Best Man Question

sarahbelle Posted: May 19, 2005 06:36 PM

Best Man Question

How did your FH choose his best man? My FH is having a tough time picking just one friend. Any advice to pass on to him?

Jen2999 Posted: May 19, 2005 06:37 PM

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I would go with someone who he forsees being a life long friend, someone he is close to and has known for a long time.

FH picked his brother although he would have liked to pick a friend

Meme1279 Posted: May 19, 2005 06:42 PM

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My FI was having a tough time deciding between 2 guys for his best man (he has no brothers). It came down to his best friend during his entire childhood and his best friend now.
He went with his best friend NOW for a few reasons.

july06bride Posted: May 19, 2005 06:43 PM

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fh is having his brother- his best friend too- but if his brother wasnt around he would pick the person he forsees being friends with forever, not necesarily the one who is the best partier, and a here and now kind of friend, but someone who is truly his best friend

sarahbelle Posted: May 19, 2005 06:49 PM

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Thanks ladies. His brother isn't in the bp (which is for the best). All of the guys in the bp are longtime friends. He has basically had the same group of friends since high school. They are all awesome, but he doesn't want to hurt anyones feelings by not choosing them.

Any thoughts?

wilandnet Posted: May 19, 2005 06:53 PM

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There is usually one guy who he would speak to just a little more often, or who he confides in a little more, or the first one he would pick up if he was going out with everyone. Honestly, the group usually knows who are just a little more tighter, it just usually doesn't make a difference. It can be a hard choice, but if they are all buddies, there should not be hard feelings.

buggiegirl Posted: May 19, 2005 07:42 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

I would go with someone who he forsees being a life long friend, someone he is close to and has known for a long time.

FH picked his brother although he would have liked to pick a friend

exactly the same situation with us- fh decided on his brother- family will always be there!!

july06bride Posted: May 19, 2005 07:46 PM

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Posted by july06bride

fh is having his brother who is his best friend too- but if his brother wasnt around he would pick the person he forsees being friends with forever, not necesarily the one who is the best partier, and a here and now kind of friend, but someone who is truly his best friend

edited because something didnt make sense

STUF04 Posted: May 19, 2005 08:12 PM

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The fact that he calls him his brother and hes not, qualified him to be the BM.

cindyandkevin Posted: May 19, 2005 08:43 PM

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My FI is having a tough time with this too. He wants to ask his uncle, but he's afraid if he does his bro will give him a hard time and he doesn't want to hear it. I say, go with who you feel most comfortable and don't worry about the short-term consequences. It should be someone that has and always will be there for you.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: May 19, 2005 09:19 PM

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His best man is his best friend since they were kids. They are also roomates now.

ML110 Posted: May 19, 2005 09:40 PM

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my FI had the same thing... hes an only child so he was trying to pick between 2 long time friends to be his best man.... so heres what he did....
LOL you won't beleive it but he had a 'contest' LOL... one of the guys likes planes, and the other one is into guns/hunting, etc...
SOOO FI got the one who is into planes to make 2 paper airplanes and marked each one with one of the 'contenders' inititals. FI then threw them to see whos went furthest... THEN he had the one who's into guns get him 2 USED bullets ( the shells) and threw each of them to see whos went furthest... the tie breaker was a poker game one night- LOL
LOL now your FI might not be a nutjob like mine... but it was literally the only way we could get FI to decide... it got to the point where even the two 'contenders' were bugging him about it... LOL.. and it really did work out for the best because the guy who 'won' is sooo super organized and really on top of things with writing the toast and doing the bachelor party GOOD LUCK!!

shellnroc Posted: May 19, 2005 09:56 PM

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My FI picked his good friend. They have been through alot together. He's the friend that he confides in and they have a strong bond as if they were brothers. FI doesn't have a brother so this is the closest person to a brother that is in his life. So, I think he made a great choice.

Edited because I wanted to answer your question. The best advice I can give your FI would be that he should pick the person he feels the closest too. The person that he can see in his life yrs and yrs from now. He may have many close friends but there has to be one that he feels a stronger bond than the others. He should give it some thought then choose. Good Luck!!!!!!

candb Posted: May 19, 2005 10:04 PM

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My FI picked his uncle to be his best man. We decided that it would be really nice to keep out BP just family.

iffer042373 Posted: May 20, 2005 11:27 AM

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My FH was going to pick one of his brothers he has 4 but he couldn't decide which one to choose so then he went to his friends and was stuck between two but poicked the one he is closest to and the one who has always been there for him through everything and will always be there for him

buggiegirl Posted: May 20, 2005 11:33 AM

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Posted by candb

My FI picked his uncle to be his best man. We decided that it would be really nice to keep out BP just family.

us too-

does your fh have any close cousinsor anything like that?

Kerrycec Posted: May 20, 2005 11:38 AM

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yes, its his best friend since he's been 10

JessicaM. Posted: May 20, 2005 11:44 AM

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I agree that even though they may all be close, there is probably someone who is the person he thinks of FIRST....that should be his BM....the one he thinks of without thinking...

alternatively, if they are all equal in stature and esteem with your FH, he can call them all groomsmen and divide the BM duties up equally between them...or call them his Best MEN....

kellwolfe Posted: May 20, 2005 11:46 AM

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My FH picked his best friend ....and how we came to that decision is because he has two brothers ....there both younger and both look up to him very much - I knew that if he picked on the other would be very hurt! So I told him you ask both of them or you just have the two on them as GM - his best friend greg was there the night that we met ...it was a no brainer ...as a matter of fact I called him the night that Mike asked me to marry him!