Heres the response i'm going to send to my friend who's stepping down, let me know what you think:
I feel horrible that your in this situation and the financial burden of being in my wedding shouldn't be something you should be worried about when you can't afford to pay rent. Maybe you can do something else for my wedding that won't cause a financial burden. This way you don't have to spend any $$ on a dress/shoes/shower/b-party, but can still be a part of my day. Also I will make sure joe's sister and my sister will make u just as involved with the planning of the b-party and shower as the other girls are. So basically you'll still be apart of everything with out the spending the money, ur an honorary bridesmaid. I wish you could have been a apart of my bridal party, but whats the fun of being in it if your stressed out about having to pay for things? I'd rather have you as a guest at my wedding, then a stressed out unhappy bridesmaid. So the bottomline is i'm glad you came to me now and told me this and i'm not at all offended or angry by the fact that you don't have the money to be in my bp.
sunshine1813
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I think that your response is great and that you have made it clear that you still want her to be a part of your day no matter what and I thnk that is really sweet. I don't think that it would be a big deal to have her in the BP last minute either, what's one extra special person to add to your special day. Good Luck.
I think it's very well put. I do like that you make her feel comfortable with backing out. You know, sometimes when you are asked to be in someones BP you say yes bc you don't want to seem like your poor and you don't want to disappoint your friend, the bride. Good job!
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thanks sooo much jiffy!!! i sent it about an hour ago. i'll let u know how it goes!!! i was afraid she would take it as me asking her to step down, but now that i reread it, i think its me letting her know i'm ok with her stepping down.
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Posted by sunshine1813
I think that your response is great and that you have made it clear that you still want her to be a part of your day no matter what and I thnk that is really sweet. I don't think that it would be a big deal to have her in the BP last minute either, what's one extra special person to add to your special day. Good Luck.
thanks sunshine!!!
Michy
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I think this is a great response to her. Very well put!
Maybride07
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I think that was a Great response! Keep us posted!
vmystique33
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well said!! good luck and keep us posted
PegaLega
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I definitely think it sounds good-especially since its not really a matter of her being an @ss BM...you are very understanding of her situation and its very thoughtful!!!
Usually someone you ask to be in your BP is honored to be such an important part of your day that they dont want to step down for fear of upsetting you. If you feel it is stating you are ok with it that is the best thing for you to do b/c you are giving her the option and either way she will still be a part of your day.
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ok so my bm thats having the money problems responded to my email and everything's great1! below is her email back: thanks for understanding. if anything should change, i will definitely let you know. but as of right now, it's a major struggle. i would still love to be apart of it so thank you for thinking of me that way. and of course i will still be there to celebrate your day. and don't feel horrible about my situation. i chose this for myself and as much as i love my life right now and what i'm doing, it'll be worth it in the end for me. but right now, it's a pita. i would love to still know what the plans are and all that's going on so again, thanks for still including me. it was a hard decision to make but like i said, i don't want to say yes and then not be able to hold up my end. it wouldn't be fair to the other girls. and you look beautiful in the dress :) thanks again, love ya back!
