let me preface by saying this story is not about anyone who lives in NY...it is about people who live out of state, so don't worry...it's not about anyone who would post on this board.
FH and i went out a week ago w a group of his friends. there are a few girls in the group who i do not know that well but they are really nice and always include me in their conversations.
so they were talking about an upcoming wedding that one of the girls really doesn't want to go to. she said that the groom has a girlfriend who he claims to be in love with, and he says he is no longer in love with the bride. the wedding is in a month or two, and he is still going through with it.
i asked the girl why he is still marrying her and she said because the wedding is all paid for and he feels like he has to. and he made a comment about all of the money in gifts they are going to get and that he can't pass that up.
can you believe it?!
as much as i love FH and want to spend the rest of my life with him, if i knew that he met someone else and was in love with her and didn't love me anymore i wouldn't want to be with him. it hurts to think of something like that happening, but if it did i would want to know and i wouldn't want to get married.
why would someone do this? i have been really upset ever since i heard this story. i can't imagine someone doing something like that for the GIFTS! what is wrong w people?!?!
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
I can't believe that!
YEAH BUT the weird part is that he was with the mistress first, they had this thing for years, but he met a girl dated her and married her lol.
did the wife know?? are they still together? thats crazy!!
i hope she didnt know...but there were idiots who screamed stupid **** out, but dont think she ever heard...Actually no they are divorced now
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that is so sad!
but so far i have attended two weddings where one or both of the parties didn't want to get married and it was very obvious - and yet they both went through with it ( in these cases, cheating wasn't involved)
so sad
I tell FH all the time ( half joking) that i would rather he called it off the night before then go through with it. . . I have a unique situation - my FH could NEVER talk about marriage or the future with me until the WEEK before he proposed - he decided he wanted to get married, got a ring and proposed all within ten days. So, this is a big fear of mine - but I told him I would rather a phone call on the way to church then to get married when he didnt want to bc i don't believe in divorce. . .
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
I can't believe that!
YEAH BUT the weird part is that he was with the mistress first, they had this thing for years, but he met a girl dated her and married her lol.
same thing happened to my sister! this guy she was hooking up with for years (she was totally in love with him)...nothing ever serious b/c he didnt want anything...told her like 6 months ago he was engaged and was getting married like 3 months later...and she got an invite to their wedding!...she is planning on telling the now wife...somehow...
Revenge is a dish best served cold!
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
I can't believe that!
YEAH BUT the weird part is that he was with the mistress first, they had this thing for years, but he met a girl dated her and married her lol.
same thing happened to my sister! this guy she was hooking up with for years (she was totally in love with him)...nothing ever serious b/c he didnt want anything...told her like 6 months ago he was engaged and was getting married like 3 months later...and she got an invite to their wedding!...she is planning on telling the now wife...somehow...
Revenge is a dish best served cold!
let us know how that goes
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
I can't believe that!
YEAH BUT the weird part is that he was with the mistress first, they had this thing for years, but he met a girl dated her and married her lol.
same thing happened to my sister! this guy she was hooking up with for years (she was totally in love with him)...nothing ever serious b/c he didnt want anything...told her like 6 months ago he was engaged and was getting married like 3 months later...and she got an invite to their wedding!...she is planning on telling the now wife...somehow...
Revenge is a dish best served cold!
ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!
that is just sick.
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will do! he doesnt realize we have their address and everything...AND he works for Fedex and his truck route now goes to my sisters office! talk about hilarious...she has to see him all the time..
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
I can't believe that!
YEAH BUT the weird part is that he was with the mistress first, they had this thing for years, but he met a girl dated her and married her lol.
I know of someone who did that too!
Actually I have another that will top it all....An aquantance who was involved with a married person for a while started going out with this guy. The new guy and her got engaged. The girl asked her married guy ' friend' (who she wasstill fooling around with) and his wife to be in her wedding party. Fortunately, the wedding was called off!
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
I can't believe that!
YEAH BUT the weird part is that he was with the mistress first, they had this thing for years, but he met a girl dated her and married her lol.
I know of someone who did that too!
Actually I have another that will top it all....An aquantance who was involved with a married person for a while started going out with this guy. The new guy and her got engaged. The girl asked her married guy ' friend' (who she wasstill fooling around with) and his wife to be in her wedding party. Fortunately, the wedding was called off!
People are insane...i dont understand how they go on doing this, i would be a mess
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I would be too. I cheated once on someone in HS because I tried to break it off with him numerous times cuz he was crazy. He wouldnt take no for a answer about me breaking it off. So I decided to cheat on him and make sure that he found out so that he would break it off with me.
The sad part was that I still felt GUILTY doing that to someone. I dont understand how people do it.
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Well FH's friend from the Marine Corps has cheated on his gf (who i am friends with- not the best but we goto lunch and stuff) while he was stationed in San Diego. And not just once- but with 3 different girls and was with each for a couple months at a time. And the worst part we went out to cali together me and the girl to visit my fh and her bf last year and she went to his email and found he sent these girls naked pics of himself and htey sent it back
he made up a F%#@ing ridiculous story that only an idiot would believe- she did- and he got away with it. So now he is stationed in Japan and told my FH last week he cheated on her agian with some other girl. UGHH man
But the best thing is he first tells my FH that he is a waste of *** coming over to Japan cause all the girls want it there and this guy knows my FH wont ever do that!!! ANd the second thing is he tells my FH that 'Oh yeah I will prob go home and propose to his gf within a few months of being home cause i mean hey she stuck with me this long why not get married to her'
OMG!!!!
and i never told her because fh said it wasnt my place and stuff- we had arguments about it but i just never said anything cause we arent the best of friends
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i was part of one of these situations ... before i met FH ... i was hookig up with this guy and yes i admit i like him a lot ... well it turns out he started seeing someone else i was upset but he kept telling me that they werent going out they were just seeing each other ... so we kept hooking up ... well he finally admited to me that he was going out with this person .. i wa so pissed and hurt ... but i must admit that didnt stop me from hooking up with him still .... i did it to proof a point to him and myself that how could he possibly love this girl and still hook up with me ... well it eventually stopped ... but i heard that he was hooking up with someone else after me behind his GF bacl ...now i would never ever cheat on my FH or any BF i feel it was wrong and the guilt alone would kill me and yeah it was wrong of me to be the other woman but it happens ... so anyways he continue dating this chick and I found out he asked her to marry him the same weekend i got engaged !!! i couldnt believe it i never thought he would take the plunge ... i feel kinda guilty now and want to tell the girl everything he did so she at least knows what shes getting into ...
sorry for so long ..
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NOT cool!
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wow, that is messed up. i can see how someone might feel backed into a corner with the wedding approaching so quickly, feeling like they had no choice but to move forward with it... but not because they want the gifts and money!
ew ew ew ew ew.
I have a coworker that called it off a couple weeks before their wedding everything paid for, i commend them for not going through with it, that was the right thing to do..
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I can't believe that - that's really messed up. I totally agree - as much as I love FH, if he found someone else that he loved and didn't love me anymore, I would definitely want to know and there would be no wedding.
I can't believe that - that's really messed up. I totally agree - as much as I love FH, if he found someone else that he loved and didn't love me anymore, I would definitely want to know and there would be no wedding.
i couldnt have said it better myself.
i totally agree.
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thats awful! you would think maybe one of those girls would tell the poor girl so she doesn't get married to that awful guy, poor girl!
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that is horrible, i feel so bad for her.
I know of a similar situation...The guy invited his mistress to the wedding.
