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i think maybe FH and i need to just find an apartment or somethin. the plans were supposed to be that we stay in my apartment to save money since i live in an apartment in my parents house and pay a lot less than i would anywhere else.. but they are so old-fashioned they wont let him move in til after the wedding.. we get no privacy.. we have no separate entrance into the apartment.. its just not that great here. FH doesnt think we can afford it yet but i am so stressed out with everything as it is that i feel like it makes us fight and makes things more stressful by being here. its tiny too which drives me nuts.. i just dont know what to do.. blah.

You need to do whatever it is thats good for you and your FH. Family will always be there.. and you need to be happy in this time of planning

i feel your pain.. i live at home and my room is on the first florr right next to my parents. when steve is here every few min my mom kocks on the dor to ask something stupid lol it sux but youll find somehting keep shopping around.

I'm in kinda a similar situation...FH and I both live with our parents, and we're not financially secure enough to get anything bigger than a birdcage anytime in the near future.

Both sets of parents have offered to let us stay in their houses rent-free. I'd prefer to stay in my apartment since it is completely separate from my parents' (upstairs), whereas his is the basement of the house and is essentially connected to the rest of the house.

But staying with either set of parents will make it EXTREMELY difficult for both of us, so we're choosing to get a place of our own after the wedding. Yes, it's causing us a lot of anxiety, but i think it's reducing alot of tension and problems for right now.

I don't know if this helps at all, but know that you're not alone out there!

--Anna

thanks a lot girls, i am going to have a serious talk with FH tomorrow. i dont think its healthy for our relationship and the rest of our wedding planning to go on like this..

Ugh, I'm in the OPPOSITE situation. My FH's Mom wants us to move in with her AFTER we get married to save for a house.

I know this sounds stupid, but I'd be happy renting FOREVER. Scr*w equity. I don't want to live w/someone's parents. I've been on my own for 7 years!

i am in a similiar situation me and my fh both live in our homes with our parents....so privacy is something we definitly lack.....
when we get married our plan is to take the apt in my house because it will be rent free and for about 2 years it is worth the sacrafice to save that money as if we were paying rent but instead pay our selves....
i think it will help us get the chance to OWN something sooner then if we go and RENT
hopefully it will work out as planned