Can you f'in believe this?!!??! Edited...bc it got even worse
Original post by smrsun
Well firstly, My sister threw me the most amazing bridal shower at Milk and Sugar! It was more than I could ask for!
Here's the kicker...that made everyone take a 2nd look and go'W T F'. Besides FSIL having an attitude the whole time and even FMIL having a slight attitude throughout the shower....... after we took some pics of me and my BMs and a pic of me and my mom and sister by the fireplace and presents.... all of FH's family grouped together behind my shower cake to take a family photo of 3 generations (as FMIL voiced loudly) It was FH's grandma, FMIL, FSIL, FH's SIL and her mother, and FH's 2 neices.....all standing behind my cake taking a picture! I was beyond hurt and felt so disrespected that they made a spectacle and did NOT even ask me to be in the picture, it is my shower and all and I would hope that I am welcomd into the family. I seriously looked in amazement and shock at what was going on. I could not believe that they could be so rude and disrespectful to me. A few people even came up to me to ask if I was OK, but I must have had a look of shock! I don't even know how to approach this. I'm waiting to see when FMIL shows me pics and then I may tell her how hurt I was with that.
I seriously can not believe how horrible people can be
Edited: I decided not to mention anything to FH when he got home from work. SO he stopped by his parents house to pick up our RSVPs......well I got a knot in my stomach and a weird feeling....and when he got home he was visably upset. Apparently...his mom told him all the nonsense that went on throughout the shower...before, during..blah, blah, blah...all from her point of view (ehich excludes all the nonsense she has done). and then his dad said my mom had an attitude. SO FH is upset, does not not how our families can get along....and has barely talked to me and is still in bed right now, that i had to call up the RH to reschedule our final menu that was supposed to be today. I am so upset right now and don't know what to do. I'm scared to say anything to my mom or sister bc I don't want this to get worse. A month before the wedding and everything is going to sh. it I am beyond upset.
tinadansr
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UGH IL's 's
geegee827
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Wow! That's really all I can say - Wow!
I wish I had advice for you.
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That is beyond messed up!!! I would totally say something to my DH but I have absolutely no filter and I don't keep anything to myself so I am not necessarily the best person to go by... However I will say this, this behavior needs to be nipped in the bud asap if you are marrying into this family so maybe it is best if he/you address this with them now before it gets out of control later on? Once you guys are married and children which may or may not come into the picture these childish games have to be brought to an end.. I am sorry you had to deal with that!
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Wow thats beyond mean...
But from recent events (even today) that are leading to my wedding, I have learned to let it go because its kind of what people want. To take away from YOUR day... because some people are just... and pardon my language please... A$$es
(Sorry super annoyed myself today and just cant believe so many people arelike this!)
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ugh....they're just going to look like the idiots tho...i can picture a conversation.
'so, where was this picture taken? so lovely with all the generations...blah, blah, blah'
'oh, that was at my FDIL's shower'
'oh, which one is she?'
'she's not in the picture'
'o......kaaaaaay. that's kinda weird'
lol.....i can see how'd you'd be upset though....totally talk to FH....make sure it's not an intentional snub. see what he says.
omg thats sooo true!! how are they going to explain that one?
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Edited the top bc its sad to say this has gotten worse
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OMG did you tell him your side of it? I can't stand family members that need drama and attention!
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I am so sorry. It is so unfair for them to treat you this way. Hopefully when FH wakes up you can sit down with him and explain what happened.
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I just read the edited part and I want to scream for you.. UGH..
You need to tell FH your side of the story as well and tell him how upset you were with what they did. If it were me I would also call up his mother and talk to her about this.. tell her how upset you were at her behavior as well.. and explain yourself if need be. Don't let her think you are just going to ignore everything that she does from now on. Call her out on it.
Everytime I read something like this I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful FMIL. I am sorry you have to deal with this.. but I promise it will work out. Just make sure FH knows how you feel too!!
and tell his mother to shove it.
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So sorry to hear that things have gotten worse. You need to talk to FH and calmly tell him what happened ... your 'side' if you will. Don't point a finger at his family, just tell him what happened as factually as possible and how it made you feel.
HTH!
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Posted by JennyAPH
I just read the edited part and I want to scream for you.. UGH..
You need to tell FH your side of the story as well and tell him how upset you were with what they did. If it were me I would also call up his mother and talk to her about this.. tell her how upset you were at her behavior as well.. and explain yourself if need be. Don't let her think you are just going to ignore everything that she does from now on. Call her out on it.
Everytime I read something like this I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful FMIL. I am sorry you have to deal with this.. but I promise it will work out. Just make sure FH knows how you feel too!!
and tell his mother to shove it.
I agree. Now is the time to say something!! I didn't realize there was more to the story or that FMIL was actually upset over something.
Honestly you need to talk to FH as well. Don't let this family nonesense come between you guys!!!!
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That's terrible what happened. I would definitely go and have a talk with FMIL. It is better to talk it out and resolve it than to keep up all these feeling. Godd Luck
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This all sounds ridiculous to me. I don't understand who these people are who are so full of themselves they are not celebrating this incredibly joyous occasion!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There are battles to choose in life, and fighting your inlaws is not one of them. Never. It only causes division.
You and your FH love each other, and none of this family stuff should be getting in the way of that.
Your families do not have to be friends. They don't have to even like each other. They never need to hang out, then never need to write each other, or call.
All they have to do is love YOU and be excited about and pleasant at the wedding.
Period.
Tell FH that you love him and you love his mother (even if you don't) and that you're sure everything will work (even if you're not). Move forward with your planning and get back on track. You'll both feel a lot better.
Don't let these negative nellies drag you down!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted by springsandra
This all sounds ridiculous to me. I don't understand who these people are who are so full of themselves they are not celebrating this incredibly joyous occasion!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There are battles to choose in life, and fighting your inlaws is not one of them. Never. It only causes division.
You and your FH love each other, and none of this family stuff should be getting in the way of that.
Your families do not have to be friends. They don't have to even like each other. They never need to hang out, then never need to write each other, or call.
All they have to do is love YOU and be excited about and pleasant at the wedding.
Period.
Tell FH that you love him and you love his mother (even if you don't) and that you're sure everything will work (even if you're not). Move forward with your planning and get back on track. You'll both feel a lot better.
Don't let these negative nellies drag you down!!!!!!!!!!!
Well said Sandra!!! Im sorry you have to deal with this
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Sorry things got worse. You should definitely talk to him.
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WOW! All I can say is WOW. I am so terribly sorry that you have to deal with this.
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So sorry that this is all happening to you right now. I agree with everyone that you should calmly tell FH your side of the events that occurred. I would also express the love you have for him and his family.
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Aw..Im so sorry for you. I know how it feels when nobody listens to your side of the story. I hope everything paases over, dont let this put a damper on your wedding. Everything will be ok.
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im so sorry u r going through this....dont mind fh right now..he is just upset that the woman he loves and his family are fihting and hes in the middle...i hope for everyones sake his side shapes up in time for the wedding cause no matter how they feel about u or this marriage it is going to happen and they need to be good for his and your sake
fh will come around dont worry..just give him a day or 2
