Bachelor Party

stargazerlily Posted: Jun 04, 2009 12:32 PM

Bachelor Party

So FH left this morning for his bachelor party. He is in cancun till sunday. I hate the whole concept and I am struggling a little today. Anyone else feel uneasy about the bachelor party thing?

PS - before anyone called me irrational....i already know this and I sent FH off with a smile and told him to have the best time. But I can't change my feelings about the idea.

JillandJoe Posted: Jun 04, 2009 12:39 PM

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ur not alone. I trust FH, but I worry about the influence of others and alcohol

ChrissyV729 Posted: Jun 04, 2009 12:42 PM

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I TOTALLY feel you !!! Just hold on.. you'll get through it!

jussie82 Posted: Jun 04, 2009 12:43 PM

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I am not uneasy about the concept of a bachelor party but am uneasy about 1) strippers and or drunk college girls and 2) some of fhs friends and peer pressure.

So I definitely understand why you are anxious about cancun...but if you love and trust ur fh (which it sounds like you do) u know he will not listen to his friends or drunk easy H0s and will not do anything to break your trust

angel1219eyez Posted: Jun 04, 2009 12:43 PM

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your def not alone....i would not be a fan of my FH going to cancun by himself with his friends....its not that i dont trust him i dont trust his friends and even if his friends tried to do something stupid i know he wouldnt go along with it but its the fact i knowww for a fact they would do sum stupid stuff and i would get mad knowing that they didnt have respect for me and tried getting him to go 'crazy'

stinenandy2010 Posted: Jun 04, 2009 12:46 PM

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i think that all women feel a little uneasy about the whole thing...but with that said, you just need to remind yourself why you are marrying this man and you trust him and you know he would never do anything to ruin what you have.

megan_gallagher Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:07 PM

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Posted by JillandJoe

ur not alone. I trust FH, but I worry about the influence of others and alcohol

amen to that!!!

I don't want a Bparty and I don't want FH to have a Bparty-

sorry i don't have any words of advice- just try and stay in contact with him.. but don't be over baring.

beebs341 Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:08 PM

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I think I'll be fine with the whole idea. Just remember that sometimes its all in your head. Don't stress.

Scarpak Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:10 PM

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i agree with you. Im anxious about FHs bachelor party and hes not going anywhere NEAR out of NY for it.

Cacarina Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:34 PM

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What exactly are you uneasy about? What is making you worried? Has FH ever been somewhere with his friends without you? I am sure things are going to be fine...he is just enjoying his time with his friends, nothing more.

mariedsgn Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:40 PM

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I TOTALLY know how you feel!!

FutureMrsG Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:46 PM

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I am also uneasy about the entire BP thing. I know that I can trust my FH but I am more concerned about his over indulgence in alcohol...my FH does not drink a lot and when he is out with the boys he gets very carried away.
My FBIL has been planning FHs BP since we first got engaged. I know he is going to have one but I do not have to like it!!!!!!!

MrsCM Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:50 PM

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You're not irrational. I'm not sure what we are doing and Cancun is friggin far! Sorry, I'm probably not helping. I told FH that I was allowing myself one, single bridezilla moment and disallowing alcohol had by him at his bachelor party unless we went out Jack & Jill style. Not cause I don't trust him but because he has a weird blood sugar thing and twice has had WEIRD reactions when drinking and nearly had to be hospitalized and his dumb @$$ friends are going to be too drunk to realize something is wrong if something is in fact wrong and that is too much to put me through. I was having panic attacks about it five months early.

So if I can react like that, you can certainly be upset and worried and all of those things, but he'll be home before you know it!

MrsCM Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:53 PM

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Posted by megan_gallagher

Posted by JillandJoe

ur not alone. I trust FH, but I worry about the influence of others and alcohol

amen to that!!!

I don't want a Bparty and I don't want FH to have a Bparty-

sorry i don't have any words of advice- just try and stay in contact with him.. but don't be over baring.

I'm glad someone else doesn't want one! I don't want one and neither does FH. I actually did want one and FH hated the idea but he doesn't want to disappoint his brother and his best friend and I think that's a ridiculous reason to do this! My BMs would love to take me out and go wild but they know that I have zero interest in doing that so they'll get over it. Just because certain people are married and bored doesn't mean they need to get him to agree to this party as an excuse to go wild and get away from home!

stargazerlily Posted: Jun 04, 2009 01:53 PM

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Posted by Cacarina

What exactly are you uneasy about? What is making you worried? Has FH ever been somewhere with his friends without you? I am sure things are going to be fine...he is just enjoying his time with his friends, nothing more.

I trust FH and I even trust the people he's going with (for the most part), but I also know the line they draw with flirting and it's a little different than my line. So it's not just the worst case scenario that makes me uncomfortable, it's also what I know is definiely going to happen.

MrsCtoB Posted: Jun 04, 2009 03:28 PM

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Aww you are a great wife to be and he knows that! Just hold it together for a little longer and it will all be over and done with! I would def. grab one of your girls and get all pretty and go grab a drink! Keep yourself occupied! LOL When my FH goes im just going to hold onto the mere fact i totally trust him otherwise i would be marrying him!

Panamasweet Posted: Jun 04, 2009 03:33 PM

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I dont think i'm uneasy about him going out to have fun but i dont think he will be going out of the country. His brother tried that and i ended it before it even became an issue. i want both of us to have our parties on the same night that way i wont have time to think about him. I did make it clear to my girls that i dont want any strippers and I TOLD HIM NEITHER DOES HE

He'll be home before you know it

LadyDuda81509 Posted: Jun 04, 2009 03:36 PM

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i think i would be more mad he was in cancun and i wasnt!!! lol

dont worry he will prob just get way too drunk and pass out early everynight!

mcbride62009 Posted: Jun 04, 2009 03:56 PM

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Mine went today as well to Myrtle beach. I trust him but I am kinda blah about the whole thing. I trust him and I know he wont do anything I am just blah