Changing name??

shortiroc127 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 10:42 AM

Changing name??

I'm just curious, how many of you are changing your last name? I was just assuming I'd add his on at the end, but not drop my name. No hyphen, just a space...almost like making my last name another middle name. I'm a teacher, and I really couldn't imagine the kids calling me anything else!!

Now, FH was fine with me using MY last name for work, and his for everything else, but when I mentioned last night the idea of just adding his to mine and not actually dropping mine, he was really offended! Why?? I don't get it. Is anyone else having this dilemma?

FutureMrsF2010 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 10:56 AM

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I'm immediately changing my last name for everything except work. At work, I'm going to hyphenate it for a little while then change it totally.

Its going to be very strange and a little sad to just wake up one day and not be 'me' anymore. My family is all girls, no boy cousins either, so my last name will be gone after me and my sisters and that makes it even sadder.

amandah75 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 11:05 AM

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I mentioned hyphenating my name and it did not go over well at all. I love my last name and I'm proud of it (successful family business) but he was really offended that I wouldn't take his name on fully. We're still discussing it, but I think it really upsets him.

FutureMrsF2010 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 11:13 AM

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Posted by amandah75

I mentioned hyphenating my name and it did not go over well at all. I love my last name and I'm proud of it (successful family business) but he was really offended that I wouldn't take his name on fully. We're still discussing it, but I think it really upsets him.

FH is bothered by the fact that I'm even keeping my last name for a little bit at work. I bought up even keeping my last name as a middle name and it did not go over well. He too, feels offended that I would even consider not taking his name 100%. But, I love him, he's a great guy and he never asks anything of me except this, so I'm going to respect him on it.

CloudNine Posted: Jul 27, 2008 11:25 AM

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i have all intentions of changing my last name, his name is so much easier than mine. its funny because my family has a business and i never thought about that, that now i wont be as assopciated cuz my last name is different..hmmm

LouMar2010 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 11:46 AM

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i love my last name, but i am going to change it to his name when we get married. i thought about keeping both, but each of our last names have 10 letters in them so i thik thats going overboard.

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 11:50 AM

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I love my last name and dont want to drop it. I was thinking of hypinating it but havent really decided yet.

Goldie39 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 12:41 PM

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I am going to either hypinate or add it on but I haven't totally decided because it's sooo confusing to me (although I know i'm just making it harder for myself. I really love my last name. My family is a crazy bunch and i'm proud of that. When something happens I'm always like, 'I'm a ____, and ___'s don't take that!' it's stupid, but it's part of who I am.

amandah75 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 12:57 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsF2010

Posted by amandah75

I mentioned hyphenating my name and it did not go over well at all. I love my last name and I'm proud of it (successful family business) but he was really offended that I wouldn't take his name on fully. We're still discussing it, but I think it really upsets him.

FH is bothered by the fact that I'm even keeping my last name for a little bit at work. I bought up even keeping my last name as a middle name and it did not go over well. He too, feels offended that I would even consider not taking his name 100%. But, I love him, he's a great guy and he never asks anything of me except this, so I'm going to respect him on it.

Yeah, the fact that he's so excited about the wedding and me taking his last name, I feel bad saying no. Like you said, love him to death and he doesn't ask for much.

Rosa29 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 01:20 PM

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I am changing my last name...because it would be way to long if I hyphenated it ( 2 very long Italian last names). I am going to gradually change my name at work b/c I am a teacher and they probably will always call me by my maiden name!

eternitybride Posted: Jul 27, 2008 01:23 PM

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I will be changing my name, not sure about professionally yet, but for the most part changing my name.

JenBill61210 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 02:22 PM

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i will be taking his last name. its common and easy to pronounce (unlike my current last name)

FANCYFACE Posted: Jul 27, 2008 02:44 PM

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I will be taking his last name once we get married. There are no family owned businesses in my family, lol, so I am going the traditional route, but I am a teacher as well so most likely my maiden name will stick for awhile until the kids get used to the new Mrs.

T E R I Posted: Jul 27, 2008 03:38 PM

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Posted by jenny8484

i will be taking his last name. its common and easy to pronounce (unlike my current last name)

same here, eventhough i think i might miss having a little complicated of a last name

Mich2010 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 06:46 PM

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I've considered hyphenating it for work because I do research and have published under this name, but I think I'm just going to switch it all together.

stinenandy2010 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 08:11 PM

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I am definitely changing my last name, it will finally be short! haha!

FH had the opposite reaction, he thought for sure I would kept my name.

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Jul 27, 2008 08:42 PM

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I will changing my name. My last name is a very easy to say last name, but it's long... it's 10 letters. His name... very difficult to pronounce, but also 10 letters. My FH offered to change his name to MY name... but I wanted to be traditional and take his name... so I will. I want to pass his name on to our children.

SummerBride10 Posted: Jul 27, 2008 08:48 PM

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Posted by jenny8484

i will be taking his last name. its common and easy to pronounce (unlike my current last name)

same here!! I've never been crazy about my last name so it doesnt bother me at all.

MrsLarrea2B Posted: Jul 28, 2008 12:24 AM

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Yeah, men get pretty anal over it.

shortiroc127 Posted: Jul 28, 2008 07:35 AM

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Well I'm glad to know I'm not alone out there!! I really thought FH was just losing his mind being so offended. I have full intentions of using his name for everything except work. I'm still undecided. Fortunately I'm not changing initials, so maybe come September I'll just have the kids start calling me Ms. F....I don't know, even that just doesn't sound right. LOL. Does anyone know the rules on this?? Can I legally change my name everywhere but with the dept. of ed?