cancelled wedding

Brielle Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:30 PM

cancelled wedding

I have been on this bored for awhile now, but have been more of a reader than a poster. You all always have great advice and I am hoping someone has some for me right now. My June 7, 2003 wedding has been called off tonight. I have so many things going through my mind right now I don't know where to begin. I did a search and found the proper way to notify everyone, but I am not sure what I do with the gifts I recieved at my Bridal shower. I assume I give them back...but how? It's so humilating.

I'm sorry that one of my few posts had to be such a depressing one...but I don't even know where to begin right now.

Thanks so much, any advice is appreciated.

dubliner Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:34 PM

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I'm sorry but I don't know the correct protocal for returning gifts - but I wanted to say I am sorry you had to cancel your wedding, and I wish you the best for the future

Boop2704 Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:35 PM

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I really can't help you with what to do, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry and I hope everything works out for you.

jags77 Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:35 PM

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I am sorry to hear this. FM me if you need to talk.

You could have a family member or friend return the gifts you received at the shower. I don't think you need to be the one going around doing this- people will understand.

Take care.

Olgaki Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:35 PM

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If you can't handle it, your mom/sister/moh can take care of that stuff for you. I'm so sorry to hear that the wedding has been called off - just be strong and everything will be ok

swags1016 Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:36 PM

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I am so sorry that you are going through this. I do not know that correct procedure for returning gifts. I just wanted to pass on hugs to you

juju Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:37 PM

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I am so sorry! I am sure the last thing you should worry about are the gifts. I don't have enough information. But maybe your mother could handle your families gifts and also, have a family member or friend go to your ex's home to deliver the gifts which were given by his family.

juju Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:38 PM

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Feel Better and Take Care

cutsabutton Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:40 PM

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You shouldn't worry about that right now...I'm sure your friends and family won't be thinking about those presents...they'll be more concerned about your welfare. If you need anything, FM me. I wish I could be of more help. Take care...

Brielle Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:49 PM

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Thank you all, your words are comforting. You are right, I am sure my sister and bm's will help me. I am just overwhelmed and getting ahead of myself. I appreciate all your responses. Especially that no one even knows me on this bored. You are all so nice.

Marcela1654 Posted: Apr 24, 2003 10:49 PM

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I'm so sorry I agree with the girls, don't worry about that right now. Take care of yourself first. When you are ready, I would have my mom, friends, etc. take care of giving the gifts back. Good Luck and take care

dgtlsunshine Posted: Apr 24, 2003 11:03 PM

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I am sorry to hear the news.

I just wanted to say that if any of my friends called off their wedding I would not want the gifts back.

I mean really what would I do with it.

Take care of YOU right now. The gifts are the least to your true friends.

aliasPook Posted: Apr 24, 2003 11:05 PM

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True friends and family will understand...

jennbaby Posted: Apr 24, 2003 11:07 PM

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I am so sorry & I wish you all the best

RichsBride Posted: Apr 24, 2003 11:10 PM

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I was engaged when I was younger & decided not to get married about 10 weeks before the wedding. The invites were just about to go out. I hadn't had my shower yet but I had received some gifts that I registered for from relatives. Everything was unopened because I was living w/my parents. I wrote a note to each person that had sent a gift, thanking them & giving a short explaination & my Mom returned them to everyone. My parents called everyone except close relatives & friends as well. I called them myself. I also called some of my Fi's family because I was afraid he'd make me out to be evil.
It was a very sad time in my life & I felt terrible that my parents had to tell everyone, but shorlty after I got over that i was so relieved that I didn't marry the wrong person. Nobody in my family ever brought it up again.
Stay strong, this must be a hard time for you. You'll get throught it.
Kelly

b2b0803 Posted: Apr 24, 2003 11:15 PM

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I'm really sorry to hear about your wedding. Don't worry about the gifts right now, no one will be concerned with that. They'll be more concerned about you.

Brielle Posted: Apr 24, 2003 11:35 PM

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Richsbride-Thank you. It definetley helps to hear someone else went through a similiar situation and survived it. My entire future has just been changed and its very unsettling to say the least. I have so many emotions about it. But reading your post was encouraging for me, and I'm sure I will look back one day and know this was for the best...just as you have. Thanks again!

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted: Apr 25, 2003 12:12 AM

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I'm so sorry. We are all hear when you need us

JuneBabyBride Posted: Apr 25, 2003 12:45 AM

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Like everyone has told me so it must be true, you will get over this and be better off. I just called off my wedding a few days ago and even though I am upset b/c it was what I wanted, he isn't changing and I am only going to regret it down the road. I wish you the best of luck and am here for you if yoiu need to talk. Good luck.