Calling guests for response

Is it rude to call guests before the RSVP date who haven't responded? I have an A and B list and am worried I won't get all responses until close to the RSVP date. That wouldn't give me enough time to send invites to the B list. Is it rude to make calls to find out who's coming from the A list?

Calling guests for response

That's the problem I had. I didn't call people before the rsvp date and then when they declined after it was too later to invite people on my B list so now I'm paying for 10 people that aren't coming!!

Calling guests for response

can't you call them, say hi, and in conversation inquire on some?

Calling guests for response

It`s all a personal choice. You know your guests, if you feel comfortable calling, then by all means call. It`s hard to have enough foresight to realize that there may be a time crunch where you want to invite others. Believe me when I say that people realize they are on the 'B list' when they don`t get an invite at least 2 months before your wedding. We didn`t extend belated invites to anyone unless we were comfortable with their knowledge that they weren`t on the 'A list'...although I do dislike those terms since I didn`t consider them in those parameters and we were fortunate enough to be able to extend a few extra invites, not purely as a filler but because they were people who either me or my husband overlooked in error. They were all thrilled to be invited and I think it helps to not try to pass it off as if they received an invite in your first mailing of the invitations. This is of course just my opinion and experience, please remember that you should do what is best for your situation. Good luck to all. I understand about not wanting to pay for plates because you don`t make your minimum, it`s quite the balancing act :o)

10 people not coming?

Hi there- You should not have to pay for anyone that is not coming at this early date. When is your final count due to the caterer? It is usually about 7-10 days prior to the wedding. You will get stuck if someone said they are coming.. and they do not show up that day- due to illness, etc

10 people not coming?

Plus, you should only get stuck paying for them if you haven't met your minimum. We had 2 no-shows that day because of illness and circumstance and because we had already met our minimum (barely!) we only had to pay for those who were actually there, not those who didn't show.

10 people not coming?

That's the problem we're now 10 people under our minimum because the people didn't rsvp in time so we couldn't invite extra people without knowing whether they were coming or not. They still haven't rsvp'd and we had fi mom call them turns out they're not coming or responding!! Nice!!