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Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:36 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:36 PM

Black Tie

Who is having one?

HillandRon Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:37 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:37 PM

Re: Black Tie

I am!!!!!

Jodi73 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:38 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:38 PM

Re: Black Tie

Still debating on it.

JuneBride21 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:44 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:44 PM

Re: Black Tie

We are having Black Tie!

ssdare Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:45 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:45 PM

Re: Black Tie

I'm planning on it or at least 'Black Tie Preferred.'

MarcellaBella Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:47 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:47 PM

Re: Black Tie

OOOH!! ME! ME!! hehe

cw0904 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:51 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:51 PM

Re: Black Tie

Black Tie Preferred or Optional. Haven't decided which.

LisaT Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:59 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 02:59 PM

Re: Black Tie

we had black tie optional - I was surprised and impressed with how many guys showed up in tuxes!

edited to say:
My dad and husband bought their tuxes and that started this trend where all my uncles and cousins went out and bought tuxes too (not that they had to, but they wanted to).

We got such good deals on the tuxedos, it paid to buy them over renting - and these were quality tuxedos! Funny how we'll spend thousands (or at least hundreds) on a dress, and the groom often wears used clothes!

michele31 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:00 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:00 PM

Re: Black Tie

Just a quick opinion: Many guests do not own tuxedos, which mean they have to pay to rent them. Just consider that before you require guests to pay an extra $100+ to attend your wedding. Editted to say: You may have guests decline because the a) cannot afford to give you a gift and rent a tux b) they are afraid that if they don't rent the tux they will look under-dressed.
You can still have a very formal elegant affair without requiring your guests to dress in black-tie.

LisaT Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:01 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:01 PM

Re: Black Tie

I agree with Michelle, which is why we had it as an option rather than a requirement.

alina Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:02 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:02 PM

Re: Black Tie

totally agree with michelle, its semiformal for us (suits and ties)

Jenny5150 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:03 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:03 PM

Re: Black Tie

I wanted Black-Tie, but my FH reminded me of Michele31's point.

MSCJLK Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:04 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:04 PM

Re: Black Tie

Black tie also means Black suit with a dark tie also... but it also depends..Saturday night is black tie most of the time but if you did it on a saturday afternoon you won't see that many...I had a black ie on a Thursday night....

sept20yay! Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:04 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:04 PM

Re: Black Tie

B- Tie all the way for me....

Sonicstef Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:15 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:15 PM

Re: Black Tie

It is my understanding that Black Tie does not mean a dark suit is acceptable...it means tux only.

LisaT Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:19 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:19 PM

Re: Black Tie

and even if it does (which I don't agree with), I think 99% of people would interpret it as tux required.

EvenEdan Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:36 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:36 PM

Re: Black Tie

I wanted Black Tie but my family thought I was being snobbish, they felt some people would not come if they had to rent a tux. I understand that attending a wedding can be expensive so I think that I will put Black Tie Optional on my invites. I just don't want people showing up in summer dresses and sandals. I envision gowns and tuxes or at least nice suits!

Latina511 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:40 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:40 PM

Re: Black Tie

I went to a Black Tie wedding this past summer and everybody at the wedding was complaining about wearing a tux and what they paid just to be at the wedding.

cw0904 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:43 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:43 PM

Re: Black Tie

EvanEdan I agree with you 100%. I have gone to a couple weddings where the guests wore sundresses, business suits (women). It just wasn't appropriate. If you make it optional they either will or they won't. It just lets the guests know this is a formal affair, not a sweet 16.

michele31 Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:45 PM+

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Posted: Dec 11, 2002 03:45 PM

Re: Black Tie

One more thing to add: If you are having a black tie affair to prevent people from wearing 'casual' wear to your wedding- those same people will never wear black tie. Black tie is more than just clothes. You need to have a super formal affair, in the evening. You should NEVER have a black tie afternoon affair.