So, I heard through the grapevine that my FMIL is upset and thinks our wedding is eclipsing her 60th birthday, which is 3 days after our wedding.
Explains why she seems rather uninterested in the entire event...
BUT - it's upsetting to both me and FH. FMIL and I have always gotten along and this has most definitely caused a rift. And FH just found out his father may not be coming to the wedding, so to have his MOM not be excited about it too is just killing him...
Any suggestions? I just keep reminding FH that we have our friends coming and we will have a great time - no matter what!
VadersBride2006
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Posted by Kara and Todd
If you plan to sit down and have a chat with her, you and your FH need to be prepared for it to do no good. Maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing and a talk will help -- but if not, you have to acknowledge that you can't control her feelings or her actions. You should instead try to focus on all the people who really DO care.
Yes, I KNOW that is much easier said than done (trust me, my FH's family couldn't give a rat's behind about our wedding - they haven't even responded to our wedding yet!) -- but just try to be prepared for it.
I'm really sorry you're going through this and sorry for your FH, too. Try not to focus on the negative. Focusing on the positive will bring much more positive things and good into your lives and your wedding.
That's exactly what I told him. I just got off the phone with my MOH and she told me she can't wait for the wedding to be over so she can tell me all the stories. She said she called her mom at one point and said she didn't know what to do and her MOTHER could not believe the sh*t people have pulled during this time! I guess it is good we are only a month away, lol!
diva7531
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Well, to be honest, I think your FMIL needs to grow up and get over herself.
I'd not have a bday cake for her at the reception, but if you're okay with it, that's fine.
I'd maybe have one at the RD. That might put her in a better mood for the wedding the next day.
You're under no obligation to make a huge deal out of her bday (three days AFTER your wedding) at your wedding.
I have to say I like the idea of maybe turning the RD into her Bday party. In fact I would not even mention bday to her at all and then have the RD be her bday party. FH wanted to throw a huge party for his mom this year, it is her 60th too. But we couldn't afford it with the wedding, so we just took her to dinner! GL
