catholic girls getting married in church

HM807 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 09:58 PM

catholic girls getting married in church

How much will you tip your alter boys and priest?

DnJ0809 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:02 PM

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We're not having a Mass so I don't know if we're even going to need alter kids... and for the priest... I didn't know we were supposed to.

kristen1226 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:02 PM

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We won't be tipping the priest because he is a family friend, but we will probably tip the altar boys like $20 each.

HM807 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:05 PM

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We arent doing a mass but we will have alter boys. I figured 20 each is good... but priest... I mean i feel weird tipping, but I also feel weird NOT tipping!

kimmaymb20 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:08 PM

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$20 should be plenty

kristen1226 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:08 PM

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I really don't think that you have to. I personally never would have thought to tip him. I think the altar boys deserve it because they are taking time out of their days to do it - but its the priest's job LoL

JamDancer Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:23 PM

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we aren't having a full mass so I don't think we even have altar boys... but I thought it was bad etiquette to tip the priest bc it is like an insult to their duty or something

AlisonMZ14 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:35 PM

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Are you sure that its even customary to tip if the service is in the church?

kimmaymb20 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:35 PM

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no tip for the priest

IrishBrideASmiling Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:37 PM

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I dont think you are supposed to tip them...not sure if even accepting a tip is against their vows or what not. If you want to send a gift or something like that, im sure that would be ok.

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:44 PM

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Posted by AlisonMZ14

Are you sure that its even customary to tip if the service is in the church?

Yes it is. I know this b.c the boys in my family have always been alter servers.

To answer the question. $20.00 per alter server is fine... I'm still trying to figure out how much I'm giving the priest as well... maybe $100??

gbrwneyez1581 Posted: Apr 13, 2009 10:50 PM

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Hi Twin! I am not tipping the priest. I am just tipping the alter boys to pick up the runner and the flowers. I feel like the Donation is way too much, since it is a donation. I am also not doing a mass, just the ceremony

lanamanitta Posted: Apr 13, 2009 11:23 PM

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Posted by gbrwneyez1581

Hi Twin! I am not tipping the priest. I am just tipping the alter boys to pick up the runner and the flowers. I feel like the Donation is way too much, since it is a donation. I am also not doing a mass, just the ceremony

Ditto, no tip for the priest, my 'donation' is high enough, along with my music costs. I won't have altar servers, no mass.

There are enough other tips to give out, to workers for vendors!!!

Jess and Jon Posted: Apr 14, 2009 07:15 AM

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MY cousin gave $100 to our family priest as a tip and you need to tip the alter servers too! $20 should be fine!

tgrlily339 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 08:58 AM

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Damn I thought my $800 'Donation' for a 20 minute ceremony was all I had to shell out! lol Dont think I will have alter boys though... Just my deacon..but this raises another tipping question... Do I have to tip the musician that the church gave me then??

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 09:03 AM

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Posted by b2b777

We arent doing a mass but we will have alter boys. I figured 20 each is good... but priest... I mean i feel weird tipping, but I also feel weird NOT tipping!

I'm pretty sure we're getting married in the same church... my sister tipped the alter servers $20 each but the priest wouldn't accept the tip so don't worry about that. I'm going to tip the alter servers $20 and not even offer the priest something else since I know he won't take it.

HM807 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 09:27 AM

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

Posted by b2b777

We arent doing a mass but we will have alter boys. I figured 20 each is good... but priest... I mean i feel weird tipping, but I also feel weird NOT tipping!

I'm pretty sure we're getting married in the same church... my sister tipped the alter servers $20 each but the priest wouldn't accept the tip so don't worry about that. I'm going to tip the alter servers $20 and not even offer the priest something else since I know he won't take it.

Good to know. Thanks!
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MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 09:37 AM

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Posted by b2b777

Posted by MrsDtoBe09

Posted by b2b777

We arent doing a mass but we will have alter boys. I figured 20 each is good... but priest... I mean i feel weird tipping, but I also feel weird NOT tipping!

I'm pretty sure we're getting married in the same church... my sister tipped the alter servers $20 each but the priest wouldn't accept the tip so don't worry about that. I'm going to tip the alter servers $20 and not even offer the priest something else since I know he won't take it.

Good to know. Thanks!
10 days to go. I will be sure to give you my full review of WM.

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BCM2009 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:07 PM

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I actually asked my priest about this b/c he's a close family friend. Priests should not be tipped, they are administering a sacrament they're not a vendor. Nobody tiips them at Communions and confirmations (also sacraments) so marriage is the same.

It is recommended to tip alter boys b/c they are volunteering and they're kids and giving up part of their day off.

lolalovesacroat Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:49 PM

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Posted by BarbieGrl10

Posted by AlisonMZ14

Are you sure that its even customary to tip if the service is in the church?

Yes it is. I know this b.c the boys in my family have always been alter servers.

To answer the question. $20.00 per alter server is fine... I'm still trying to figure out how much I'm giving the priest as well... maybe $100??

I agree I feel you need to give them something, priest included.