I am pretty sure i will not be having a Bridal Shower... My mother read somewhere that the MOH and BM are supposed to throw the bride her shower, and refuses to throw one. My FFIL has forbidden my MOH ( FSIL) to call my mother to try and work something out for the shower and he has forbidden her from planning one. knowing my mom has been refusing to throw one.
this is making me really upset.. i always pictured myself having a shower ( FH and I registered A LONG time ago) and i really love the stuff we have on it... I didnt even really want the shower for the gifts, i just always loved the thought of all the ladies getting together for a nice afternoon of good food, good company, and fun games...
I think what is upsetting me the most is that FH knows this, didnt tell me and wont say anything to his dad about it... (FH knows how much i would love to have a shower)
I just really cant believe my FFIL would do such a thing... my FSIL is afraid if she goes behind his back and does it , she is going to get kicked out of her house.. I MEAN REALLY?!?!?! You are going to kick your daughter out of the house for throwing me a shower?!?!?! its just absurd!!! Its not like he is paying a penny towards it.. and i wouldnt ask him too.. all my girls were more than willing to throw it for me, but now that my MOH cant do it none of them will...
Sorry for the long vent im just really REALLY upset about this!!!
MissingLI
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Posted by PhyllisNJoe
I feel like they are forgetting the most important part of the shower - YOU. I would be upset too. I think you should throw your own. Screw it! One person you can always count on is You.
Do it at your place and ask your bridesmaids for help. It can be inexpensive doing it at home. Make the food (easiest and least expensive - baked ziti, salad, maybe some meatballs - can u tell I'm Italian? lol)
Hope it works out for you
Ding Ding Ding! Time to just dust yourself off, recognize that it's F'd up, and throw yourself a shower. Throw the kind of shower that you would want. Doesn't have to be big or lavish. Just a good time. Enjoy it. Does it suck that they are doing this, yup. But let it be THEIR issue, not yours.
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All i have to say is I LOVE YOU GIRLS!!! i really do!!! since posting this last night all i have done is smile when i realized there are people out there that really care about me! AND I HAVE NEVER EVEN MET HALF OF YOU!!!!
I think i will throw myself one and invite each and every one of YOU and none of my family!!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!
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I feel so bad for you! Why don't you get the BM's to start it up and have them ask FSIL to help financially but doesn't have to be a part of the planing that way you get your shower FSIL is not directly involved and everyone is happy
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sorrry your having to deal with this crappp
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Lauren! My heart is breaking for you over this. It doesn't make any sense to me..I know everyone's family dynamics are different but in my opinion a MOB should be throwing the shower and if funds are tight ask the BP to chip in for the cake or favors maybe. I just don't know. I really hope they are planning something kick-a@! for you... xoxoxoxo
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ok
1) this is pretty messed up if its a ploy because you are getting so upset. I would never want people to trick me like that!
2) I will throw you a shower
3) kick FFIL in the head and make him realize that this is the stupidest thing to get mad at his daughter for if he isnt even paying for it!
4) tell MOH to grow a set and plan something. I highly doubt he will kick her out for throwing you a shower, and if he does make sure everyone knows what a tard he is. he will be the one left with egg on his face
5) drink whipped cream vodka. it makes things better
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Posted by IrishAli
I'm sorry- but why does your mom NOT want to throw you one? My mom is excited about mine!
This. I think you need to speak to your mom. My mom is throwing mine and not asking for a penny from my BMs. I think the whole 'mom not helping out' tradition is LONG gone.
This as well. My mom is planning the entire thing an paying as well and then my BMs are pretty much going to run the show.
My mother is crazzy excited about it , i would def talk to your mom
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Posted by BlushandBashful
Posted by IrishAli
I'm sorry- but why does your mom NOT want to throw you one? My mom is excited about mine!
This. I think you need to speak to your mom. My mom is throwing mine and not asking for a penny from my BMs. I think the whole 'mom not helping out' tradition is LONG gone.
this too.. i never heard of BP throwing the shower until i joined this site
same here.
my mom even said that the bridal party throws the shower, but i never heard of that, so my mom is doing it and she lives out of state.
i'm so sorry you're dealing with this. i really hope they are just trying to throw you off b/c it doesn't make sense why everyone is against throwing you one.
i hope everything works out <3
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Forget throwing yourself one. I am we sure plenty of us here will ban together, throw you one and NOT invite your family
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To make a long story short, my mom feels like she has noone to invite ( this is quite true) most of the guests that would be invited to the shower ( and the wedding for that matter) are FHs family, my mom is quite strange like that, she doesnt feel like she should spend the money for people she doesnt know...
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she is spending the money for you, not them!! I'm so sad for you :( I'm sorry your going through this.
my FSIL is throwing my shower. she isn't in the bridal party either. she really wanted to host it and isnt asking for my BP to even contribute.
maybe your mom AND MOH can split the cost. It can be at someones house not at a resturant.
ALso threaten to throw your own and see if they stop you, maybe they are just trying to throw you off hope it works out
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Im so so sorry Im so upset for you! Thats not right at all!!! Why is he so against it and why is it his concern anyway? You should have a shower its a part of getting married and the whole experience!
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Posted by Jsquared
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Posted by IrishAli
I'm sorry- but why does your mom NOT want to throw you one? My mom is excited about mine!
This. I think you need to speak to your mom. My mom is throwing mine and not asking for a penny from my BMs. I think the whole 'mom not helping out' tradition is LONG gone.
this too.. i never heard of BP throwing the shower until i joined this site
me too, maybe other people do this but in my culture and family (even extended family and friends) i have never had to contribute a penny. the MOB always threw the shower
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i think this is completely ridiculous. i don't understand why FFIL would be so against it and ii don't see why your mom would make such a big deal about not giving you one. If my mom found out that my FFIL would not let my MOH give me one she would be the first one to step in and give me one. I have almost no family at all and my mom is already paying for the Bridal shower and all the guests coming and we literally will have like maybe 10 people from my side, but what can you do. your not paying for you, your paying for a party for your daughter to start a new life and get what she needs. this is very selfish on the part of every involved. i hope if nothing else, your other BM will get together and plan something for you, idon't see why they should have to take their cue from your FSIL and not get together and plan something themselves
