Can you f'in believe this?!!??! Edited...bc it got even worse

Well firstly, My sister threw me the most amazing bridal shower at Milk and Sugar! It was more than I could ask for!

Here's the kicker...that made everyone take a 2nd look and go'W T F'. Besides FSIL having an attitude the whole time and even FMIL having a slight attitude throughout the shower.......
after we took some pics of me and my BMs and a pic of me and my mom and sister by the fireplace and presents....
all of FH's family grouped together behind my shower cake to take a family photo of 3 generations (as FMIL voiced loudly) It was FH's grandma, FMIL, FSIL, FH's SIL and her mother, and FH's 2 neices.....all standing behind my cake taking a picture!
I was beyond hurt and felt so disrespected that they made a spectacle and did NOT even ask me to be in the picture, it is my shower and all and I would hope that I am welcomd into the family. I seriously looked in amazement and shock at what was going on. I could not believe that they could be so rude and disrespectful to me. A few people even came up to me to ask if I was OK, but I must have had a look of shock!
I don't even know how to approach this. I'm waiting to see when FMIL shows me pics and then I may tell her how hurt I was with that.

I seriously can not believe how horrible people can be


Edited: I decided not to mention anything to FH when he got home from work. SO he stopped by his parents house to pick up our RSVPs......well I got a knot in my stomach and a weird feeling....and when he got home he was visably upset.
Apparently...his mom told him all the nonsense that went on throughout the shower...before, during..blah, blah, blah...all from her point of view (ehich excludes all the nonsense she has done). and then his dad said my mom had an attitude.
SO FH is upset, does not not how our families can get along....and has barely talked to me and is still in bed right now, that i had to call up the RH to reschedule our final menu that was supposed to be today. I am so upset right now and don't know what to do. I'm scared to say anything to my mom or sister bc I don't want this to get worse.
A month before the wedding and everything is going to sh. it I am beyond upset.

oh no!! that is terrible!! i cant believe they did that! you should have def been included in that!! espcially because they decided to take it at YOUR shower!!
i would talk to the FH and have him talk to his mother!

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Posted by coldasice217

Wow, that's really bizarre. I mean, I can kind of understand if the extended family isn't together very often, and they wanted to get a group shot because they didn't know if that opportunity would present itself again...but you should have been asked to be included, because YOU are going to be extended family too. So sorry you had to go through that.

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They see each other often. I felt like it was a dig or something. I am just so hurt. I want to tell FH but don't know if he would understand or even say something to his mom, which would make me feel so much worse.

That stinks!!! I would definately talk to FH and have him talk to his mom and explain how inappropriate her behavior was and how much she hurt you.
Not that this can compare in the least, but at my shower my mom kicked me out of a couple of pictures so she could have them with her and her friends. Some of these friends I had asked her not to invite btw.

GL

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Posted by smrsun

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Posted by coldasice217

Wow, that's really bizarre. I mean, I can kind of understand if the extended family isn't together very often, and they wanted to get a group shot because they didn't know if that opportunity would present itself again...but you should have been asked to be included, because YOU are going to be extended family too. So sorry you had to go through that.

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They see each other often. I felt like it was a dig or something. I am just so hurt. I want to tell FH but don't know if he would understand or even say something to his mom, which would make me feel so much worse.

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You should try to tell him, if he sees that you are hurt he should care and if he doesn't know what to say to his mom - tell him but emphasize that you want HIM to talk to her b/c you feel uncomfortable and hurt.

Im sorry they upset you..that stinks. I wills ay this though...since the moment has passed I think talking about it and having FH talk to his family might just bring conflict that doesnt need to be there...Id let it go..in laws can be tricky but I am learning that we need to pick our battles. GL

ETA: I might say to her (while looking at pictures) I would have loved to be included, it hurt me that you didnt ask me. But i wouldnt go into the 'Spectacle' that was made ya know? Again, this is just my opinion

Losers

Sorry, I'm a little immature today

That is so so rude I am so sorry about this. I would def. let her know how hurt you were by this.

Ridiculousssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My shower was also yesterday and FSIL was a raging lunatic...jealous much?

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Posted by KittyGags

Ridiculousssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My shower was also yesterday and FSIL was a raging lunatic...jealous much?

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Totally!!!! My sister gave her 1 duty to take pics while I was opening gifts....I think she took 5 pics total. and was mumbling stuff under her breath the whole time. grrrr.

I hope you enjoyed your shower!!!

I'll ait for FH to get home from work to talk to him about it. But I think it would just cause a little fight between me and him

I'm so sorry that you went through this at your shower

ugh....they're just going to look like the idiots tho...i can picture a conversation.

'so, where was this picture taken? so lovely with all the generations...blah, blah, blah'

'oh, that was at my FDIL's shower'

'oh, which one is she?'

'she's not in the picture'

'o......kaaaaaay. that's kinda weird'

lol.....i can see how'd you'd be upset though....totally talk to FH....make sure it's not an intentional snub. see what he says.

Did you take any pics with them too? Or they didn't want you in their picture?

Are you sure it wasn't just that they were happy to be at such a fun occasion and didn't want to bother you since you were busy with your mom and BMs?

I can see how upset you are by what you say and I wasn't there to hear their attitude so I can't know how rude it was or if they meant to be high and mighty and hurtful. Just reading your story I don't really get it, though. They took a picture of their side of the family generations at your shower to memorialize the lovely time they had as they welcome you into the family. At least that's how it read to me. I must be way off. Sorry!!

I hope it works out and you feel better!

I would be a little peeved about that....I really dont like things like that. I would be pissed off also if i were you.

Here is the part I don't get...
FH SIL and HER mother?????

Why is FH SIL more important than you? I'm lost and bewildered. You totally should have been in that pic.

Ehh.. I wouldn't say anythign about it though. I'd probably let it go. It's strange and odd and thoughtless but saying anything most likely won't change anything. And all in all it is just a picture. That's just me though.

I do agree with you and understand why you are upset over it. At least your cake make it in though!!! So dumb!!

Yea I'd probably laugh at the stupidity of it over actually saying something.

Did they purposely tell you to not be in it? Could you just have walked over to be in the pic?