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Can you f'in believe this?!!??! Edited...bc it got even worse

Original post by smrsun

Well firstly, My sister threw me the most amazing bridal shower at Milk and Sugar! It was more than I could ask for!

Here's the kicker...that made everyone take a 2nd look and go'W T F'. Besides FSIL having an attitude the whole time and even FMIL having a slight attitude throughout the shower.......
after we took some pics of me and my BMs and a pic of me and my mom and sister by the fireplace and presents....
all of FH's family grouped together behind my shower cake to take a family photo of 3 generations (as FMIL voiced loudly) It was FH's grandma, FMIL, FSIL, FH's SIL and her mother, and FH's 2 neices.....all standing behind my cake taking a picture!
I was beyond hurt and felt so disrespected that they made a spectacle and did NOT even ask me to be in the picture, it is my shower and all and I would hope that I am welcomd into the family. I seriously looked in amazement and shock at what was going on. I could not believe that they could be so rude and disrespectful to me. A few people even came up to me to ask if I was OK, but I must have had a look of shock!
I don't even know how to approach this. I'm waiting to see when FMIL shows me pics and then I may tell her how hurt I was with that.

I seriously can not believe how horrible people can be


Edited: I decided not to mention anything to FH when he got home from work. SO he stopped by his parents house to pick up our RSVPs......well I got a knot in my stomach and a weird feeling....and when he got home he was visably upset.
Apparently...his mom told him all the nonsense that went on throughout the shower...before, during..blah, blah, blah...all from her point of view (ehich excludes all the nonsense she has done). and then his dad said my mom had an attitude.
SO FH is upset, does not not how our families can get along....and has barely talked to me and is still in bed right now, that i had to call up the RH to reschedule our final menu that was supposed to be today. I am so upset right now and don't know what to do. I'm scared to say anything to my mom or sister bc I don't want this to get worse.
A month before the wedding and everything is going to sh. it I am beyond upset.
caper24 Posted:

Re: Can you f'in believe this?!!??! Edited...bc it got even worse

I really don't understand people sometimes. I know many girls have responded to you and said what I am going to say....all that has transpired reflects negatively on THEM, NOT you. They look like jealous troublemakers....while you, however, have taken the high road and said nothing to your FH to make them look bad, etc. THEY are the ones telling stories to him, not you.
I say, continue to take the high road, NO MATTER how much it kills you inside, lol. You can stop the he-said, she-said circle, by simply not saying anything at all. Being ignored bugs troublemakers more than anything! These people are dying for you to give them some negative attention, don't play their game, you are better.
I am sorry for you I know it is difficult enough having new in laws, it's even worse if they are mean spirited. Ugh, wish I could say more to help.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted:

Re: Can you f'in believe this?!!??! Edited...bc it got even worse

wow... i am sooooo sorry you are going through this!!! your fh needs to hear your side of the story as well... people are so goddam immature, its insane! unfortunately not all families can mesh well... all you can hope for at this point is that they can try to tolerate one another...

i hope over the next month, things get a bit better for ya! the fam's quarrels are prob the most upsetting to the bride and groom and they should have enough damn courtesy to push feelings aside and act like adults

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