Bridemaids Trouble

I am just getting frustrated. I have 2 MOH's and 5 BM's and 4 of them still need to go and get measured for the dress. I asked them in June, and said I wanted it done before school started back up. Well it is like pulling teeth. I am about 7 1/2 months from the wedding, and I just want this done. The dresses cant be ordered until they ALL go in! How do I get them to go, I ask them all the **** time?

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See, this is why I'm having only one attendant (MOH) Maybe a 'BMs get-together'--you all go together to get measured and then to lunch.

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The get together and lunch sound like a good idea. I second that.

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I would give a date and a time to them all , and say if you can't make it there in person you need to know their measurements in advance of the day because you can't go another day w/out ordering the dresses... If they don't go for that, you can kindly say: if this isn't fitting into your schedule, maybe it would be easier to not be in the wedding party...
Jeez!! I feel bad for you, you don't need this grief!!

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I had all my BMs meet me and they went to get measured together...it worked out perfectly

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I gave my BMs a date that we were going to get together, 2 of them were not going to be around so I went separately before hand with each of them. The other 4 I had get together and we went for the measurements and then I took them out to lunch. Everything worked out fine, the deposits were in and the dresses have been ordered. Another thing off my list!

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I had a similar problem, since four of my BM's were in another state, so I just gave them a deadline, and said measurements have to be in to the store by then or their dress will not match the others because they'll end up coming from different dye lots. Its hard coordinating so many people, but you just have to get firm and give another deadline and hope they respect your wishes. I ended up ordering the dresses after my 'deadline' and they still came in with plenty of time to spare. Good luck!

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I can completley sympathize with your situation. I only have three bridesmaids and its hard with that number. I live in Florida, my matron of honor lives in Boston, one girl is pregnant right now and moving so that is all she can think of and the other one's husband has cancer and she is always with him at the hospital. Because these are all **** fine valid reasons for not being so gung ho about the wedding I feel aweful for saying anything to them. In fact I hardly talk about the wedding with them at all. In october I am going up for the bridesmaid dresses and I just hope they all can make it! If not, I will have to deal with it then. I have no idea how I will though LOL

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all I can say is that I have 4 bridesmaid and my brother is my 'man of honor'. My brother has not so much as returned a call in weeks. and 3/4 bridesmaids have brought me to tears in the last week or two. (one is the girl who wants to have her 1 1/2 year old daughter there while we get ready, the other is in the police academy - not her fault- and won't actually know for sure until the day of the wedding that she'll be there, and she hasn't called me in weeks, and the third is the friend I wrote about above who told me off and made me cry thursday night. These girls are all my best friends since junior high - that's like 17-18 years! I never thought it would be like this! If I had it to do over again, there would be no wedding party.
ps one of the things the friend said that made me cry was to throw the shower she threw me up in my face, which just broke my heart!

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jpsgirl: how awful!!! I am so sorry to hear your BM's are being so terrible to you... and for the one girl to throw your shower in your face, what kind of friend does that?

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i know....it's so upsetting. ive gone from being excited about my wedding to being so sad over all this, with only 5 weeks to go from today.

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i agree, if i could do it again, there would beno wedding party, just BM & MOH.
my future sister n law & bridesmaid, was a bridesmaid, then wasn't (got prego), then was again (had a miscarriage ) , now she isnt again, (prego again 1 month after miscarriage.
I am happy shes prego again but as everyone said, isn't the timing crappy?
nothing but grief