cheating and still getting married...

cheating and still getting married...

let me preface by saying this story is not about anyone who lives in NY...it is about people who live out of state, so don't worry...it's not about anyone who would post on this board.

FH and i went out a week ago w a group of his friends. there are a few girls in the group who i do not know that well but they are really nice and always include me in their conversations.

so they were talking about an upcoming wedding that one of the girls really doesn't want to go to. she said that the groom has a girlfriend who he claims to be in love with, and he says he is no longer in love with the bride. the wedding is in a month or two, and he is still going through with it.

i asked the girl why he is still marrying her and she said because the wedding is all paid for and he feels like he has to. and he made a comment about all of the money in gifts they are going to get and that he can't pass that up.

can you believe it?!

as much as i love FH and want to spend the rest of my life with him, if i knew that he met someone else and was in love with her and didn't love me anymore i wouldn't want to be with him. it hurts to think of something like that happening, but if it did i would want to know and i wouldn't want to get married.

why would someone do this? i have been really upset ever since i heard this story. i can't imagine someone doing something like that for the GIFTS! what is wrong w people?!?!

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wow thats awful! and i agree...if fh ever cheated, fell in love with someone else, etc,....it would be over regardless! Im too good to be treated like that...plus im better off if i found out before the wedding!

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what is wrong with some people???

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that's terrible...did he forget the rest of his life part? I swear...

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That is a horrible horrible story. I would never be able to marry FH if he did that to me

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Its so disturbing, but it happens. Actually my FMIL was just telling me a story like this about someone she knew. In this case it was the girl that was cheating and still planning her wedding with her FH!!! Can you imagine going to RH's, flowers, music pictures and cheating on your FH the whole time??? It really is beyond me how people can actually do things like that.

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Okay that is BEYOND sick!! You're gonna be stuck in a marriage because you want to get all the china and a toaster off your registry??? It seems that alot of people don't take marriage seriously.

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wow that is ridiculous and pathetic at the same time. he is payin all that money and then excited to receive gifts but he is cheatin on the bride.

and she really has no clue?

this is so sad for her. i feel bad.

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that is just horrible!!! I wouldn't go through with the wedding....why marry someone who you don't even love....you'll waste all the money you got as gifts on your divorce

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Posted by Espo22

that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.

I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.

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I can't believe that!

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it doesnt surprise me that he is going through with it. He is probably feeling some sort of obligation. A girl i knew got phone calls from a girl saying that she and her fiance were dating and in love. They got married, a year later she hired an investigator and they were divorced. People will cheat, they cheat when they are dating and when they are married. I told my FH if he can find someone better than me, he can go with her!! Thats how i feel. If you are not in the relationship 110%, it is never going to work and everyone will be miserable! It is very sad for the girl...

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I went to a wedding like this a few years ago. The groom had been in love with one of my best friends forever, but she had a bf so he met someone else and eventually became engaged. Right before the wedding my friend broke up with her bf and the groom said he would drop his fiance if my frind would give him a chance.

She said no...but there was some fishy stuff going on there- I still think they hooked up (they went away to AC together- shared a room- the fiancee stayed home to work)

The wedding went on, and they are still married...but I hear he's still making passes at my friend...

Oh, the drama......

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wow thats so sad! why get married, when he knows it wont last.... the whole idea of marriage is for it to be (hopefully) forever

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