Can someone explain to me why...(Last vent before the wedding)

people who arent involved in your life the LEAST BIT get insulted if theyre not invited to your wedding and then say, 'You have a lot of family who would love to see you get married' WHY? Why would they love to see us get married when we havent had a phone call from anyone for years?? If people arent close family, why do they feel they have the right to be insulted? Is it because they wont be able to enjoy the open bar and free food?? God, weddings are annoying. This is my LAST VENT til my wedding! Thanks for listening

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

I know I will get a lot of that, but if you don't even know who my FH is, you have no right to be insulted.

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give you a dollar and an invite, plus one, if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give a a dollar and an invite plus one if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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love it

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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EXACTLY! Not one phone call on his birthday. If you feel like you would LOVE to see my FH get married, why didnt you call him after his father died regularly to see how he was holding up?? But you would LOOOOOOOVE to see him get married??? Its just stupid and they try and make you feel like youre the a sshole.

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give a a dollar and an invite plus one if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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That is awsome!

I am sorry that you are having a rough time with this, I have a feeling I am going to sail the same ship as you soon!

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give a a dollar and an invite plus one if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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Right?! And its not like these people are mean or anything but a my space comment here and there doesnt exactly equal keeping in touch.

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give a a dollar and an invite plus one if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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Right?! And its not like these people are mean or anything but a my space comment here and there doesnt exactly equal keeping in touch.

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you hit the nail on the head... they don't want to miss the party... the food, the music... THE ALCOHOL... and i'm sure they are dating someone that wants to see you and FH get married as well... sorry, i get touchy when it comes to invites

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give a a dollar and an invite plus one if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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Right?! And its not like these people are mean or anything but a my space comment here and there doesnt exactly equal keeping in touch.

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you hit the nail on the head... they don't want to miss the party... the food, the music... THE ALCOHOL... and i'm sure they are dating someone that wants to see you and FH get married as well... sorry, i get touchy when it comes to invites

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ITS TRUE though! If I would have sent out invites on a paper bag that said we were getting married in a trailer near the Jersey Turnpike, I doubt we would have had as many RSVPs back as we did. It really upsets people when they arent invited somewhere where theres free booze and food. Dont act like youre happy for us. And after the wedding, is it right back to not keeping in touch again???

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Posted by yelley77

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Posted by Espo22

DID ANY of these ppl even congratulate you on your engagement? or ever call on your birthday or anything? probably not since you said you haven't had contact with them in a long time. Why they feel they should be invited to the wedding then i have no clue

don't worry about it, they'll get over it and if not its not your problem...like you said, you haven't spoken to them in years so not like you have to deal with them on a regular basis

just ignore people and tell it like it is if youre asked

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I say, 'i'll give you a dollar and an invite, plus one, if you can tell me what FH's last name is'

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I THINK that might just solve the problem

They're just jealous they cant eat great food.. dance.. and have a grand ol' time at YOUR WEDDING!

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Posted by kristin597

So sorry you have this stress so close to your wedding. My FMIL is not speaking to us because we are not inviting her sisters. These 'aunts' have not seen FH in over 10 years and have never met me, despite living one town over! Invite who you want and who is special to you! If it is so important for them to see you get married you would think that being a part of your everyday lives would have been equally important also.

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Exactly. Sorry youre FMIL is doing that to you. It shocks me that were trying to marry the person we love and people are getting ANGRY at us for it. Its just funny.

I read somewhere on LIW a bride that said 'I don't want to have to say the words nice to meet you at my wedding' and this is a guideline I would like to follow.

I can understand not knowing someones date, but if someone hasn't been in your life in the last 5 years (and thats stretching it) then they shouldn't be invited.