Can you believe a florists actually called me to see....

Specks and Peck actually called me yesterday and left me a message asking if I would like to come in and see their unique flowers arrangements. I could not believe my hears. My wedding is not for 14 months. For all they know someone in my family could have been killed in this tragedy. At a time like this who cares about flowers for a wedding. I called the offices and the owner said that he was unaware of it and is appauld. As he should be. If anyone else has gotten these types of messages from vendors please call the owners and tell them how disguisting you think it is.

Can you believe a florists actually called me to see....

That is disgusting. My husband called to cancel a cruise we have booked for 2 weeks from now. Simply because we are not in spirits to enjoy ourselves, our country may be at war, etc etc etc (we thought this was a 'no explanation necessary' situation. Well the response he got was 'we all lost people too... and terrorist attacks are not covered in the agreement if you read the fine print' (and very nasty and obnoxious, needless to say) and he had to argue with management on the phone over this. Its still not resolved. Im waiting for a call back from them.. I am ready to SCREAMMM At the top of my lungs...

No, I can't...

I am surprised that Spits and Peck was so insensitive, but I doubt that it was intentional. I can understand that businesses are trying to get back to 'normal' as much as possible. I am personally upset that my company is not as 'sensitive' to the tragedy as I would like them to be, but their rationale is that people need normalcy to maintain a sense of comfort and safety. As difficult as it might be, perhaps that is what the person from Spits and Peck who called you was trying to do. We all need to show each other compassion - even vendors.

Can you believe a florists actually called me to see....

I understand how you feel, unfortunately, some business do have to make calls now. I know its horrible to get a soliciting call but maybe the person also wanted to get focused on something else. My two cousins are in the city (one is missing-NYPD and one a firefighter-his brother). To get me through this, I am at work. Yes, its very hard but I cant sit by the phone waiting minute by minute and watching the tv hoping to see his face. I have dont that for the past few days. I am going crazy. I work for an insurance company and have to sell business. I hate soliciting people right now but I do have to follow up on past quotes and late payments. However, when I do call I tell them (or the machine) that I hope all is well with them and their family and if this is a bad time, I am so sorry to bother them and again emphasize I hope everyone is ok and say why I am calling. Yes it is different from soliciting business because I have had contact with them before, however maybe they are in the same situation as I am and need to keep busy and they are focusing on wedding arrangements instead of funeral arrangements. I am not trying to say this is OK but it might be their way of dealing with it and they dont know what you are going through. The owner may have made them call and when you called, denied knowledge of it. I hope this makes you feel better. My wedding is in 2 weeks and not knowing where my cousin is is hurting me and my family tremendously, however his wife and 2 young children have to go about living and hope and pray he comes home very soon.

Leyann

I am so very sorry to hear about your cousin. I can only imagine what you must be going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Can you believe a florists actually called me to see....

I think that as others have said perhaps they are trying to get back to normalcy. One of the worst things about this tragedy is the negative impact that it has on our economy. People do not want to go out and spend money and do the things they normally do because they are feeling sad and depressed. Businesses still must go on and to do that they need sales. I understand your feeling that the vendor was insensitive, but looking at it from a business perspective I also understand why they called.

I still don't think that call was right

I really don't. I think it would have been fine to confirm arrangements that were already made, even to say 'Please let us know if and when you will be ready to discuss flowers for your upcoming wedding. We would be happy to work with you' I wish I could play the message for you all. She was upbeat and excited. I have never even called this vendor before so it is not the same as following-up. Plus I have 14 months so it is not like I am running out of time. I understand people want to get back to normal. Trust me. I was in NYC while this was happening. I cannot wait for normal again.

Think about the larger picture...

I don't think that anyone is saying that the solicitation call was right, Michele. I think that everyone agrees it wasn't appropriate, however each person deals with conflict differently and perhaps the owner did not take a leadership role in providing guidelines for his employees, in light of the events. This is irresponsible on his part. My advice to you is, since you have already expressed your displeasure with the owner, do not use Spits and Peck for your wedding flowers. That speaks volumes about how you feel.

Think about the larger picture...

I agree that the florist call was out of line ( I received a similar call from a videographer). However, to the couple who are cancelling their cruise: I don't think they should have to refund your money b/c you are depressed (no matter how understandbly so). This company still has to sail the ship and pay its expenses as well as continue to make a profit. Im sure you don't want anyone losing their jobs due to layoffs - and thats what companies will have to do if sales decline substantially enough. If you really don't want to go, then just forgo the trip and lose the money.

Wendy

Thank you very much. We remain positive he will be found alive. Especially since they hear tapping (or did yesterday)in numerous areas. I probably sound selfish keeping myself busy and not thinking about it but I just cant anymore. I keep the tv on now in the background but I try to tune it out unless I hear something break. While I pray for him, I pray for every one else lost there. Keep the faith, there have to be some still alive just waiting. I know if it was me, I would be waiting for my rescue! Thank you again Wendy.

Leyann...

I don't believe that you are selfish at all. Everyone handles tragedy in their own way. I haven't read the paper and not watched much TV. I tend to be really emotional anyway(I cry at commercials)so I would have trouble living my life at all if I did not tune this out somewhat. Going to work gives you something to do that takes your mind in a different direction for a while. It is certainly a coping mechanism and one that many people are using. I hope that you can keep strong and begin to look forward to your special day(which is pretty close). Good luck and let me know how you are.

This happened to me too...

I got home Tuesday to find a message on my answering machine (left at 2pm) from my hall telling me that they wanted to set up an appt for me to come in to pay my 3/4 deposit for my wedding next month. Couldn't this have waited a day or two? Honestly it could have waited a week or two, since its over a month before my date. I was so disgusted I haven't called them back.

Why not focus on all the people who have been kind...

..understanding, compassionate and gentle. Don`t be angry or irritated at these vendors who are try ing to continue their business as usual. I find it hard to believe anyone is unaffected by last week`s events and I`m sure that it is a way to try to return to some normalcy. I thought I could do that myself on Thursday and it didn`t quite happen. Blessings to all.

Elizabeth

I hope you weren't responding specifically to my post. Return to normalcy? This call was approx 5 hours after everyones world came crashing down. As far as we knew it was still happening. At that time I (and many others) were walking home from Manhattan to Queens. God Bless.

Kate

I`m not sure why you think it my comment was directed at you but no, I wasn`t responding to you. The entire thread is about vendors and I was offering a compassionate comment.

Everyone handles tragedy differently

I think the bottom line is that people handle devastating news differently. Like Elizabeth said, it`s impossible for anyone not to be affected by what happened last week. However, people don't handle tragedy the same way - some cannot think about anything else other than what happened, others throw themselves back into work. Personally, I had planned a few things related to wedding planning last week, and I didn`t feel it was right, nor did I care at the moment about planning my wedding. However, everyone has the right to deal with this in their own way.

Everyone handles tragedy differently

I had to handle things differently. With my wedding only 11 days away I still had to get my marriage license, and make my final payment to the catering hall, as well as go to the doctor for an agonizing hip ache. All of these things were done within the 2 days after this tragedy. For me it helped me to do what I needed to do. It certainly doesn't mean that my thoughts and prayers were not with those affected, which included some of my former co-workers in 1 WTC at Empire Blue Cross. I cried and mourned and my heart felt broken. But we who remain behind must go on living. This is how we as a nation will survive and how we can show the rest of the world just how tough we really are. And perhaps..just perhaps, the person who called you was not aware of what had happened. Or perhaps they simply had a job to do and they did it.