Bridesmaid is M I A

Need to vent on this one. I have one bridesmaid that is really missing in action. It all started with the shower that was in January. The other bridesmaids had trouble getting in touch with her. They would leave message upon message and get no response. Needless to say she never showed for the shower and didn`t call anyone to let them know. Well I called her later in the week after I got back from the shower and actually got in touch with her. She claimed she never got an invitation. The other BM`s said that they did talk to her in December while planning (cost, date, time etc) and it was not a problem for her to attend nor was the cost. MY MOH even addressed them herself and knows one was sent. So, a lost invite should not be an issue. Well my wedding is now in 18 days and I have not spoken to her since the day after the superbowl!! I have left so many message you wouldn`t believe! Finally last night I actually got to talk to her dad. He was very weird and when I asked if she was home he said that she wasn`t so I asked when she would be back he said Ummm I don`t know and I don`t know when I will even talk to her, she is on her way to Atlanta (we live in va beach, but the wedding is on LI) so I asked if she was planning on coming to my wedding and he said that she hasn`t said anything about it to me but I will tell her you called. I said please do b/c she was supposed to be a BM. She hasn`t responded to the wedding nor the rehearsal! What am I supposed to do now!!! I am so upset and hurt and mad. She has never ever been like this as just the past few months and I have been engaged since May 99!! Should I count her out without talking to her, or should I give her the benefit of the doubt until I do!?!?!?!

Bridesmaid is M I A

Wow - It sounds like she may have something serious going on. Would her immediate family usually know her whereabouts or has she taken off like this in the past? Maybe you can send her a note and or leave a message/email, asking her to please contact you letting her know you are concernerd about her, hope all is well and offer whatever support she needs. As for the wedding, unless she respons quickly I would count her out. I hope all goes well.

Bridesmaid is M I A-FORGET HER

Sorry Jen, but come on she hasn't called you once???? Unless she's in jail or in a coma there is no excuse for her behavior whatsoever, why should you have to chase down your bridesmaid? I sound harsh but I had a similar experience and for all the to be brides out there some of you can relate when you finally realize who your friends are. It's not quantity it's QUALITY. Good Luck to you.