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Can it get worse or even better??? Prayers needed.

Original post by Jen_n_Dale

Ok many of you know my tale of woe. You all are an amazing bunch for reading. I just need to get this out because I just got home. I normally would be venting with co-workers.

My grandma who has been in a nursing home since May had to be transported out of the one she was in because they closed the vent unit. It was extremely convenient for us because it was literally 2 minutes away. My mom who is handicapped was able to visit her every day because it was not far to walk.

My grandmother is now further from us and where she is now, it was too long for my mom to walk, so I visit her every day. She is dying from cancer and she basically is a vegetable. No response what-so-ever.

I go visit my grandma tonight and she has maggots, yes maggots in her mouth and nose. She is now going to the hospital so they can find out where they are coming from. The staff looked at me like I had lobsters crawling out of my ears when I told them.

This woman has gone through so much why can't God take her already???

She had breast cancer in April, as soon as she came out of surgery it set off dementia and she went nuts, she slipped into a coma and we had to call for an ambulance. They put her on a vent. (she had no proxy so the hospital made the decision because we were not at the hospital yet.) She had surgery just before she left the nursing home because she had a bedsore that was going to her bone. Like I have said, there is no response. She is not in that body any more. It just hurts to see her this way. Animals are treated better. Sorry so long girls.
Donna Posted:

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I'm sorry that you are going through this, you'll be in my thoughts...
And please report this incident to the proper authorities, that is completely unacceptable
Sage10.03 Posted:

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I can not even imagine what that must have been like for you to see that...I am so sorry.
I will pray for your grandmother to go in peace...

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers....
MrsTC Posted:

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that is so sad- sorry to hear that Jen. I pray that things get better for her. What an inhumane way to be treated. Can you report this to someone?
nylisa Posted:

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Jen, I am so sorry to hear about your Grandmother and all that you are going through. Remember that we are all here for you and may your Grandmother eventually go to a better place (I hope that does not sound mean).

StayandJohn Posted:

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Oh my God I am so sorry!! It makes me cry everytime I see elderly neglect, you need to report these people IMMEDIATELY!! Vegetable or not she is still a human being and this is totally unacceptable. to you and your family
Marcela1654 Posted:

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I'm so sorry Jen I can only imagine what you're are going through right now. Your grandma will be in my thougths and prayers
kmcwed Posted:

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Jen, I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I agree with the other poster, you need to contact someone and report this nursing home.

I completely understand how you feel. My grandmother lived with us, too. She started to get dementia in her 80s, and lived to be almost 98. Throughout that whole time, she still lived with us because we promised we would never put her in a home if we were able to care for her ourselves. It was a complete horror and nightmare to watch someone you love deteriorate physically and mentally. Dealing with the dementia was also a nightmare. She died three years ago, and I was holding her hand. Even though it was so sad, at the same time there was an element of relief when she passed away. The stress was finally over. I can relate when you said you wish God would take her.

Hang in there. Know that you are doing your very best, and from what it sounds like, you're doing more than your share. Try to take care of yourself, because the stress can make you sick. And report that nursing home--the Board of Health or somebody needs to know about it--even if it's 'Shame on You' or 'Seven on your Side' or one of those news things.

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