Calling off the wedding

OMG I am so sorry sweetie! I don't know if there is anything I can say that hasn't been said already, but just know that everything happens for a reason, and also that we are all here for you!

I am so sorry But it takes a lot of strength at this point to call it off and be smart about what your planning on doing with your..so be proud of yourself and hold you head up high!!!

Much Love to you. Mary MOB

Oh my gosh!!!!!!!!!

I'm so so sorry for this. It breaks my heart reading this. It's almost as if 2008 is really making people have cold feet.

All of my thoughts are with you during this time.

07'er crashing. I was in your situation a few years ago and called it off. Same situation. You should not have to change yourself, he should love you for who you are. I believe certain things are a preview of marriage and it sounds like you are too good to have to be miserable. It is gut wrenching now. I remember not getting out of bed.

However, I then met my soul mate. We love each other for each other. We were married on November 18.

Moral: As I once heard on SATC: don't settle for anything less than butterflies. Things happen for a reason and maybe it is because your soul mate is waiting for you.

And trust me, I learned it is better to know before you walk down the aisle instead of once you are married and have to deal with divorce.

everyone's words sum it up. you cant change anyone NOR should you. stay strong!

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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Uncalled for-

I agree with all these ladies.

You can not changed to be in a relationship. I hate to say it but my FMIL tried that, her marriage lasted 20 + years then ended very bitterly.
The people who spent the money will get over it. Also those people might have more insight about you and this relationship then you may think. It is very possible they have seen the stress and pain that you have had with this man over the pass few years. People can be very intuitive, even if they stay quiet about your relationship to you.

The vendors have been through this before and you will come out stronger.

There are a bunch of brides who ended a relationship with a marriage called off and they are back and getting married to a wonderful man this time.

I am sorry that you are so sad, and hurting.

You are not the first and certainly wont be the last. Everything has its purpose. You will soon look back on this and whatever the outcome you will see why this happened.

Trust me....this will make you stronger.

I am so sorry. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I wish you all the best.

It's like Blu said in her post... Everything happens for a reason. Hang in there and know that we're here for you!

i'm so sorry! i hope that everything works out for you- but if you need anything, please let me know!

I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK IN THE FUTURE. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. I AM SO SO SO SORRY YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS RIGHT NOW. I ALSO THINK THAT PEOPLE NEED TO STOP BEING NOSY AND NOT WORRY ABOUT WHO YOU ARE AND THAT YOU ARE GOING UNDERCOVER I WOULD TOO. THIS IS A TOUGH TIME FOR YOU AND JUST KNOW THAT WE ARE ALL HERE.

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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GIVE THE GIRL A BREAK

So sorry! We're here if you need to talk

I am so sorry that you are going through this

As you can clearly see we are all here for you and you have numerous people just waiting to get an FM from you to help you out.... including me!

I'm soooo sorry!!

So sorry you are going through this. Best of luck to you

So sorry you are going through this. In a relationship, we each need to give and take, compromise a little, but you can't expect anyone to change completely, nor should you change yourself. I hope everything works out for the best for you.