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I have been engaged for a few months and i feel that i need to call of the engagement but cant bring myself to do it. 6 months after we started dating i found out that he was talking to another girl online and on the phone about sex. I talked to her, she had saved all the online conversations and sent them to me and he lied about having a girlfirend. We talked about the issues and he promised he wouldnt never hurt me like this again. Four years later we got engaged in July, then in september i found out that he ran into a girl from high school exchanged phone numbers and he was trying to convince her to come to our house to have sex with him. When i asked him about it, he lied to me and said he had no idea what i was talking about. When he finally admitted what happened he said she never came over and that he only did it because he likes knowing that other girls were intersting in him and he liked the attention. We have been having other issues to like he expects me to do all of the house work myself. He will sit on the sofa, drinking a beer. no matter how much i ask him to help he refuses. He tells me that hes tired from a long day at work but i work full time too and still have to do the house work. He gets mad if i dont do his laundry. If dinner isnt on the table when he walks in the door hes mad for the rest of the night. I have talked to him about the problems but nothing seems to change. I know that i need to leave but cant bring myself to do it. I feel guilty wanting to leave and he tells me how much he loves me, hes sorry he messed up again, and he never wants to hurt me again. Any advice at all would be great. Thank you!
Sounds like you need to move on. I was in something like this and got out and it was the best thing for me.
My heart really goes out to you, I know that this is such a devastating and heartbreaking time in your life. My sister went through a very similiar situation they were 5 months away from getting married and her fiance' cheated on her. It is an extremely difficult thing to have to go through and it was very hard for her to throw away the 6 years that they were together even under those circumstances. But trust me the first few months will be difficult but you have to really know what you want in life and just keep saying that over and over again to yourself, because deep inside you know that you don't deserve this. You deserve to be treated like a princess. Most of all you want someone to treat you the way that you treat them and thats how it should always be. You can do it just stay strong and don't give into him when your feeling down about all this. Good luck and remember you always have us to lean on.
Sorry he is such an A__. It will only get worse., take you time.
So sorry you are going through this!!! I do not know you but it sounds like you deserve better!!! I had to end my previous engagement because my fiance kept lying to me and stole my money. I cried for months but in the end it worked out. You are worth more than this guy is giving you. Please FM if you need to talk!
WOW! I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. You really do need to leave him. Trust me you will be better off in the end. I was engaged once before and for other reasons was unhappy, I know it's hard when you have already booked things and everyone knows about the wedding and all but if you don't do it this is going to be how the rest of your life is, you deserve better! It was hard to call it off at first but I don't regret it for a minute, I ended up finding someone who treats me the way I deserve to be treated, who loves and respects me and who would do anything for me. I am truly in love. If I hadn't gotten out of my last relationship I would either be miserable or divorced by now and missing out on the best times of my life and sharing it with the person that I am really supposed to be with. Once the initial shock is over it gets easier to move on every day. Please don't marry this person, you will regret it!!!! Good luck to you, FM me if you need someone to talk to.
Not to get all technical, but there is something called the cycle of violence...and it seems like you are one step away from getting caught in it. There is such thing as emotional violence and you are victim. Not to mention the cheating, which is the name I would definitely give to both of those incidents you described. GET OUT...we are all stronger than we think, but the longer you wait the less you will believe that. Let your family/friends know ahead of time so they can support you from the second it happens. Have a plan, know exactly what you are going to do and where you are going to go when you tell him it's over. Love is important and it is nice to hear when the person we want to love us says they do, but this isn't love, it's cruel and unfair and you deserve better!
Sorry to hear that you are dealing with this problem. But, in all honestly you need to pick up and leave him. For starters, he lies too much and you can trust someone like that. You have already caught him in the act of doing something that will only hurt you in the end. It doesn't seems to me that anything bothers him. It may pain you to leave but what are you really losing. (NOTHING) But, you are keeping your sanity.
