So I chose my BM mths ago...I decided to have only family since im equally close to my group of friends and I want to avoid offending someone if they are not chosen.....But My FH decided to add one more groomsmen So I now need to add another BM (and I have no other fam to add) I could either add a friend ( that is very into the whole wedding thing so I know she will help me And has already asked me to be her MOH in her future wedding) or my MOH's older sister who I always considered an older sister ( But is out of town and not gonna be there to help). Which one should I chose??
By the Way: My FH is not particularly a fan of this friend But told me its my choice.
krystalle
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It is not necessary to add another BM just because your FH added a groomsmen. I have an uneven amount and just doubled up the girl on the end.
BUT if you have to choose, I would choose the girl who asked you to be her MOH. That is just my opinion.
Good luck!
Soon2bMrsHall
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Can I do that?? It would be one girl with two guys..I didnt think that was an option and how would the pictures look
FutureJOC
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Yeah it's totally not necessary for you to add another BM if you don't want to. Unless you are a stickler about having an even number in the wedding party, it's totally fine to have the 1 BM with the 2 guys.
My brother did this at his wedding. He had 2 Best men to my SIL's 1 MOH (her sister)... they all just walked back down the aisle together - the guys on either side of the girl.
This is also what we are doing for our wedding. I have 2 MOHs to FH's 1 Best Man... when we walk back down the aisle, my two MOH's will be on either side of the Best Man.
Honestly, I think that makes for a very cute picture!
Here is actually a good article I found on this type of situation
Thank you girls...you guys are so helpful Ill def consider it being an option But if I wanted to make it an even number Which one would u chose??
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It's definitely not necessary to add another BM just b/c you got another GM. But if I had to choose, I'd say the friend b/c she asked you to be her MOH. JIMO.
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you could absolutely be uneven. I am! or you could ask both of these ladies if they are both special to you. then you can have more women than men and have 2 girls to one guy instead of the other way around, if you care about that.
slyman1101
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id leave it alone and not add anymore. imo
rdubs
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I'm uneven! I'm not worried about pictures--if you do want to ask your friend (thats how I voted), do it anyways but not b/c you are worried about numbers!
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Posted by Soon2bMrsHall
Thank you girls...you guys are so helpful Ill def consider it being an option But if I wanted to make it an even number Which one would u chose??
I kind of hear what you are saying. I am crazy with numbers and making things even. I guess its just a preference of how you want your party to look. I say, you added your friend because she is in town and she seems to already know about the wedding and what you have been doing. I know it ***** because it might cause a little drama among your friends ('I thought you said family only') but you know,its your wedding and they will understand!
FutureMrsDe
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People who are willing to help are always better. plus out of town brides maids are hard.
anneandchris
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You don't have to have an even number. We had more GM then BMs -- I refused to ask people just to even up the numbers.
We had two guys for every girl and then two MOHs and one best man.
I think my pictures look fine!
IrinaBNY
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I had the exact same dilemma.. I only included my family as my bridesmaids (and 2 friends, one my bff and one who I have been friends with since I was 11). So my FH and I had 6 and 6.. THEN he decided to add 1 more person to his.. and I REFUSED to pick between my friends.. so now our bridal party is 6 and 7..and I'm GOOD with that!!!
Oh and I have 2 MOH and he has only 1 BM. lol
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my BIL had two best men and i was the MOH, so i had to walk with the both of them so the numbers wouldn't be uneven...
BUT, if i had to choose, i would pick the friend who will help me out and already asked me to be in her wedding.
