Can you girls help, im embarassed to even post this...
Original post by madseason
I am not in the highest of esteems lately...
So my shower is saturday (if anyone else would like to come FM me - some LIW girls are coming!) and I dont have anything to wear. And that doesnt sound like a problem to many of you, but it is to me. I have ALOT of anxiety when looking for clothes. My outfts are years old, because Its really difficult for me to go and buy something.
I look in the mirror and I see this beautiful girl, who isnt even as big as she really is - but when i walk into a store, i freeze, get sweaty 0 my heart races and then I cant buy anything. I am weird sizes bc I have a Tiny waste and big hips, small boobs and not so flattering arms. I am small too, im only 5'2' so im a pear..I had a great friend try to take me shopping once and she picked out wonderful things and I couldnt do it. Its just so painful for me.
So I have my shower and I want to wear something nice - but I am so afraid. I am going to put this off till friday night at 8pm and make it worse. I really dont know what to do, what to look for.
I dont know how to shop. Can anyone help me find something that will be flattering to my figure?
Espo22
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i have arm issues too and something like this would cover the top part of your arms which ones thats covered the rest looks fine. And the will emphasize your waist and fit well on your hips since it comes down straight
i think this is cute too but not sure if it is your style. I think a small waist and having some hips is a good thing, you have an hour glass figure so flaunt it girl, dont be ashamed of it bc there is nothing wrong with it
this might be too long though if youre short so if you do wear anything this length then dont wear any shoes with ankle straps, infact any shoe that leaves the top of your foot as bare as possible so it gives you this continuous long line from your legs to your feet
or maybe a top like this with a nice pair of pants or pencil skirt
whats a pencil skirt? I am fashionally challenged....would my tabletop hips fit in there? I think im afraid of my curves
hold on ill get a pic for you but OMG DONT stop being afraid of your curves. Havent you heard most guys say they like an hour glass figure on a girl. Guys love hips and a small waist, why do you think guys look at maxim and not magazines like vogue and stuff like that. Most guys i know dont like that and thats why they have separate magazines for men bc the girls look alot different than fashion models with no curves
Espo22
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this is a pencil skirt, basically its a little bit longer and comes straight down
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If you want to wear a dress, go with A-line or a wrap dress. Whenever I go shopping, I have to try on like 20 things before I find something I like. Definitely attack the dept. stores first, they will have the biggest selection. Also, you don't necessarily have to go with a dress. There's lots of cute fuller skirts out now that can disguise bigger hips if that is what you are afraid of. Pair it with a cute sweater or cardigan, and maybe belt that to draw attn to a small waist. Just remember that everyone has something they feel self consious about, but it never looks as bad to others as it does to yourself.
Also - put on some Spanx, apply some self tanner, and wear make up, it makes you look better in the gross store lighting that washes everyone out!
madseason
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Where do you live? I'll gladly make you my human barbie doll and take you shopping!
Im in Selden Heather!
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Aww...Lindsay - U are Gorgeous!!! Please dont stress about this....I know that JC Penny's has a lot of dresses to choose from and they are not expensive. I really like the grey shirt-dress that was posted. Any kind of a cap sleeve should really help you with your 'uncomfortableness' with your arms. And your Tiny waist must be accentuated! Pick a really cute and colorful belt to go with a plain black shirt-dress and some colorful heals to match - U will look like a million bucks!! I Love to shop and I am really good at it! LOL - if you need a shopping buddy - U can def. call on me!
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Also - All of the stores right now have those short sleeved sweater/cotton cardigans to go over outfits - Look for one of those!!
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yaay were sharing a 'rainy' weekend!! my showers on sunday!!
i would say dont put it off till the last min!!! take a deep breath and try not to worry.. your a beautiful woman!!!
GO TO KOHLS!!! thats my advice they have amazing clothes for all shapes and sizes and everything always looks nice!!!! take someone with you who can help ease the anxiety!!!
Good luck no matter what you do your going to look beautiful cuz your the BRIDE!!
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Posted by Annoulak
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Can I be honest - I dont think i can ever wear that - my arms are gigantic - like they make me sick - and Im scared of patterns...Im a piece of work
and i dont know why im scared of that - i would go for soemthign that was plain black.
Can i wear pants? Is that an option? I want tolook cute and think of it in my head but when im face to face i chicken out - like I am right now
Ok, how about THIS : Faux Wrap Shirt Dress $79.00 Stretch poplin shirt dress with point collar and faux wrap. Two button flap patch pockets at chest. Flared self-fabric tie attached at side. Pleated detail at tie. Ruching details at shoulders. Cap sleeves with banded self-fabric cuffs. Seaming detail. A-line silhouette. Hidden side-zip. 35' length.
Plus, I saw photos of you in your album...your arms are not as huge as you think they are. But I know that it's a self-perception issue, so if you don't feel comfortable in a sleeve-less dress, that's fine. Just don't think that there's nothign out there for you
that will look soooo nice on you!!!!
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hi lindsay-first of all you are so beautiful!! i can relate to your self-image issues though...my favorite store ever is WHITE HOUSE BLACK MARKET...check them out-there is one is smithhaven mall
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I know how you feel. I have a HUGE stomach and i'm so self conscious about it. I bought an empire waist dress with a v neck line so it doesnt show off my tummy. I also did a pattern that close together so it doesnt make me look big.
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