Can someone read this and let me know what you would think if you got this email-VERY LONG!!
civic24ex
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My friend wrote this email to her friend who is getting married and wants her & the sister to pay for the entire bridal shower. My freind does not make a lot of money and has tried to explain to her friend this but she really doesnt want to hear it I guess? She wrote this email and sent it to me first to see if it is rude. I dont think it is too rude but i wanted to get your opinions first. Thanks!!!
Hey Jess, I hope you don't think I am being bitchy lately, but a lot is going on. I am totally willing to help out with the shower, but to be honest, I wasn't planning on it costing this much. We all know that right now money is tight. I am trying my best to help, but I feel as though I am coming short. I spoke to Steph last night. I told her that I probably wouldn't be able to come with all of the money last night. I got paid today and paid the bills I had to pay first like I do every paycheck. The money I was left with after everything was $200. I took $100 for you and I could take $40 from my savings leaving $26 in there. I know that scraping everything together, I can only bring $140 with me Saturday. I don't know if Steph expects me to bring more with me that day, but there is no way possible. I can send more money after I get paid June 1. I hope you don't think this is in any way fucked up of me, its just that I have been stressing on what to do and I can't give what I don't have. As it is, I now have $100 to spend till June 1 and thats before gas, tolls, and personal expenses. I guess what I am trying to say here is that I wasn't expecting all of this at this time. I want you to be happy and have a great shower. I have never done anything like this and the showers I have gone to or heard about if the family doesn't throw it, then its the whole bridal party who chips in. I am in no way a cheap person at all, but I can't give what I don't have. I would give you the world if I could!! I hope you don't think I am being distant, but I am pretty stressed out right now. I know you are stressed as well! Its not easy to plan a wedding! Jess, I love you to death and want you to be so happy so I hope this doesn't sound rude, I just don't know what else to say. I will definitely bring the $140 with me and when I get paid in 2 weeks I can send her a little more. I just hope you understand where I am coming from. It also hurts my feelings that when we speak on the phone you hardly ever ask how I am doing or whats going on in my life. I am sure it is because you have a lot on your mind, but it ***** that you don't know much about whats going on with me lately. I know you aren't doing on purpose but it still hurts. Please write back when you have a second. I don't want you to get a bad vibe from this e-mail, I just need to get it all out!
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Awwww!!!! I don't think thats a bad email to send. I hope they work it out!
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Wow if my friend wrote this to me I would tell her to not even stress about it and I would give her the money she needs.
This poor girl is obviously living paycheck to paycheck and cannot afford to do these things for the bride.
I wouldnt want any of my girls to have worries like this about my shower, etc.
civic24ex
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Thanks, I didnt think it was either but she thinks she was b!tchy. I'll have to show her this thread! lol
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Well, personally, that last part is a little harsh for a bride to read. I think a lot of brides get so wrapped up in the whole wedding process that they totally lose sight of things going on. I think if she leaves that part out she might get a little more positive response. It doesn't make it right but she might want to say that in person or on the phone, instead of through an e-mail. But the money situated is worded perfectly.
But why is she telling the bride about paying? Is the bride paying for her shower? I 'm confusedd.....
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I feel so bad for her! She's being totally upfront and didn't even need to go into such detail about her finances.
I hope it all works out and they enjoy the shower!
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No the bride for some reason is planning her shower. She lives in CT and my friend lives here. She decided one day that the sister and my friend would be paying for the shower and she just has to bring money. My friend said she would have spoken with the sister (who is 20 and in school so she works part time and does not have money as well) and she would have planned the shower in the backyard and made it nice bc it would have saved them money on renting a room for the day. It just hard for her bc she was just in my wedding and has 3 more weddings to attend (not in the wedding itself) so its a lot of $$ for her. Plus she has to pay gas and tolls and she just doesnt have it.
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Posted by civic24ex
No the bride for some reason is planning her shower. She lives in CT and my friend lives here. She decided one day that the sister and my friend would be paying for the shower and she just has to bring money. My friend said she would have spoken with the sister (who is 20 and in school so she works part time and does not have money as well) and she would have planned the shower in the backyard and made it nice bc it would have saved them money on renting a room for the day. It just hard for her bc she was just in my wedding and has 3 more weddings to attend (not in the wedding itself) so its a lot of $$ for her. Plus she has to pay gas and tolls and she just doesnt have it.
Ugh, that is such a tricky situation. I think she has every right to mention teh money thing since the bride planned her entire shower and then expected a certain amount of money from these two people, your friend never agreed to pay that much. I am so sorry she is going through this but she's right in saying, she cannot give what she doesn't have. And if the bride has a problem with it, honestly, she probably should have talked with your friend and her sister about the expenses to see what they could all afford. JMO
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Thats what I was saying. I did not know about my shower nor did I plan it and then decide who whas paying what. I don't know what her family background is so I cannot fault her on that bc maybe her family isnt the type to throw one or maybe they don't have money too, It isn't our (my friend I mean) place to judge. I think she should just tell the girl how she feels. I would be so upset if I knew one of my girls was stressed bc of me. But you are right. i think the last part should come out bc now that i think of it she may think that my friend is just mad at her for not asking how she is and stuff and that it may all just be an excuse to get out of paying.
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I don't think it's rude at all! And I can't believe that it's only 2 paying for the shower! Where's the rest of the BP!!
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I don't think it's rude at all! And I can't believe that it's only 2 paying for the shower! Where's the rest of the BP!!
Good question, lol my friend is friends with 2 of the other girls in teh bridal party and they werent asked to pay anything. Just the 2 MOH were asked.
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I also think the bride has nerve TELLING them to pay for her shower.
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I also think the bride has nerve TELLING them to pay for her shower.
I said the very same thing!
D&C
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I think your friend should email this thread to the bride
OctRo05
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It is a bad situation. If the email is edited slightly to take out the strongest #@!* words and adjust the comment re: the bride's focus, it hopefully be received well. JMO Good luck to your friend!
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I just can't believe this bride planned her own shower, dictated who should pay...That's INSANE! If she is so involved, she should start chipping in her own $$ or ask her own family (parents, whomever...). I feel really badly for your friend....
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I think it is very nicely written and i would totally understand. I know how it feels to be strapped as does everybody else. Wish her good luck on the email.
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I don't think it is bad, BUT I would suggest calling her and telling her over the phone. Alot of things can be misinterpreted over e-mail and I just think if this is one of her best friends she should talk to her about it.
I can't believe she expects 2 people to pay for her entire shower that SHE planned. She has a lot of nerve if you ask me.
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I don't think it is bad, BUT I would suggest calling her and telling her over the phone. Alot of things can be misinterpreted over e-mail and I just think if this is one of her best friends she should talk to her about it.
I can't believe she expects 2 people to pay for her entire shower that SHE planned. She has a lot of nerve if you ask me.
I agree with every word of this
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Wow if my friend wrote this to me I would tell her to not even stress about it and I would give her the money she needs.
This poor girl is obviously living paycheck to paycheck and cannot afford to do these things for the bride.
I wouldnt want any of my girls to have worries like this about my shower, etc.
