Calling off the wedding

Im really sorry about everything you are going through. You shouldnt have to change for anyone and you need to just remind yourself that this was for the best and there is someone out there who is going to love you for you.

Good luck

I'm so sorry for the pain yuo are in, just make sure to take care of yourself. That is what is the most important.

My thoughts are with you

I'm here with the 800 other gals if you need anything! please 'turn' to us!!! I'm sorry you're going through a rough time - but I echo everyone here in saying everything for a reason! You're future still holds the MOST AMAZING DAY OF YOUR LIFE...it's just going to be on different day then you though

to you! I'm sorry to hear this and as everyone else said- you know we're here if you need to talk!!

i agree with the other girls - you should never have to change....if he doesnt love you for who you are than its his loss.....

dont worry about people who already bought dresses - they will get over it - its really not a big deal and if they make it a big deal well to bad for them - if they are your friends/family they should be supporting you during this time and YOU should be more important to them then a dress

we are all here to listen. im really sorry that you are hurting. i hate to hear that you called off the wedding but at the same time i am sure you know that it is better off this way. maybe you guys will work it out - maybe you won't but whatever happens its better than going through with a marriage that is doomed from the start. time apart will either bring you guys back together and make you stronger or it will give you the opportunity to find your true soulmate - so there is a bright side to all of this.....

once again, i am truly sorry - lots of hugs

So sorry to hear - as someone who has gone through a divorce - i think your very wise to not go through with it if your not 100% certain. I made the mistake of trying to convince myself my ex-husbands would change or grow up and of course that didnt happen.

I learned the hard way that i was trying to convince myself of something that just wasnt there. And now i am finally marrying the man i should at 32.

Always be true to yourself and your feelings - in the end you will be happy! Good luck!!

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Posted by Belongs2DanBuckley

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Posted by calleditoff

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Posted by calleditoff

Thanks everyone. I'm so hurt and starting to get freaked out, what am I going to tell my mom, and my friends that already bought their dresses. How does a fight turn in to the Wedding's off?

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I think there must have been some underlying fears or something that led to that....just give it time! Let him see what life will really be like w/o u. Just let him be for now and marinade in his decision. They say time heals all wounds but time also wounds all heals....he'll realize it was a mistake and you guys will work it out, or you'll realize it was a blessing and move on as a happier person. Either way you will be ok! Good luck with everything and we'll be here for you!

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Thanks. I was going to change who I was and I decided not to, and it's off at the next tiff

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YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE!!! The wole purpose of a marriage is that you ACCEPT that person for who they are...flaws and all...i think that's why maybe alot of marriages end in divorce because people believe that they can or will change and unless you have an addiction or are involved in something completely unhealthy, you should really never have to change who you are! If he didn't understand that, then maybe it is better that you guys are stepping back a bit. Were you together long?

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I couldn't have said it better. Sometimes people get married knowing that things aren't right, but they go through with it anyway with the hopes that they can change someone. I dated a guy for 5 years and although I *loved* him, everyday I was trying to change him and he ended up resenting me for it in the end and we broke up. I wanted him to get a *real* job, and treat me better, be more sentimental, etc and the more I pushed these things ON him, the further I pushed him away... So I am POSITIVE you are an AMAZING woman and you will find a man that doesn't need to be changed, or that doesn't want you to change. We all deserve to have someone love us for the EXACT person we are, don't you agree?

Anyway, stay strong and hang in there. There is a bigger plan for you out there, I know it!

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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how the hell does THIS help???

seriously---wrong post to make jokes.

So sorry you have to go through this

Everything happens for a reason...so no matter what happens, look forward to finding the happiness and love you deserve!

Im so sorry!
I hope everything works out in the end!!!!

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Posted by MJDoc12

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Posted by queenbean

wow, says you got engaged in 2013. That is awesome.

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how the hell does THIS help???

seriously---wrong post to make jokes.

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yeah seriously.

anyways, hugs for you

I'm so sorry sweetie! I've been through something similar and I know it's a really hard time for you! Please FM me if you want to chat! We're all here for you and although it might not seem like it right now....things will get better...I PROMISE!

I am so sorry to read your post, and All the girls are here for you, I hope you can work things out , and if not you can always come on the board and vent to us, and talk with the girls, because this is a very emotional time,
Lots of hugs

I am so sorry you are going through this! Please FM me if you need to talk!

omg im sooo sorry to hear that

I hope everything goes well

good luck

I am so sorry to hear this. It is tough situations like this that make you stronger as an individual.

I am sure it hurts like hell know, but in the long run I am sure you will be much happier.

I am really sorry you are going through this. Nothing we are going to say is going to make you feel all better, but know we are all here if you want to talk or vent.

WE LOVE YOU!!