bad day

Hey ladies.. im having a really bad day .. had a bad fight with fh at 2:oo a.m. when he got home, hence why we had a fight.. im so overwhelmed lately with everything and its like he is never around to talk to .. gets up at 7:oo a.m. doesnt say a word because he is so not a morning person , i go to work and he goes to school until 3pm, then i dont hear from him unless i call him while he is at work, he works from 4pm to 4 a.m. or to 12:30 a.m. it depends and if i do call him its all one word answers, and then of coarse when he gets home at 4:oo a.m. he does not want to talk.... im just really upset ... and have been all day ... he wont answer his phone.. he is very hard headed.. and i hate that about him... like i need this 2 months before my wedding..

Oh my. What a horrible situation to be in.... Is there anything that has happened recently to cause him to act this way? Or has he always been this way?

Tell him how you feel. There might be something else going on that's causing him to shut down. Maybe he needs to vent, and you could iniate the convo. GL

Girl I feel ya I have a hard headed fiance...I would take a breathe and realize it will be OK...then I wouldn't bombard him, I would allow him to calm down and when he comes home, I would just apologize and talk about your feelings...well that's what I would do..I don't really know your relationship so its hard to judge...


Here is what I would do....go buy a bottle of wine, drink that bottle of wine...then life is all better JK




Feel better.

Maybe he's stressing about the wedding too.

Wait for his day off and definately talk to him about your feelings.

I'm sorry! That really stinks! Maybe he's stressed about the wedding too, but it's still no excuse to not talk to you. Tell him how you feel and how upset you are. Maybe he's so overhwhelmed that he doesn't realize it!

I think the two of you should try to talk it out and see what the problem is. You really need to know because it is causing you stress. Not to mention that is may hurt your relationship and no one wants that before their wedding.

If you do talk to him be sure to speak calmly and state what he is doing that is making you feel this way. It could be that he is stressed and just closes up. I know my FH gets like that and I have sit him down every now and then and let him know.

I am sure it will all work out in the end.

I am so sorry!!! My FH can be the same way- he HATES talking on the phone- and being that the two of us have been so busy lately we haven't had as much time to talk about things either.

Try calling him (or just text him) and say hey when you have a little time I just want to sit down and catch up with you......just take 5 or 10 minutes out of each others day to chat. I did this last week with my FH and as I'm telling him stuff I just broke down and cried, it wasn't b/c of anything specific, its just all the stress. If you keep it bottled up inside it will get worse. I hope you guys work it out and you feel better!!

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Posted by HelenZ

I am so sorry!!! My FH can be the same way- he HATES talking on the phone- and being that the two of us have been so busy lately we haven't had as much time to talk about things either.

Try calling him (or just text him) and say hey when you have a little time I just want to sit down and catch up with you......just take 5 or 10 minutes out of each others day to chat. I did this last week with my FH and as I'm telling him stuff I just broke down and cried, it wasn't b/c of anything specific, its just all the stress. If you keep it bottled up inside it will get worse. I hope you guys work it out and you feel better!!

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i already tried calling and texting and nothing ..

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Posted by lilangel

I think the two of you should try to talk it out and see what the problem is. You really need to know because it is causing you stress. Not to mention that is may hurt your relationship and no one wants that before their wedding.

If you do talk to him be sure to speak calmly and state what he is doing that is making you feel this way. It could be that he is stressed and just closes up. I know my FH gets like that and I have sit him down every now and then and let him know.

I am sure it will all work out in the end.

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thats the problem when it comes time to talk i alway end up doing the talking b/c he always says i have nothing to say

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Posted by happygirl07

Maybe he's stressing about the wedding too.

Wait for his day off and definately talk to him about your feelings.

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he does not have any days off works 7 days a week and i work 6 days a week and even if we did have a day off.. i forgot to mention the fact that his dad has been staying with us since JULY.. umm its now January ..

IM sorry that you are feeling this way-but Im sure alot of it is wedding related. me and fh seem to fight alot lately and it seems to stem from the wedding.
Try and talk to him, though you said there really isnt alot of time for you too-maybve write him a letter and tell him how you feel, may be easier so that the convo doesnt get heated and get worse

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Posted by happygirl07

Maybe he's stressing about the wedding too.

Wait for his day off and definately talk to him about your feelings.

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I was actually thinking the same thing. He could be feeling the pressure of the wedding too.