may have new ownership today.

Just my two cents! Take it or leave it

Christine

I am a future bride and this came across really mean and makes it seem like no one wants to help us. This site is labeled LIWeddings without us brides this board would be kind of dead. I am glad that the past brides stick around and help out, like you girls said that is they way we know who to use and who to stay away from. Granted the newlywed board is for newly weds, but we can not control who posts where this is a free board and no one rules the board, Except for well Jennbaby being Queen of the Boards. Remember you past brides were once in the shoes of us Bridzellias and no one stopped you from posting anywhere you felt it necessary. Jus my .02. Like the other girls said if you dont like the post just move on and dont read it, these boards are public forums.

Bridget

Bridget that is exactly why I replied to this
I do not mind and some others do mind. I didnt want to be lumped into that and I know other girls do not care as you can see, why this has to be bumped and on two boards is beyond my understanding.

Also, I realize lately when I do a search myself not all things are coming up? I do not know why but I put in a word that I know I put in an original post and zero results are returned

Tammy - I am constantly doing searches too, and getting no results, when I know there was a post about it.

I responded to the thread on the NW board also.

I am more then HAPPY to help any planning bride with any question I can answer. In fact, I have 5 times more posts after my wedding then before as evidence of this.

But I agree the boards are all split up for reasons -to help keep similar topics together. I never felt that I couldn't post on a board because it doesn't pertain to me personally (i.e. parenting, BHB, May).

I think the size of the community and how fast the boards move is why questions go unanswered. Somthing posted this morning at 8.30 could be on page 3 or 4 by 10:00. Speaking for myself, I don't go that far back to look for posts to respond to. I don't think there's a solution for that other then being able to view more then 20 posts on a page.

Teachertime, I agree 10000000000% about the search feature! I think it's useless!

Tammy no one speaks for you. I spoke for the ladies that agree with me on the repetitive bridal questions, that are already posted on BHB. No one said they were not willing to answer any bride's question, all we asked was that they be asked on any of the other 4 boards dedicated to brides. But you being the sensitive person that you are am sure would see it in such a negative light. It was a request to respect the wishes of those who felt like I did.

If you read clearly which I know you don't do all the time you would clearly see that all NW are willing to help anyway we can.

To all those who think we are trying to say the NW board belongs to us, it has nothing to do with that, that is so way off. But since we are all entitled to our opinions this is mine.

Yes I bumped it so that all others can see it. If you or anyone else see it as rude, then you all are reading way more in to this than it necessary.

Have a wonderful day all

Everyone is welcomed to the NW board to participate in any topic, just leave the limo questions or the everyday bridal questions here.

Thanks

Shamma, if you read the entire thread
I am not the only one who felt that the Caps and this post being posted two times was rude
guess we are all too 'sensitive'

YOu making too big a deal out of this

I don't post often on these boards, I'm kind of a 'lurker' and I have never even visited the NW boards, nevermind post on them....but I have to say I was offended by the tone of the original post and some comments from NW who were brides to be not so long ago. How quickly we forget the stress of planning a wedding!
JMO!