So FH picked his friend to be Bestman. He has no brothers so he chose his friend. Now his friend came very late to our engagment party and didn't even give a gift. Not even a card. So FH's parents and mine want FH to pick someone else. But FH already asked him. And his BM is always late for everything. Any time we tell him to meet at a certian time he is atleast 2hrs late. I am afraid he will be late for the wedding. What do you think he should do??
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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Not to be a b*tch, but is not giving a gift really reason to ask this person not to be the best man? Traditional etiquette states that gifts should even be given at engagement parties anyway, and even though most people do, gifts should never be expected for anything. I'm sorry but I read that and I was like 'wow', to mention not giving a gift and assuming someone close to your FH would be late to your wedding, I just think that's not too cool. TAlk to the guy, communication usually works.
Has your FH talked to his friend about what a best man does? Do you think maybe his friend just doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing? Did your FH ask his friend to be his best man or did he tell his friend that he's going to be it? I'm wondering because maybe his friend isn't interested in it but is just going along with it...and if your FH sits him down to talk about it he'll graciously refuse and then FH can pick someone else...
that really isn't the reason I was just saying that he didn't give a gift. What I really was saying is that he is unreliable. I am afraid he isn't going to make it to the wedding on time. And even the rehersal too.
Posted by KSquared
Not to be a b*tch, but is not giving a gift really reason to ask this person not to be the best man? Traditional etiquette states that gifts should even be given at engagement parties anyway, and even though most people do, gifts should never be expected for anything. I'm sorry but I read that and I was like 'wow', to mention not giving a gift and assuming someone close to your FH would be late to your wedding, I just think that's not too cool. TAlk to the guy, communication usually works.
Posted by KSquared
Not to be a b*tch, but is not giving a gift really reason to ask this person not to be the best man? Traditional etiquette states that gifts should even be given at engagement parties anyway, and even though most people do, gifts should never be expected for anything. I'm sorry but I read that and I was like 'wow', to mention not giving a gift and assuming someone close to your FH would be late to your wedding, I just think that's not too cool. TAlk to the guy, communication usually works.
he already asked him to be best man and he said he was honored. But he really hasn't said to much about it since then. And like I said he was late and everything. And now everyone in the family knows and keeps telling FH to not have him cause he is not reliable.
Posted by KickinDandelions
Has your FH talked to his friend about what a best man does? Do you think maybe his friend just doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing? Did your FH ask his friend to be his best man or did he tell his friend that he's going to be it? I'm wondering because maybe his friend isn't interested in it but is just going along with it...and if your FH sits him down to talk about it he'll graciously refuse and then FH can pick someone else...
thank you!!! that is exactly waht i was saying.
Posted by AMGBride2008
Posted by KSquared
Not to be a b*tch, but is not giving a gift really reason to ask this person not to be the best man? Traditional etiquette states that gifts should even be given at engagement parties anyway, and even though most people do, gifts should never be expected for anything. I'm sorry but I read that and I was like 'wow', to mention not giving a gift and assuming someone close to your FH would be late to your wedding, I just think that's not too cool. TAlk to the guy, communication usually works.
I think Kerry was just trying to give an example of how unreliable this friend may be. And while I understand that not giving a gift isn't considered unreliable, it could show that he won't take the wedding and being the BM seriously.....
Kerry, definitely let him know where he needs to be when he needs to be there way ealier than what's really planned. Also, you and FH should talk to him and let him know that he really needs to take the responsibility of being Best Man seriously, and SHOW UP ON TIME!
Good luck!
Posted by KSquared
Not to be a b*tch, but is not giving a gift really reason to ask this person not to be the best man? Traditional etiquette states that gifts should even be given at engagement parties anyway, and even though most people do, gifts should never be expected for anything. I'm sorry but I read that and I was like 'wow', to mention not giving a gift and assuming someone close to your FH would be late to your wedding, I just think that's not too cool. TAlk to the guy, communication usually works.
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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I told FH if he keeps him he will have to sleep over the night before this way we know he will be there
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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And even Fh was dissapointed in him. Even when we sent out the invite he said he was brinign some girl. then he said he wasn't then he was and never even sent back the RSVP. and then last min after he said he was bringin her he called and she she wasn't comming but he was going to bring one of his friends. And then he showed up 2 hrs late and with no one. And my parents had to pay for that extra plate!!!! I have no idea what to do.
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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On a more serious note, this guy does sound very irresponsible/unreliable. I would definitely have your FH talk to him about it and tell him how you guys feel. Good luck!
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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Posted by jeanette0402
Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
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lol...my friends who know me best usually play that trick on me. they tell me to be somewhere a half hour early. i never catch on, and am usually there just on time.
they lovingly refer to it as 'jeanette time'.
