Baby Shower Etiquette Question re: registries

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:06 PM

Baby Shower Etiquette Question re: registries

I just got an invitation that said

Name, Place, Time Blah, blah, blah

Registered at Babies R Us and Buy Buy Baby
Gift Cards Would Be Greatly Appreciated

Um, isn't that last line really obnoxious? Maybe it isn't and I'm overreacting? What do you think?

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:15 PM

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uh, if you want a gift card, why register????

not only is it a big ettiquete boo-boo, but kinda silly

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:17 PM

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Some people are just clueless

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:21 PM

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Posted by janwinterbridejoy

Some people are just clueless

funny that you tell this to 'cluelessbride'

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:23 PM

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i didnt even notice that

Happybride2005 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:27 PM

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That is strange. I wonder why they did that.

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:35 PM

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Posted by HearzBellz

Posted by janwinterbridejoy

Some people are just clueless

funny that you tell this to 'cluelessbride'

Hahahaha!

I'll take this opportunity to explain my name:

I am marying a man whose family has the traditional big Long Island weddings and I knew nothing about how to do it! I was the first of my friends to be engaged, the first in my family (of my generation) nad where I work everyone is older. I knew nothing about weddings! Esp the Long Island kind.

But realy what is UP with asking for gift cards? Why not just ask for money and get it over with???

I thin I am particularly sour with this family because when this same couple got married they enclosed registry cards with their engagement party invitation. Yuck!

Happybride2005 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 04:42 PM

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Posted by cluelessbride

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I thin I am particularly sour with this family because when this same couple got married they enclosed registry cards with their engagement party invitation. Yuck!

The only time I know when registry cards are in the invitation is for the bridal shower.

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 05:41 PM

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I just got one of those. My FH said too bad he will send them a lullaby package from work. How rude to put 'gift cards appreciated' i mean come on, i would love to put 'cash only' on my invites but I would never do it!!!

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 06:20 PM

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very rude...

Rainmama Posted: Jul 03, 2004 07:24 PM

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I don't think it's a big deal. At my baby shower, I got so many repeat items even though I was registered. And I tell ya, the last thing I wanted to do at 8 months pregnant was to haul butt to BRU to return these items. I would have been thrilled to get gift cards to use for the more useful things such as diapers, burp cloths, instead of all the cute things that are only used a couple of times
I didn't know there was etiquette for baby shower invites, but what do I know, I'm not from NY.

Dani00518 Posted: Jul 03, 2004 08:51 PM

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Maybe they just mean that if your not going to buy from the registry could you atleast just give a gift card...that way you don't have people buying stuff else where that you don't want. I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with that.

marymoon Posted: Jul 04, 2004 03:23 AM

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EWWWWWWWW...I don't like that. I mean I guess registries are obnoxious enough (and most ofus are guilty of that) but that git card line rubs me the wrong way....so weird.

ETA: I guess it makes sense in terms of being able to buy diapers, etc...but I see it this way..if peple want to get you a gift off a registry, they'll seek out your registry (putting in a card makes this easier) if they want to go off the registtrym theyw ill despite th4e card, and if they want to give cash, they'll give cash...people will od what they want, and I don't think that note will really compel people to do otherwise...i think registries are a bit obnoxious to begin with, it's bad enough, and then to just add that....I don't know..it' s a delicate situation...

MrsK-in-June05 Posted: Jul 04, 2004 09:11 AM

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Posted by Rainmama

I didn't know there was etiquette for baby shower invites, but what do I know, I'm not from NY.

I am not from NY either but ettiquette is ettiquette, it doesn't matter if it is a wedding, baby shower or birthday party. To put 'gift cards' on the invtie is just rude. I never thought about it from the point of someone 8 months pregnant either but still it is poor ettiquette.

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 04, 2004 11:40 AM

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Posted by cluelessbride

Posted by HearzBellz

Posted by janwinterbridejoy

Some people are just clueless

funny that you tell this to 'cluelessbride'

Hahahaha!

I'll take this opportunity to explain my name:

I am marying a man whose family has the traditional big Long Island weddings and I knew nothing about how to do it! I was the first of my friends to be engaged, the first in my family (of my generation) nad where I work everyone is older. I knew nothing about weddings! Esp the Long Island kind.

But realy what is UP with asking for gift cards? Why not just ask for money and get it over with???

I thin I am particularly sour with this family because when this same couple got married they enclosed registry cards with their engagement party invitation. Yuck!

That is sooo funny! I never knew about your name, but I always thought it was cute.....

Registry cards are OK for the bridal shower, I think, but not for the e-party.

Summer05 Posted: Jul 04, 2004 04:54 PM

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That is tacky

cluelessbride Posted: Jul 04, 2004 05:38 PM

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I thought about it some more, and weird as this sounds I think its like we all KNOW we have to bring a gift to a shower, but to come out and ask for what is basically cash feels like extortion (to exagerate a bit )

I mean, what if someone wanted to knit something for the baby (like those beautiful blankets or a sweater and hat - too cute!!!), or make a baby scrapbook, something that it not a lot of $$$ but they put their heart in to. Asking for gift cards makes it seem like that's what they are having the shower for: $$$.

Even if that's true, it's gross. I like showers b/c everyone gets excited and oooohs and aaahhhhhs over the cute baby stuff and gets to see the mom and pamper her for an afternoon.

Rainmama Posted: Jul 04, 2004 06:40 PM

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Posted by cluelessbride

Even if that's true, it's gross. I like showers b/c everyone gets excited and oooohs and aaahhhhhs over the cute baby stuff and gets to see the mom and pamper her for an afternoon.

Yes, this is very true! I didn't think about that aspect! I loved my shower even though I didn't get any gift cards!