BM Drama

Well...this all started about two weeks ago when I sent out a text message to my bms about going to look for bm dresses. I told them that I had off starting Thursday this week (2 of my bm are teachers so they too have off). Everyone sent a reply back to me even my bm who lives in AZ except one of my bms who is my cousin. Even when I sent out emails with the picture of the dress...everyone responded except her. So she was being a little shady for the very beginning. I saw her about a week and a half ago at our uncle's house and I asked her if she was free on the 7th of April so we could all go and try them on. She said yes. Well today she called me while I was at work and asked if we'd be back by 2:00 because she had a hair appointment. I told her that we probably wouldn't be back by that time. So she said it was okay she'd reschedule. So tonight at around 5:00 she called me saying that she didn't realize she'd have to pay a deposit for the dress and that she didn't have any money. I told her I would find out how much the deposit was and that I would call her back. I explained to her that the salon will not order the dresses unless all of the girls made a deposit 1st. So I called the salon and called her back telling her the deposit was $125. but if she didn't have the full amount they would accept $50 now and she could mail them the rest next week. Well.....she said I'm sorry but I don't have the money right now...I just paid for my summer class and I don't get paid until next week.... I thought that we were only going to get fitted. I told her it's not like this is the 1st wedding you've been in....you know you would have to pay a deposit on the dress. I asked her if she could ask her mom for $50 and then she could mail the rest in. It's not like she is 15 yrs old...she is 20 yrs old and has a job. What the heck??!!!! She said she'd ask her mom and that she would get back to me. So while I was at my part time job tonight I got a voice message from her saying...I really can't afford this right now. I know I should have told you earlier...I can't even afford the installments...I'm in no position to pay for your wedding. (Um excuse me....who is asking you to pay for my wedding??? I'm just asking that you pay for a $220 dress which includes the alterations!!!!!!!!!!!!!) I'm really sorry...I would have liked to do this for you ...I'm your cousin but I can't afford it ....sorry....bye.

***!!!!!!!!!!!! don't get me wrong I'm so glad this is happening now....way in advance but come on!!!! You'd think that the dress cost $500 or something. My own cousin....never did she say Oh I'm so honored that you asked me to be part of your special day....or in the message please call me back so I can just talk to you about this. Nothing!!! If you could listen to the voice message it was as if she had an attitude while she was leaving me the message.

Anyway...it works out for the best....I was 1 guy short....and I was going to ask one of my guy cousin's who is coming in from Italy to be a gm. So I guess it worked out for the best. It just ***** that my own family would be like this. Like my aunt or uncle couldn't lend her the money....it was only $220...which only $50 needed to be paid now. If she realy wanted to be part of the wedding party she could have even asked me to spot her the money and then she could back me back.


Sorry this is sooo long Thank you for listening to me vent!!!!