Cheating Poll - Part II

ckgmwedding Posted: Aug 17, 2005 01:33 PM

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Loyalty is too important to me as a value- I would have to end it.

littlebookworm4 Posted: Aug 17, 2005 07:43 PM

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we've had this discussion before and neither one of us would be able to stay together - it would cause a MAJOR trust issue

CalJoe0124 Posted: Aug 17, 2005 10:06 PM

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I would be so paranoid and there would be no trust to me that is what a relationship is built on, I could never live my life thinking what if??
I would be out the door!

palebride Posted: Aug 17, 2005 11:07 PM

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I honestly have no idea how I'd deal with it.
I've never been in the situation, and can't imagine it ever happening...so I dont' know how I'd react!

WedHead Posted: Aug 17, 2005 11:12 PM

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I'd like to say I'd forgive but it'd probably be in his best interest to end it if he ever cheated - because I know I'd resent him and mistrust him for the rest of our lives. No way for either of us to live.

hbradio Posted: Aug 18, 2005 10:01 AM

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Posted by kdelace

I can easily say that if I was still married and that happened, I would leave him, but you never know until you are in the situation itself. I knew a few people like that who were faced with this situation and worked it out. Easier said then done!

I was about to say NO WAY NO HOW I would leave him in a second but I think you are right - you never know until you are in the situation yourself.

Katherine121 Posted: Aug 19, 2005 11:49 AM

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I wasn't married to the guy I'm about to refer to, but I was in a committed relationship, and he cheated. I loved this guy like over the top. We broke up right away. He kept begging me back, begging forgiveness, declaring his love, it was a stupid thing to do, etc. I tried to forgive him and go forward. That lasted a week. I just never saw him the same again.

AJsMommy122 Posted: Aug 19, 2005 06:13 PM

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I can't honestly answer unless I was put into that situation. I don't think I would/could give up on my marriage b/c I took my vows very seriously.... but the disrespect and lack of trust.. I don't know.. even if we did try to work it out I don't think our relationship would ever be the same

BRIDEMICHELE Posted: Aug 25, 2005 02:39 PM

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Once a cheater, always a cheater! If he cheated on me once I'd kick him to the curb.

dita531 Posted: Aug 25, 2005 03:55 PM

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Kris77 Posted: Aug 25, 2005 04:09 PM

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If a man cheats once, he is capable of cheating again, as is any man. All men can cheat if they WANT TO.

I myself could NOT forgive it. Im worth too much for someone to play me. If he wants something else, obviously he does not need me or want me.

And I cant even imagine forgiving someone for cheating, because every time they left the house without me, I would think they were doing it again. That's not the way I would want to live my life.

heidla Posted: Aug 25, 2005 04:11 PM

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I could not get over that betrayal. DH broke up with me a few years ago . We were apart for 6 months and then we got back together. It took a while before I felt I could fully trust him to not hurt me again. If I had difficulty getting over that I know I could never get over him cheating.

kellwolfe Posted: Aug 26, 2005 12:08 PM

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I would end it - if he cheating i have already lost part of him - so i would let the rest go -

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted: Aug 30, 2005 08:38 AM

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I agree with the 'you don't know what you'd do unless it happened to you'. It did happen to me, and I divorced him...HOWEVER, I think that it also varies in different relationships. I don't know that I would leave DH. I want to say that I would, but I don't know

beautyq115 Posted: Aug 30, 2005 10:04 PM

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I could never forgive him or take him back..I would be so disgusted that he had been with someone else that it would eat at me for the rest of my life

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 31, 2005 04:26 PM

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Posted by july06bride

it would be hard to stay, but i put im not sure because until the situation is right in front of my face (and i hope it never ever is) i dont know what i would do.

I know a couple where the man had been cheating for years, they had 3 children together, they worked it out and are doing great

i know another couple where they broke up...

it really all depends on so many factors for me i am not saying i would stay and evertything would perfect, I truly and honesty dont know what i would do and i hope i never have to

I agree with this

Maybride07 Posted: Aug 31, 2005 09:09 PM

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I would def leave. I couldnt live with that because it would always be in the back of my mind.

amore_mia Posted: Sep 06, 2005 12:20 PM

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I'd have to end it cuase he'd be dead!!

But seriously, I couldn't look at him ever the same...it's too insulting to be cheated on ESPECIALLY by a FI or DH...your not kids playing anymore.