bachelor party

i used to have a problem w him going to strip clubs for bachelor parties but i've gotten over it. lap dances are ok...the only thing i have a problem with is i don't like private parties in the hotel room. that just gives me a bad feeling.

my ideal situation would be to have him go out to dinner, strip club...have me and my girls go out to dinner and a club...and then have us all meet up at like 1am totally shitfaced and have a great time all together for the rest of the night!!

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Posted by MikeandJess

It's funny you brought this up because i was talking to a girl in class tonight and told her that FH is going to a bachelor party in miami in May and she gave me this uh-oh look and I told her it's cool I completely trust him. FH can have all the fun he wants but at the end of the night I know he's coming home to me and I completely trust him. If he did want to get with a stripper he wouldn't have asked me to marry him

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Its funny bc alot of people react like that...When Fh went to vegas in February some people were like uh-oh are you mad, i was like i bought him that damn trip to go with his friends who cares lol....I mean listen its not like a guy is gonna be this guy who NEVER cheats then decide to cheat at his bachelor party and then after go back to never cheating...guess what he was always a cheater if he does something lol.

I do know people who did crazy **** at their bachelor parties, but ya know what, they always had cheated and still do

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

Just curious..but what are your feelings on lap dances at a bachelor party? ok or not ok? Im ok with it as long as there is absolutely no touching involved...also how do you feel about private parties (in a hotel room, etc)...im totally against it..

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im ok with lap dances. Im also ok with the private party. I know how he is and i trust him...hes already been tested and passed with flying colors lol

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ahahahha thats great...yeah I dont mind the lap dances and all that fun stuff...I hate the girl shows that come to the house/hotel!!!!!

see im not okay with it...and hes not okay with me going to places for me.

see i was the moh for my friend and he saw video from that nite...and he told me i cant do anything like that since of course its all about us that nite...


so we decided both ways its nothing like that ...just fun

bars and gettin drunk is ok..but no strippers.

there is no need

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Posted by TM2008

i'm ok with it as long as there is NO TOUCHING haha - which i totally trust him and know that he would never do that.... he is planning on going to vegas for his BP - which i have never been there, but i hear its not all filled with naked girls walking the streets the way i imagine lol

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halloween gets bad...Before FH and i were together he went to vegas for halloween , and i saw the pics...the girls in the clubs were walking around topless, completely see through shirts, basically almost naked...And his friends went crazy lol...but it was so great to see bc fh was single and whenever his friends would jump to take pics with a bunch of girls, he didnt

i trust FH with all my heart.

i just dont like the idea of naked girls all around..just like he doesnt like all the guys around me

its not a trust issue...its all about...you have never done it before...why do it now?...so ur friends can go to a strip club?? F that

he wants to go to a football game...and then head to AC for a night of gambling and drinkin...which is fine by me.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TM2008

i'm ok with it as long as there is NO TOUCHING haha - which i totally trust him and know that he would never do that.... he is planning on going to vegas for his BP - which i have never been there, but i hear its not all filled with naked girls walking the streets the way i imagine lol

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halloween gets bad...Before FH and i were together he went to vegas for halloween , and i saw the pics...the girls in the clubs were walking around topless, completely see through shirts, basically almost naked...And his friends went crazy lol...but it was so great to see bc fh was single and whenever his friends would jump to take pics with a bunch of girls, he didnt

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yah my single guy friends that go have told me some crazy stuff...

soo...no Bach in vegas...for either. on his end too(he doesnt want me goin out there with out him).

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Posted by Jesses Girl

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TM2008

i'm ok with it as long as there is NO TOUCHING haha - which i totally trust him and know that he would never do that.... he is planning on going to vegas for his BP - which i have never been there, but i hear its not all filled with naked girls walking the streets the way i imagine lol

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halloween gets bad...Before FH and i were together he went to vegas for halloween , and i saw the pics...the girls in the clubs were walking around topless, completely see through shirts, basically almost naked...And his friends went crazy lol...but it was so great to see bc fh was single and whenever his friends would jump to take pics with a bunch of girls, he didnt

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yah my single guy friends that go have told me some crazy stuff...

soo...no Bach in vegas...for either. on his end too(he doesnt want me goin out there with out him).

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he can def go, i actually want him to go to vegas, i think i would feel bad if he didnt do something like that for his bachelor party lol...I even bought him a trip to vegas to go with his friends this past february bc he wasnt going to go since we have all this wedding stuff to pay for,i felt horrible since i knew how bad he wanted to go. I trust him everyday of our lives so i wont stop trusting him that one weekend, he is still the same guy i trust now...if he wants to do something he would do it now, and a guy doesnt need a bachelor party just to cheat.

Plus i wanna go to vegas, and i would get upset if he tried to tell me i cant go

Fh doesn't want any part in strippers and such. I think I don't mind as long as it doesn't get out of hand but then again, I dont have anything to worry about at the moment.

personally...

this is the last post im going to say on this topic.

I dont think it is a bad thing if we dont want our men to go to strip clubs, go to places like vegas without us, get lap dances and all of that for their bachelor party

my FH trusts me with all his heart too and he wouldnt want me to go to certain places and do certain things for MY bach party.

im not saying we wont do things together as a trip but for this bach party why do something that will upset both of us.

we arent holding them back.

i am just sayin that its okay that you and ur FH dont want you to do things...we shouldnt feel bad about sayin to them something that would upset us...if it does indeed upset us

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Posted by Jesses Girl

personally...

this is the last post im going to say on this topic.

I dont think it is a bad thing if we dont want our men to go to strip clubs, go to places like vegas without us, get lap dances and all of that for their bachelor party

my FH trusts me with all his heart too and he wouldnt want me to go to certain places and do certain things for MY bach party.

im not saying we wont do things together as a trip but for this bach party why do something that will upset both of us.

we arent holding them back.

i am just sayin that its okay that you and ur FH dont want you to do things...we shouldnt feel bad about sayin to them something that would upset us...if it does indeed upset us

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oh no i know, everyone is entitled to feel the way they do...if someone is not comfortable with something they shouldn't do it. You should do what is right for you...i even wrote earlier in the thread that everybody has different views on this subject and the most important thing is that your FH respects your feelings...i said for ME PERSONALLY i wouldnt want him to tell me what to do, i never said someone shouldn't tell their Fh if something is bothering them.

I think you misunderstood...the way you are stating how you feel about this, thats all i did, i dont think anyone else should feel the same way i do. When i state my opinions, it is just that my opinion...I dont expect everyone to agree and its ok for people to have a difference of opinion.

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Posted by Jesses Girl

i am just sayin that its okay that you and ur FH dont want you to do things...we shouldnt feel bad about sayin to them something that would upset us...if it does indeed upset us

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that is a great point diane!!! we should be able to tell each other what we like and don't like!

honestly, FH HATES the idea of male strippers and finds them disgusting - he hates when girls get raunchy in public and the whole 'sex and the city' vibe. . . he is very old fashioned and he gets grossed out by stuff like that. Luckily, I hate stuff like that too so I don't want ANY of that for my bach party OR shower. . .

As for him though - we started dating so young. he never got to go away with his friends - he didnt go to college so he never had that party experience. SO, when his BM said he was taking him to Vegas I said 'as long as it is WAY before the wedding' As of now, i dont think they can afford the trip but i dont really care what he does - i trust him and he has gone to bach parties and i dont want him to be the one who 'wasn't allowed' - he NEVER goes out without me . . . he is just laid back and likes to relax so if i am not dragging him out somewhere he is just chilling - so i wouldnt want to hold him back. PLUS, my brother and cousins would be there so i feel that he can't go too crazy!

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Posted by Jesses Girl

personally...

this is the last post im going to say on this topic.

I dont think it is a bad thing if we dont want our men to go to strip clubs, go to places like vegas without us, get lap dances and all of that for their bachelor party

my FH trusts me with all his heart too and he wouldnt want me to go to certain places and do certain things for MY bach party.

im not saying we wont do things together as a trip but for this bach party why do something that will upset both of us.

we arent holding them back.

i am just sayin that its okay that you and ur FH dont want you to do things...we shouldnt feel bad about sayin to them something that would upset us...if it does indeed upset us

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and of course its okay if someones fh doesnt want them to do things...OMG my fh is so jealous lol, i dont plan on doing anything bad and i think he knows that. Honestly i just wanna go away with my girls, go out dancing, partying, i dont like male strip clubs i dont even find those guys attractive lol...FH would go insane if i did anything or thought i would do anything bad...He has gotten alot better, before he would go crazy not fight with me or anything but just drive himself crazy if i went out without him.

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Posted by Jesses Girl


my FH trusts me with all his heart too and he wouldnt want me to go to certain places and do certain things for MY bach party.

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I totally see your point... It's like, 'Hey, you want to see a naked girl do a little dance, well, I'll get naked and dance... AND I'll have sex with you... FOR FREE!'... IMO, that's BETTER than a strip club!

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Posted by TM2008

i'm ok with it as long as there is NO TOUCHING haha - which i totally trust him and know that he would never do that.... he is planning on going to vegas for his BP - which i have never been there, but i hear its not all filled with naked girls walking the streets the way i imagine lol

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haha...they dont walk the streets Michelle....but they do private parties!! lol