on saturday i got all my bridesmaids together to try on the dress. everyone loved it in the e-mails & all the girls said anything i wanted to get would be fine.
WELL, thats not what happened on saturday. it was a horrible experience. i just wanted to cry in the middle of the store. i am a very quite person & every time i was in a bridal party i kept my mouth shut. whatever the bride picked, for whatever cost i didn't care. i didn't want to add more stress to a stressful situation.
i ended up being forced to show the girls a picture of my dress so they can see why i picked the dress i picked, which did help them understand. since no one lives in brooklyn i had the women in the store get all the measurements & sizes down & everyone was relatively happy with the original dress. within 2 hours one of the girls called me saying she wasn't sure about the size.
then today my mom calls me saying that my other cousin is coming on saturday to try the dress on (she couldn't make it last week because of work). so i told my mom that she has to come with us because i am not dealing with it all over again. so my mom said maybe we should look for a different dress. but i don't want to look for a different dress i like the one i picked.
then my sister texts me to tell me she doesn't want to wear that color anymore & i should pick a different shade of blue. i seriously don't need this right know. i need to have these damn dresses finalized. i have mid-terms & can't deal with all of this.
so know i am sitting at work on the verge of crying & i am absolutely miserable.
Rosalind_75
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Posted by Nina1010
Rosalind_75 or anyone else who has Qs
Tell your ladies to read this article... hope this helps.
There are other links and info for them as well. http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/bridesmaid-questions-advice.aspx
It helped.
10years ago if i was planning a wedding i probably would be a bride that said 'my day my way' pushing 34 this year has made me view things very different.
jussie82
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I know my bridesmaids are going to be like this too. Honestly, I think you just need to tell them that this is the dress, you appreciate their concerns but that you're sure they'll look beautiful. Otherwise, it's never going to end!
ita not to be a witch but it is YOUR day and the BMS should wear what you want them too...at the same time you don't want to alienate them so make sure you say something like the poster suggested above so they feel like you listened to what they had to say
They do not get a say. Tough crap if they don't like the color.
DnT2010
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honestly i would focus on your midterms.. you still have over a year til your wedding. dont let this stress you out right now!
christine2010
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thanks to everyone for your support.
FH also told me yesterday to tell them too bad its my day & thats what i want. so i spoke with my mom & sister (MOH) last night & told them that i am not changing the dress. i searched high & low for a nice dress that will flatter all body shapes. i even called a million places to get the best price.
the reason why i am stressing over this so early is because i honestly don't think every bridesmaids dress goes well with my dress. i am ordering my dress in 2 weeks & want to make sure i have a bm's dress picked out. plus the store i am ordering from says Bari Jay is currently shipping 6 weeks behind schedule.
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Aw mama that is terrible! Listen, if it makes you feel better, we all have members of the BP that we may want to kill!
Heres what I decided to do:
I took 3 of my bridesmaids with me a few weeks ago to try on the dresses i was interested in and decided on a beautiful one. In august, the bridal party needs to go to Bridal Reflections to order the dress and get fitted. For the BM's that weren't there, I emailed them the pic, and said that this was the dress that I want them to wear. So they really don't have a say.
You have to be a little selfish. My sister in law told me that its ok to be a little selfish bc you can't expect to please everyone. And if they don't like it, oh well. When its their wedding, they can pick and choose what they like. But right now its your wedding and what you say should go...
Don't worry....Be Happy... and tell them that if they keep it up you are going to make them look like cupcakes...
lori7570
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You have to stand firm because if you even give in a little they will take advantage
Oh well if they don't like it!!!
angel1219eyez
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you gotta try to relax....they shouldnt be so concerned about the dress thats not y they are there...they are there bc u want them to have a special part in your wedding...if thats the dress that you want than thats the dress that you should get bc when they get married ( or if they did) im sure there is going to be people or was people that didnt like the dress that just dealt with it...its your wedding and ur vision so do what u and ur FH want!.
