I am still in shock. I'm not really sure what happend. My familly was a little upset with her because she didn't help with the shower, and when it came to paying at the end of the shower she didn't have the money with her and she left crying. We didn't hear from her for 3 weeks, after calling and texting.... She finally called yesterday and explained she didn't really have the money and she felt that she was ignored at the shower by my family. (keep in mind this has nothing to do with me) I told her that I just wanted her to be at the wedding, I don't expect a gift or anything, I just want her to be there. We hung up ok. But then her husband called me 5 minutes later, yelling about how she's hysterical crying and he she's not going to the Bachelorette party or the wedding after how she's been treated. And she had lent me her veil and she wants it back...So he told me to leave it outside and he came and picked it up.
15 years of friendship gone.
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I'm sorry to hear this. It sounds like she's embarassed not to have had the money.
Since you've been friends for so long, I hope that this doesn't actually end your friendship.
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Wow...I'm so sorry this happened to you! I am at a loss for words!
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either she is making up this scene because she doesnt have money and is embarassed or she is seriously jealous of you and wanted to cause drama to get the attention on her
JanineG
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She wanted her veil back...and she didn't call me after her husband yelled at me. I'd say its over... so sad If she just would have talked to me about it, then to let 3 weeks go by....
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I'm soo sorry to hear that... I would just give it a little while and then ask her to go for coffee or lunch and talk with her.. I hope everything works out
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I feel bad for both of you. She's clearly embarrassed...not know her financial situation, from what you describe it sounds she's not doing well.
Money. I wouldn't let a friend go over money. This is your time and you should have full support but she probably has valid reasons. It was crummy that her husband called you about 'how she was treated' but she must have felt mortified. I would try talking to her- face to face. How sad.
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im sorry to hear that... too me thats all a little strange.. like the just changed out of nowhere
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Yea I mean to me it sounds as if something else is going on behind the scenes there or there is more to the story because to just turn around and bails out of a wedding party especially after 15 years of friendship just to me sounds like theres a part of the story that is missing. =/ Just my opinion. Maybe something is going on with her husband or her that shes not comfortable talking about. I would say let some time pass and try to contact her JUST HER and ask her to go for coffee and to talk...
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it's one thing not to have the money and to be offended but it's another to ask for the veil back a amonth before your wedding. What the heck kind of a friend does that? I think she's jealous or looking for a reason to argue. F-Her!!! You're better off without a person like that at your wedding.
I know it's been said a million times, but you really see who your friends are when you're planning a wedding.
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Jesus, that was abrupt. I am so sorry to hear. It really seems like she has no money and has no intentions of paying her share of the shower and just wants to avoid the situation which is ridiculous.
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I was in their wedding a year ago. Her husband has been out of a job for months. I explained to her that i don't care about anything else and I just wanted her to be there. When her husband called he was also being very defensive saying that they do have money and that she can afford everything for my wedding... He was obviously just embarassed too.
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Posted by JanineG
I was in their wedding a year ago. Her husband has been out of a job for months. I explained to her that i don't care about anything else and I just wanted her to be there. When her husband called he was also being very defensive saying that they do have money and that she can afford everything for my wedding... He was obviously just embarassed too.
Wow, that's horrible. Again, I am so sorry that this happened. Something seems terribly wrong and maybe money is not the only issue. It could be jealousy or that maybe she is depressed because of certain situations- girls can be funny like that. Gives her no right to just back out like that with no explanation. How long have you known her? ETA: If she has been your friend for 15 years, then she should have had the courtesy to tell you this before the shower!
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I think you should give her about a week, then invite her out for coffee. Talk to her face-to-face without any one else's involvement. Make sure she understands that you just care about her being there at your wedding and that being friends is too important to let money get in the way and you expect nothing from her no matter what impression your family may have given.
JanineG
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Well I've known her since elementry school but we've been friends since 9th grade...now we're 27 :)
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wow!!!!!!! im so sorry..i actually felt bad for her because money was tight and i was going to say i knw she wants to be there etc etc...but then the hubby called and she demaded a veil back??? forghet her..u r betetr off without her
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Wow thats terrible. I don't get people. If you have been friends for so long she should of told you her dilema from the start. I am so sorry some people are jerks. If she is going to be like that then you don't need her in your life and I am sure her husband had a influence on her behavior.
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Thanks for the responses girls We'll see what happens
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wow. i'm so sorry. it does sound like she was embarrassed about the money. money can F up so much... that's so sad. maybe you two can work it out when it's not so emotionally charged? i wouldn't let it be over, over $ if you can help it. maybe there's more to the story too. but that's so sad!
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Posted by littlepixie12
either she is making up this scene because she doesnt have money and is embarassed or she is seriously jealous of you and wanted to cause drama to get the attention on her
