My fiance and i are planning to get married in a catholic church. His time off (at home) is limited with his job and ot. So, does anyone know if both B & G are to be confirmed and have done their communion or just B or G. Also, i haven't rec'd any call backs from the priest to confirm a meeting etc etc. What should i do! I'm open to just having the ceremony at the reception venue! Decisions decisions!
If you're open to having the ceremony at the RH, and you don't both have all your sacraments, it might be the easiest (and possibly cheapest) way to go. You'll save on floral, and you won't really need limo's.
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It really depends on the church... My FH has NO sacraments at all and they are still allowing us to get married in a catholic ceremony at my church w/o taking any classes but precana. But from what I hear most churches still require you both to have you sacraments and we got lucky.
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which holy cross is that! Sorry i checked your page since you didn't mention what church it is? I'm interested. Let me know
Thanks
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You have to have either no sacraments (not be catholic ) or have all. For example if B has all, then G doesnt have to have any if he's not catholic. However, if he is catholic and had any of the sacraments then he needs to have all of them. I am pretty sure thats how every church is. You dont have to be catholic to be married in a church to someone that is catholic. But you cant be catholic and not have recieved all the sacraments.
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It really depends on the church if you have to have both done. Normally you would, but if you explain the circumstances to your church i'm sure they will be understanding.
Our priest was very nice with us about this, FH isn't comfirmed, he teaches during the day and takes masters classes at night so it would be almost impossible for him to go to weekly classes on top of that. So our priest is giving him a book to read, is going to have us meet with him 3 extra times to discuss confirmation and will confirm him during a regular mass a month before our wedding.
Find out if your church will do this, it's best to talk to the priest directly and be honest, some will even marry you and tell him to do if afterwards.
Good Luck
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For a ceremony, most CC with let it slide with sacrements. But you need bapt/conf proof for a Mass. I just went through this, cause we couldn't find FH confirmation certificate.
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Parish of the holy cross in Nesconset... Or maybe thats smithtown... Somewhere in that area... its off gibbs pond road... wow I should probably know what town that is shouldnt I? lol.
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Only one of the two has to be a Catholic (having received confirmation)....as long as one of you are Catholic and promise to raise your kids Catholic, then you will be able to get married in the church
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both b and g have to have all sacraments
Not necessarily....I have made all my sacraments but FH was only baptized. We thought this was a problem but the priest said it wasn't for two reasons: 1) He is a practicing catholic and 2) We plan to raise our children Catholic.
It took forever for the church to call me back too. Don't worry, they will.
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My FH is Catholic but I'm protestant and not even baptised. Our priest says not problem. He's young and cool and just out of the seminary. I don't think he really knows what he's doing and I'm reaaly grateful for that! I would much rather have the ceremony at the hall but this is my gift to FH because he really wants it but I don't take alot of nonsense so they better not badger me at pre-cana or it will not go well.
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You have to have either no sacraments (not be catholic ) or have all. For example if B has all, then G doesnt have to have any if he's not catholic. However, if he is catholic and had any of the sacraments then he needs to have all of them. I am pretty sure thats how every church is. You dont have to be catholic to be married in a church to someone that is catholic. But you cant be catholic and not have recieved all the sacraments.
I believe this is how it goes. Not absolutely positive tho I also think each parish is different in what they require
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FH is baptized not confirmed.... I have had all sacraments. Priest will marry us either way, but FH wants to be confirmed... no problems.
Our priest took weeks to call us back, but now it's all good... don't worry they'll get back to you. I, too, went crazy about all this church stuff! So far though it's been the easiest part of our wedding planning.
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Okay, i have to clarify because you are getting a LOT of misinformation on this thread.
you don't state what your particular situation is, so i am not sure exactly what you're asking.
but to answer one of your questions, you can't just be a bride and groom. at least ONE of the people must be a Catholic.
ideally, in a Catholic wedding, both are full Catholics with the first 4 Sacraments received: baptism, communion, reconciilation and Confirmation.
However, many Catholics marry non-Catholics (even a Protestant), hence an inter-faith ceremony. If that is your case, you need to meet with a priest, there are some additional steps, but nothing that can't be done, provided you complete Pre-Cana and the inter-faith dispensation (priest does). In this case, the Catholic must have all Sacraments.
If both are Catholic, they must both have been baptized, and I believe at least one must be confirmed. Both bride and groom must have received Communion for a Nuptial Mass, you cannot have Mass at your wedding unless you have both received Communion.
Does this help??? And it's not about finding a new priest or a 'liberal' priest, these are the rules.
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Also, if both are Catholic (doesnt matter if all sacraments have been fulfilled- just that both are Catholic), the diocese will not allow a ceremony to be performed by a priest outside of a Church... however if 1 is Catholic and the other is not, they will allow a priest to perform a ceremony at a RH, etc.
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The church that I had attended all my life, never called me back after more than 5 calls, and was told my FH needed to have all his sacraments. I called another catholic church in my town and the priest was very nice. He said the only thing that we needed was 1 of us to have been baptized in the catholic church. FH is babtized, but no sacraments. I have all of them. So if you do not get the answer you want from that church try somewhere else if it means a lot to you to get married at the church.
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You have to have either no sacraments (not be catholic ) or have all. For example if B has all, then G doesnt have to have any if he's not catholic. However, if he is catholic and had any of the sacraments then he needs to have all of them. I am pretty sure thats how every church is. You dont have to be catholic to be married in a church to someone that is catholic. But you cant be catholic and not have recieved all the sacraments.
very true, i am not catholic but was married in a catholic church. HOWEVER, even though i wasn't catholic they still wanted to see that i did have all the things done that i needed for my religion. I am christian orthodox so it is still part of christianity. They asked me for my baptismal certificate to make sure i was baptised. Then when we had to go to the church to give my baptismal certificate, he asked what religion i was and i told him. He knew that in my religion we dont have confirmation, communion or any of that. When we get baptised you get all your sacraments done then and there, dont have to do anything else later on in life. So yes although i wasnt catholic i was able to get married in a catholic church, but they also made sure i did do the requirements of my own religion.
but if you both are catholic then most catholic churches expect both of you to have done all your sacraments. Ive seen quite a few girls or their FH's having to do confirmation or one of those things now in order to get married. Im sure theres some churches, by looking at this thread where you might not have to do this.
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I am gettin married in a catholic church and i have all my sacerments but my FH has not made his confirmation and it is no problem. The said as long as he made his baptism then we are good to go... :)
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wow lady's thanks for all your posts and it's greatly appreciated. There are many views and i'm taking all into consideration. I guess once I speak to priest (whenever that might be, hopefully sooner than not), i'll have the actual answer. I'm catholic with all sacraments, my fh as well is catholic but was only baptized. I'm hoping the priest/church is lenient.
