Calling off the wedding

I'm so sorry to hear this!!!!! We are all hear for you!!
Stay strong!! Things happen for a reason

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Posted by calleditoff

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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I'm an avid poster I don' t want people to know who I am, I am hoping we are able to work this out, and I don't want to be embrassed..

BTW: Who are you I've been chatting for over 2 years & I havn't see you on that much, I'm sorry that's mean, I'm having a really big day, and the fact that you neglected the 1st post then chose to poke fun @ something so stupid, is really cruel.

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I agree, that was uncalled for. everyone is so paranoid about lurkers or fake brides on this site, so don't worry about them.

I'm really sorry about situation. Do what feels right. If your gut tells you he's not the one, then that's what's right. We are all here if you need us.

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's better to do this now than a divorce a few years down the road. I wish you the best of luck.

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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she already said she is incognito as she does not want to say who she is right now

i'm so sorry to hear this...remember there is someone out there for everyone, and maybe you two were not for each other. try and be strong (i know, easier said than done)

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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READ THE POST BEFORE YOU COMMENT LIKE THAT!

I'm sorry....don't stress....I think you're making the right move. Sometimes its not cancelled but just postponed...when its meant to happen it will, and if its not then its better you found out now. Is your hall in suffolk or nassau? If its in suffolk and your more than 6 months out they have to refund you all your $$ by law. just throwing that out there for you. I know $$ isn't the first thing you're thinking of, but its something to consider

im so sorry!!! i wish there were something i could say...but the other girls seem to be saying it best, u are doing the right thing. its going to work out for the best, whatever that is. im sorry you have to go through it but stay strong and we're here if u need to talk.

OMGGGGGGGGGGG Im sooooo sorry to hear this. I called off my wedding too and I was 7 and a half years into that relationship. Its for the better. If its not meant to be then its not worth it. I cannot tell you how happy I am right now. ANd thank the Lord Im not getting married. You will move on to bigger better things, like I did . Please FM me if you need to talk, I went through the same, Im sooo here for you.

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Posted by calleditoff

Thanks everyone. I'm so hurt and starting to get freaked out, what am I going to tell my mom, and my friends that already bought their dresses. How does a fight turn in to the Wedding's off?

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It happened to me. Please FM me if you need to talk.

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Posted by calleditoff

Thanks everyone. I'm so hurt and starting to get freaked out, what am I going to tell my mom, and my friends that already bought their dresses. How does a fight turn in to the Wedding's off?

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I think there must have been some underlying fears or something that led to that....just give it time! Let him see what life will really be like w/o u. Just let him be for now and marinade in his decision. They say time heals all wounds but time also wounds all heals....he'll realize it was a mistake and you guys will work it out, or you'll realize it was a blessing and move on as a happier person. Either way you will be ok! Good luck with everything and we'll be here for you!

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

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Posted by calleditoff

Thanks everyone. I'm so hurt and starting to get freaked out, what am I going to tell my mom, and my friends that already bought their dresses. How does a fight turn in to the Wedding's off?

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I think there must have been some underlying fears or something that led to that....just give it time! Let him see what life will really be like w/o u. Just let him be for now and marinade in his decision. They say time heals all wounds but time also wounds all heals....he'll realize it was a mistake and you guys will work it out, or you'll realize it was a blessing and move on as a happier person. Either way you will be ok! Good luck with everything and we'll be here for you!

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Thanks. I was going to change who I was and I decided not to, and it's off at the next tiff

you cant change who you are and neither can he
you cant change people and all too often people think they can

we are who we are and be proud of yourself

anyone who already bought a dress, cares WAY more about your happiness than $$

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Posted by calleditoff

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

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Posted by calleditoff

Thanks everyone. I'm so hurt and starting to get freaked out, what am I going to tell my mom, and my friends that already bought their dresses. How does a fight turn in to the Wedding's off?

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I think there must have been some underlying fears or something that led to that....just give it time! Let him see what life will really be like w/o u. Just let him be for now and marinade in his decision. They say time heals all wounds but time also wounds all heals....he'll realize it was a mistake and you guys will work it out, or you'll realize it was a blessing and move on as a happier person. Either way you will be ok! Good luck with everything and we'll be here for you!

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Thanks. I was going to change who I was and I decided not to, and it's off at the next tiff

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YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE!!! The wole purpose of a marriage is that you ACCEPT that person for who they are...flaws and all...i think that's why maybe alot of marriages end in divorce because people believe that they can or will change and unless you have an addiction or are involved in something completely unhealthy, you should really never have to change who you are! If he didn't understand that, then maybe it is better that you guys are stepping back a bit. Were you together long?

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Posted by Snowflake08

you cant change who you are and neither can he
you cant change people and all too often people think they can

we are who we are and be proud of yourself

anyone who already bought a dress, cares WAY more about your happiness than $$

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I agree with Laura....please don't think that your friends will begrudge you your happiness over a friggin dress!

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

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Posted by calleditoff

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

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Posted by calleditoff

Thanks everyone. I'm so hurt and starting to get freaked out, what am I going to tell my mom, and my friends that already bought their dresses. How does a fight turn in to the Wedding's off?

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I think there must have been some underlying fears or something that led to that....just give it time! Let him see what life will really be like w/o u. Just let him be for now and marinade in his decision. They say time heals all wounds but time also wounds all heals....he'll realize it was a mistake and you guys will work it out, or you'll realize it was a blessing and move on as a happier person. Either way you will be ok! Good luck with everything and we'll be here for you!

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Thanks. I was going to change who I was and I decided not to, and it's off at the next tiff

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YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE!!! The wole purpose of a marriage is that you ACCEPT that person for who they are...flaws and all...i think that's why maybe alot of marriages end in divorce because people believe that they can or will change and unless you have an addiction or are involved in something completely unhealthy, you should really never have to change who you are! If he didn't understand that, then maybe it is better that you guys are stepping back a bit. Were you together long?

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thank you I think we were, 6 years. His mother joked about me 'changing' if we were ever to get married, since way early on, like first month of dating

Im so sorry to hear my prayers are with you during this time

I'm so sorry..i hope everything works out for the best..and if you ever need to talk..we're here..be strong..and good luck

I'm sorry to hear this!