BM dresses too sexy???

RnKHStill4eva Posted: Jan 12, 2008 07:29 PM

BM dresses too sexy???

So i have been looking for dresses for my BM and trying to fugure out how to customize for my MOH and this is what i found and i think its perfect! Im not into the 'fru fru frilly willy' stuff that every one hates but never says anything because they are just good friends.
Any way i have been showing it to the girls who all say 'ooohs and ahhhs' but i when i showed it to my FSIL my FMIL was there (big mistake) and made the most horrified face. shes UBER religous, even though my FH and i arent, and she says they are in appropriate to sexy, not traditional. Shes already 'not happy' that we decided to get married at the RH instead of her chruch. What should i do? To be quite honest all my BM's are very curvacious (think beyonce on her day off) and even if i put them in trash bags she would probably think it was too sexy.

mRm2008 Posted: Jan 12, 2008 07:32 PM

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IMO if you like it and your BM like it..then go with it. My FMIL pretty well hinted that even me wearing a strapless gown was 'too sexy'! OH WELL

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Jan 12, 2008 07:32 PM

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LOVE LOVE LOVE this dress! it is sexy but heck if shes got the body for it.. i say DO IT! its you and FHs day do what you want! they wont even notice the day of. and its not like you will be in a church not that that would matter anyway..

sept08ihope Posted: Jan 12, 2008 07:50 PM

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as long as it doesnt take attention from you then go for it...they are gorgeous

PreshusSmurf Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:02 PM

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Just being honest .... if I were a BM in your wedding, I would personally not feel comfortable at all wearing that dress.

lucamon Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:04 PM

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As long as you love the dress and your BMs don't have a problem with it, it should not matter what others think.

RnKHStill4eva Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:07 PM

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Thats the thing... they LOVE it just as much as i do. i mean we're all pretty young so this is how we would dress im just concerned about hurting my FMIL AGAIN. I dont want her sitting in the front row of my ceremony having heart palpatations.

Snick n Nick Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:23 PM

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That dress is hot! as long as they can carry it off, I would say go for it! too bad for FMIL, she'll deal!

spanishitalian Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:26 PM

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i love them

hyphenbride Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:28 PM

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I think if your BMs are REALLY happy with it and your getting married in an RH and like it, go for it.

AmorPeruano Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:29 PM

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If they are happy and you are happy, I say go for it!! Im just wondering if it will divert attention away from YOU when its your special day?

trojo1521 Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:30 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

Just being honest .... if I were a BM in your wedding, I would personally not feel comfortable at all wearing that dress.

I would have to agree. I would feel really self conscious if I wasn't the 5'10' 120 lbs. like the model.

jonsgirl04 Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:38 PM

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If your girls all have a great shape then why not?? Then go for it. But if you have girls that are a little bigger then they may feel very uncomfortable. But I love love it!!

DavaDay Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:43 PM

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I was a BM this fall and the bride picked out dresses for us that were too sexy. I had the body to pull it off, that wasn't the problem; it was just SO low cut that I was uncomfortable the entire wedding. I had to watch my posture every second because with even a little slouch I would spill out of the dress. And I know people were supposed to be looking at us girls because we were BMs, but I was VERY uncomfortable with how we were being looked at. Especially in the church! But she is one of my best friends, and was the bride, I didn't speak up.

So, if your BMs are flashy, that's one thing. But if they are more modest, like me, please think twice before asking them to wear something they will be uncomfortable in.

PreshusSmurf Posted: Jan 12, 2008 08:59 PM

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Also wanted to add that just because you are getting 'Oooohs and Aaaahs' from your BMs doesn't mean they LOVE the dress or that they'd feel comfortable wearing the dress. They might just not know what else to say, or not want to disappoint you.

RnKHStill4eva Posted: Jan 12, 2008 09:09 PM

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OK heres the thing. i am NOT worried about my girls. we have all been friends since 2nd grade. They know that i would NEVER make any of them wear somthing that they were uncomfortable in espeacially something that cost over 250 dollars. My concern is how to make my FMIL feel more comfortable with some of the decisions that my FH and i are making. i want her to feel included but i will by no means have anyone elses vision of my wedding but my own. So im torn. is this one of those times when i take the 'L' in order to give her at least 1 moment of input or should this be my decsion and get her input some other time.

Espo22 Posted: Jan 12, 2008 09:27 PM

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as long as you love it and all your girls love it the dress then that is perfect. Personally if i was a bm i wouldn't be able to wear that dress bc of how low it is in the back, not bc its sexy but bc i have a bigger chest and NEED to wear a bra and a very well supported bra thats the only reason. I know they have ones that go very low but for me they didn't hold up well...as long as none of that is a concern for your girls then do what makes you and your girls happy.

freda83 Posted: Jan 12, 2008 09:30 PM

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i think that dress is hot

BoxOfRocks Posted: Jan 12, 2008 09:31 PM

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Yes, the dress is sexier than normal for a BM dress. Since you like it, your BMs like it, and there aren't any religious restrictions in play, it sounds OK to use it.

As for your FMIL, I think it's worth letting her have a say in some things. The BM dresses may or may not be it, depending how vested you are in them. Is there something about the wedding that is less important to you and FH that she would be willing to take on, or you would be OK with getting her input on?