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I've been thinking about this since I got home from vacation last week and I guess wanted to vent.

I went to Myrtle Beach with my best friend for 4 days, and I guess since it's a major golf place, there were tons of men, MANY of them married, and many of them hitting on us (and I'm not talking casually hitting on us, I'm talking HITTING on us!). It was kind of discouraging and has had me thinking ever since!

THEN, I get an email from a guy that I used to work with, who I dated a while ago and we've kept in touch. He got married in AUGUST (yes, THIS AUGUST!) and wants to 'get together'!!

What the Hell is going on????????????? Here I think I can TOTALLY trust my FH, but how do I know? I;m sure these mens wives think they can trust them too!!!

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I don't know....I have no fear of FH cheating on me. Maybe I'm naive...but I trust him 100000%

People are always going to cheat....men and women alike....there's nothing anyone can do about it. But it doesn't mean tht every man and every woman is going to cheat - or even wants to cheat!

I wouldn't let it get to you too much. Those are people whose situations you don't know...

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Ok, not for nothing Stacy, but you post THIS when I have not heard from JT all day???????????????? (I'm just kidding, by the way.) Um, well, first of all, you're just incredibly irresistable, second of all, I think you just KNOW when you can trust someone. It's the blend between being aware of what is going on in their life when you're not there and just trusting.

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Oh jeez, Rach...I'm sorry! You KNOW there is NOTHING to worry about with JT. As for me being irresistable, Ummmm.....NO!

I really do KNOW that I can trust Jim, it just kinda bummed me out

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it is terrible to see someone cheating on someone else...becuse you just put yourself in the other person's place that is being cheated on....and that is a terrible feeling.

it worries me that people cheat so easily and so often

i'm sure you have nothing to worry about!!!

unless you're as irresistable as rachel claims!!

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I guess that's it...I thought of all these women that kissed their husbands goodbye, told them to have a great trip, and here they are screwing around. SAD

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on the other hand...you never know what they're doing while their husbands are gone......

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very true. That seems to be becoming more and more 'popular'

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i have been through 2 relationships where the men have cheated on me. it took me a long time to trust dh. we were together for 3.5 years before we got engaged. i trust him 1000%. i must say the people my ex's cheated on me with we good friends and i have a real trust issue because of it

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Sorry Mish. Some men are dogs! Luckily, you landed yourself a good one

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3rd times a charm i guess

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With my ex BF i didn't trust him at all (with good reason, I found out later). After FH and I got back together (we were broken up for 6yrs) I just knew that I could trust him 100% and that he would never cheat on me. I have never doubted his faithfulness.

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this is a good topic. FH and I have been together for 8 1/2 years. I was 14 he was 15 when we met. We were Very VERY young. When he graduated he went 'away' (I say it like that cause it was only 45 minutes away in Westchester he came home Every weekend and I would drive up to see him on Tuesdays) Well I started hanging out with his Best friend and Something happened
(we didnt to the nasty...) I start hyperventilating and Called him that second. He didnt talk to me for a couple of days and called me and said he loves me people make mistakes and he loves me for my honesty. To us the most important things in a realtionship are Trust and Honesty. We have always promissed each other that no matter what happened how bad we would tell. I would never do it again (dont believe in that always a cheater cr ap) I have complete trust in him and he with me!!!! He knows how much I hated myself and how much I beat myself up over this!!!!!!!!!! Just think ure FH Loves u and he wouldnt do this. And if he did he would tell u. Now that u guys Hate me think Im gross and think im a Sl ut.... I swear im really not!!!!!!!!! Being engaged and being married are huge things in my mind and TRUST is so important. Even though guys do cheat and so do girls... Just have trust...

Last week at work this kid pulled my arm threw me in the corner and starting kissing my neck... It was so scary..... Thank God I pulled away we were in the basement and no one was around....

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Don't hate you or think anything bad...thanks for your honesty! That's what this is all about

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thanks Stacey It made us so much stronger and made us grow up!! I think I was 17 when this happened.

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It's so funny that you brought this up. I was watching Oprah today and the topic was.... CHEATING!!! She said that based on the research someone cheats in 80% of married couples!!! The people that she had today were all wives who were cheated on by their husbands, but women cheat too. It's amazing to think that the number is that high, but when I think back to couples that I have known I can think of at least 5 or 6 off the top of my head where I know for a fact that one or the other cheated. To take that even farther of those friends that my ex and I had only one couple is still together. The main reason for the divorces??? Cheating!! So I guess the numbers are right. Scary!

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i guess we can both trust each other....
and seriously we see each other everyday in pretty much all our free time, that it would be VERY tough to try.

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80%!!! I guess after last week, it really does NOT surprise me. It is sad and scary though

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same hear Emily we pretty much spend all of our free time 2gether!!

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i have a close freind going through her husband cheating on her. they will be married 6 years in oct. it all started right before there 5th anniversay. another freind cheated on her dh 2 time before they were married and once it was with my boyfriend. i have never cheated. i see no reason.

june262004 - the girl who cheated w/ my ex while we were together i forgave. i did not forgive him i forgave her. the reasons are long, but to me they made sense. since she has been a wonderful supportive friend along with being my MOH last year in my wedding and i was her MOH in hers. there is no way i would think less of you. it happend, it's over you move on and grow from the situation. if your sweetie and you have dealt and moved on who cares.

life is about learning and growing. a realtionship s the same. some grow with each other and some grow apart from each other.

my dh and i have talked relentlessly about this subject because of what our friends are going through. he does not understand why this guy is doing this. they were both in our wedding party last year an seemed so happy with each other.