bridesmaid hair question--one of my BMs wants to get her hair done on her own

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 28, 2005 01:03 PM

bridesmaid hair question--one of my BMs wants to get her hair done on her own

One of my BM (possibly 2) wants to get her hair done by her own person so she's not taking a chance. I wanted us to all get our hair done together so we could take pics, and also because I may need a minimum of girls getting their hair done for the woman to travel to us. I'm going on Fri for a trial and I'll ask how many girls need to book her. I am going to pay for all their hair to be done as a gift to them (getting them something else tooo). It would be much easier if all the girls got their hair done at the same time at the bridal suite. What should I do? I know it's my wedding, blah, blah, blah...but I dont' want to inconvenience anyone. Should I ask them to use my hair woman?

PrincessRose Posted: Dec 28, 2005 01:08 PM

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Oooh that's a tough question.

First of all, I would request that she at least have her hair person come to the suite where you're all going to be, instead of them going out to a salon. It's too risky to have everyone coming from different places, just much easier when everyone's together.

If that's not okay, well, then you should put your foot down about them having their hair done by the people you hire.

In my situation I had a few bms who didn't want to pay to get their hair done, so I just let them do their own (as much as it bothered me, to tell the truth). One BM wasn't sure about letting someone else do her hair, but she knew how upset I was about the other girls, so she 'sucked it up' and had the stylist do her hair - SHE LOVED IT. She looked rather fantastic, actually.

kaklesmay Posted: Dec 28, 2005 01:17 PM

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As long as she looks great and is there on time for pictures, it should be OK.

If you need her for the minimum, I would push it a little more and let her know she will be missing out on some girl bonding time the day of and it would mean a lot to you if she were there getting ready.

Good luck

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 28, 2005 01:20 PM

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Actually, I head this from her mom (FH's aunt), not her. So I think either today or tomorrow I'll talk to her and say that I'm going for my trial Fri and may book the woman and ask if she's interested in having her hair done. I'll let her know that the woman may need a min number of girls in order to travel to me and that if she NEEDS 5 or 6, would she be willing to use her? If she only needs 4, then can she have her hair woman come to the JT suite so things are more organized? How does that sound?

espresso Posted: Dec 28, 2005 01:27 PM

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I think if you need a min, ask her to use your person. you're paying, so she should understand

if you dont need her, it's ok for her to get it done elsewhere as long as she gets to your suite on time. i dont think its necessary for her person to also travel to your suite.

babybug631 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 01:32 PM

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I let one of my girls go somewhere else. She didn't like the trial at my place. Whatever makes them feel more comfortable.

KandE917 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 03:14 PM

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I say let her go to her own girl to get hair done. It's bad enough our BM's have to wear a dress we pick....let them at least choose who does their hair! I did this for my friend's wedding and when i went to pay they said she had stopped in and taken care of it for me which was really nice.

69 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 03:23 PM

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mmmm I hear your angst on this one.....

you could ask her first and tell her that you need a minimum... if she persists on using someone else, hey chalk it up and pay extra.. not worth ruining a friendship on that...

stephanief Posted: Dec 28, 2005 03:37 PM

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I had offered to pay $35 towards the hair for my girls (my hairdresser is charging 85, so the girls would pay 50, I would pay 35)

One of my girls thinks it is too much so she is getting her hair done by her own hairdresser. I don;t care, even though I paid alot to get my hair done for her wedding. It is not big deal to me. I told her to make sure she is there in time to get picked up by the limo with the rest of us.

Preshy7 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 03:49 PM

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id let her do her own thing

some people are very partucular about their hair

weddingbunny Posted: Dec 28, 2005 04:55 PM

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I'm definitely not a 'it's your day, they should do what you tell them' kind of a person, but I think that since you are paying for their hair, it is pretty fair to ask that they use your person to make your life simpler. They just need to trust you pick somebody who will do a good job.

If they were paying for it, I'd say to let them do whatever they want, but since you are paying for it, it's a bit rude to demand that you inconvenience yourself and pay for their chosen hair dresser, especially if your person has a minimum requirement.

kmkelly Posted: Dec 28, 2005 05:09 PM

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I solved this problem by paying for everyone's hair to be done by my person. An additonal expense for me but it got me what I wanted with no flack.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 28, 2005 05:13 PM

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Posted by kmkelly

I solved this problem by paying for everyone's hair to be done by my person. An additonal expense for me but it got me what I wanted with no flack.

That's what I was planning on doing.

Soon2BMrsA Posted: Dec 28, 2005 05:33 PM

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If you're paying for her hair I think its fair that she uses your hair person. If shes picky, for some reason, and insists on using her own person then Id ask her to have her stylist come wherever all the other girls will be, you dont want all your BMs all over the place.

suzybilly819 Posted: Dec 28, 2005 07:47 PM

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Let her get it done with her hairdresser, she will only be happy that way. Tell her that she has to be at the bridal suite bu a certain time and I am sure you will get plenty of pictures of everyone getting ready.

I was in a BP and the Bride made us all go to the same salon.... worst experience. I hated my hair and would have preferred my own hairdresser.