Bachelor parties!

My Fh is going to one tonight...and I overheard him joking about getting a lap dance. I know he was kidding, but this whole thing bothers me. Does anyone else feel this way? I am not giving him a hard time about going, but I just dont like the idea of it.

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CHRISTY I THINK EVERY GIRL HAS THAT GUT FEELING OF DISGUST AT THE THOUGHT THEIR FI IS GOING TO A STRIP CLUB AND SOME CHIC (THAT JUST WANTS HIS MONEY) IS FLAUNTING HER STUFF.. I ALWAYS TELL MY FI TO SAVE HIS MONEY FOR ME I WILL GIVE HIM ALL THE LAP DANCES HE WANTS... TRY NOT TO LET IT UPSET YOU TOO MUCH, I THINK YOU SHOULD GO OUT WITH THE GIRLS HAVE SOME DRINKS AND GO DANCE THE NIGHT AWAY, THATS WHAT I USUALLY DO.

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I knew my FH went to a few strip clubs and it hadn't bothered me that much, until ...I found a picture of him w/5 strippers in his drawer while putting his laundry away. He knows I do his laundry so after I found it I asked him if was to take anymore pictures with strippers, not to let me find them. I was pissed at first, but then I realized if that was me, I'd be taking pictures too.

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God I only wish I was that cool!!! LOL, I am with the first post! I hate the whole thought of strippers/bachelor parties, etc... and THANK GOD my fiance is not one of those guys that goes to strip clubs, etc... his friends are all tame (married, etc) and the only time I would even have to think about stuff like that is a bachelor party... and he KNOWS how I feel... it's an awful feeling when you start to think about it.. and it pretty much SUX that half of this stuff even goes on... the way I see it, if they're not doing it on a regular basis then why the hell do they have to do it RIGHT BEFORE GETTING MARRIED!!!!! Makes no sense :)

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I agree with Blue. It just a harmless night out with the boys! I don't care if he goes to a strip joint! He's still coming home to me!

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I agree 100% w/ IrishTracy!!!!!

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Christy:

I feel the same way. My FH is having his BP this coming weekend and my stomach is in knots! I know he won't do anything, but it is just the thought of strippers. Also, he is not just having a 1 night BP, he is having a 3 day BP! I find this unescessary! I don't want to ruin his fun, but deep down I hate it. I haven't told him this. I know most of this weekend he will be golfing with the guys and thats ok with me.

Hang in there! Just remember that he loves you very much and you will get through it.

Kelly

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I told my dad if he goes with FH to bachelor party, to get him the hottest stripper and get him a great lap dance because its the last one he'll ever get!
just kidding.....
if my FH wants to go to a strip club anytime hes more than welcome. doesn't bother me a bit.
I used to bartend as a 2nd job in a topless bar ( i wasn't topless!), i made awesome money and the girls in there are just out for your FH's wallet, not him!

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wow you gurls are just amazing, I wish I could feel like that... probably because I've seen the worst in men with past ex's, etc... I read what you write and think THEY'RE CRAZY, but to each is own! :)

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I am not that strong when it comes to this subject. My FH knows it's a sore spot with me... and it's his fault. When we we dating he told me all about the bachelor parties he had attended. Anyway, I have stored that info in my memory bank and reminded him of what he told me goes on at the strip clubs he's been to... a little more than the typical lap dance... basically if you give some of these girls the right amount of $$$, anything goes... use your imagination here... anyway, my FH said he's not a fan of strip clubs anyway, it's not his thing, and he plans on playing golf in the morning, going fishing in the afternoon and then bar-hopping later on that night... My concern is whether or not the guys who he's spent $$$ on for their bach parties are going to reciprocate on his night... and he's been to quite a few bach parties...

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Hate the whole bachelor party thing, hate hate hate it and I totally agree with Mishy go out drink and party our AS* off that night.

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I dunno, maybe I'm not your typical guy, but i'm not into the whole stripper thing. I'm asking my best man to take everyone to dinner and a a comedy club or something.

A friend of mine at work just had his bachelor party on saturday and he was like me.... he didn't want any strippers, so he took about 20 guys out fishing.

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My FH just had his b-party last weekend - they all went out to play golf that afternoon, then went to a nice steakhouse in Great Neck that evening. Afterwards they went to a nearby bar.
No strippers there!

Now that I think about it, I can't remember the last time I heard of any of these guys getting strippers? Another had a booze cruise from Freeport, another went camping upstate - again, no strippers there! LOL

Edited to say that although FH didn't have strippers, I wouldn't have necessarily been mad if he did - I know he's gone to those clubs before, but it doesn't bother me. I don't really get the whole thing, but he's 'allowed' to go. I am completely confident that he wouldn't do anything. (and I have a right to be paranoid - my last boyfriend cheated on me just a few months after my dad died! )

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I have always had a hang up about strip clubs (female or male)...maybe because I had a lot of guys friends who have told me much worse than lap dance stories. And although I know that the girls/guys are only out for your $$$, the thought and concept botheres me. I just don't agree with them in general.

My fiance has always been one of those guys like PunkRockGroom that has said they are not his things. He has gone to the clubs on bachelor parties but luckily he is not going to them for his. He said it is partly due to my feelings and partly because it is not his thing. My thoughts is your bachelor/bachelorette paty should be a reflection of you. I don't think because of the label 'bachelor party' you should do things that you wouldn't normally do.

Right now my FI is at his bachelor party. He got a huge group of guys and went down the shore for a weekend. Last night I went out with a few of the guy's girlfriends and wives. From what I hear they are having silly guy fun...drinking, eating gross foods, boy humor (farting and burping), playing sports and wrestling. I am having mine in two weeks and we are getting togther for dinner and drinksand dancing - silly girl fun!

Just my opinions!

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I think I might be very lucky because fh refuses to go to any strip club type places, he says they make him extremly uncomfortable. I trust him on this because in the 6.5 years we have been together he has never been to one. He has even skipped BP's if that was what they were doing.

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Sorry, but I could never feel comfortable when it comes to bachelor parties where strippers are brought in to the house or hotel or a 'harmless' night out at a strip club. I have heard too many real stories about things that go on at these places .. and they are far from harmless. Of course, many would always like to believe 'oh, no, not my guy' .. but guys who I never would have thought would do such things did indeed cross way over the 'harmless' line at their bachelor parties ... I've heard the gory details. I honestly feel people (guys and girls, alike) aren't going to strippers to behave. But that's just me. I think there are too many other fun things to do that are respectful of a beloved.

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My FH said he doesnt want that kind of a bachelor party- he just wants to go out and play pool and darts and get drunk with his boys. But I am laughing because knowing my crazy friends, I am probably the one who will come home with pictures of 5 strippers after my bach party! LOL

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I agree with both sides on this issue actually...and it is a very individual situation. In the time I have known DH, he has been to a strip club maybe 3 times (this has dwindled now that most of his friend's are dating or engaged) they have been the high end strip clubs (where is you touch the girl...the body guard will beat the crap out of you)
I really truly trust my husband (as I did when he was my boyfriend) but was deep down a little relieved when he didn't have any strippers at his Bach Party

on the other hand one of his friends did cheat on his now FW with a stripper!

My old roommate used to be a cocktail waitress at Billy Deans and she said it was the 'private parties' that she would see or hear about 'things' just FYI

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My FH is planning on going to Atlantic City for 2 days with his crew. I'm not a big fan of the whole strip club thing either.